You could instantly tell something was wrong - page 3
When she entered the clinic with her husband, you could instantly tell something was wrong. Perhaps it was because her husband answered all the questions directed at her when she was being registered... Read More
8Jun 19, '14 by Ruby Vee, BSN, RNQuote from SmilingBluEyesThe most dangerous time for the woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves or tries to leave. A lot of people don't understand that, even well-meaning people. It's not enough to wake up to the fact that you're in an abusive relationship and decide to leave. You have to have a plan in place. Leaving without a plan is one of the most dangerous things you can do. I left. Without a plan. He almost killed me.There is such a feeling of shame when we are abused. We feel judged if we tell, sometimes. A lot of "why don't you leave"? Or, "why do you put up with it"was lobbed at me so that I kept quiet. T hankfully, with the help of good friends and inner strength, I was able to leave. But it was not easy; he stalked me for over a year afterward, theatening to shoot me or blow up my car. He was trained as an expert marksman in the military and knew about detonating bombs. I was living in hell all that time. It's not easy to leave, trust me. For those who help, God bless you.
I don't want to hijack this self-congratulatory thread. Really, it is a good thing that healthcare providers consider domestic abuse and offer their help. But getting a woman to the shelter for the night is just the beginning of the solution.
1Jun 20, '14 by 1feistymama, CNAIt's nice to read a story with a happy ending. Thanks for sharing.
1Jun 26, '14 by liebling5Quote from Ruby VeeIt's so true that the most dangerous time for the woman is when she tries to or just after she leaves. And, yes, you MUST have a plan so that he is less likely to stalk and terrorize you wherever you go.The most dangerous time for the woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves or tries to leave.
You have to have a plan in place. Leaving without a plan is one of the most dangerous things you can do. I left. Without a plan. He almost killed me.
But getting a woman to the shelter for the night is just the beginning of the solution.
Building your confidence up until you realize that you don't ever want to be in an abusive relationship again takes TIME. Battling the mindset that had you living in terror and uncertain of your own healthy decisions involves getting long-term help.
Sign me -
Breaking every chain
(Gospel song - www.mosesmediainc.com/../TashaCobbs-BreakEveryChain.mp3 )
0Jul 3, '14 by MyCall2Nsg, BSN, RNIt brings me almost to tears reading this. I am thankful for nurses that do their jobs courageously and pray for more like
the two in this account. More and more of our women have become victims of men who are weak, insecure and cowards.
As nurses who share so much with our patients I firmly believe that it is important for us to pick up on the subtle clues and
explore deeper for the truth to be revealed. Hats off to nurses who take their job seriously and stop at nothing to see the
right things done for our patients.
0Jul 31, '14 by NICUlove62I am so glad that the nurses were comfortable to take the initiative and essentially save this woman's life. Domestic Violence is important to screen when assessing a patient. Too often, the abused person is fearful and tries to hide the abuse. It is so important to give the abused person the resources and strength to get out of the relationship, safely. What a wonderful article!
0Jul 31, '14 by Heathermaizey ProI cried when reading this. Thank you for saving that woman's life. You have no idea what you have done for her.
0Oct 22, '15 by tnbutterfly, BSN, RN AdminBumping this one back up since it is Domestic Violence Awareness month.