You could instantly tell something was wrong - page 3

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When she entered the clinic with her husband, you could instantly tell something was wrong. Perhaps it was because her husband answered all the questions directed at her when she was being registered at the front desk in GYN, the... Read More


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    Yes. I think part of the issue is that some males truly are not comprehending that they actually could be the one with the issue, not the wife / female partner. Until the couple gets a full fertility work-up to see whether the male or female is actually the one with the reproductive issue, you never know what is going on... They are blaming / verbally abusing the wife / female partner for no reason.
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    Hi Ruby
    Hope you didn't feel that I offended you or anything by using the term "my RN". As a nurse manager, I have a habit just using this vernacular in my everyday vocabulary. I don't mean anything by it. I'm just referring to the clinic RNs who work for me in my department in that manner. (i.e. when you have an excellent RN (as this RN is), you don't want another department to try to steal her away to transfer over to work in that department!...so all the Managers say this about their excellent RN's..i.e. "she's my RN, not your RN..LOL). Next time, I can say just "the Floor RN" / "Senior RN" or I'll think of something else that is not so detracting, my apologies..
    Thanks for the feedback!
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    :'-( :'-(
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    oh wow amazing you saved a woman's life, great job! well handled and you were both very brave and stood up for a woman in need of motivation to do the right thing for herself
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    There is such a feeling of shame when we are abused. We feel judged if we tell, sometimes. A lot of "why don't you leave"? Or, "why do you put up with it"was lobbed at me so that I kept quiet. T hankfully, with the help of good friends and inner strength, I was able to leave. But it was not easy; he stalked me for over a year afterward, theatening to shoot me or blow up my car. He was trained as an expert marksman in the military and knew about detonating bombs. I was living in hell all that time. It's not easy to leave, trust me. For those who help, God bless you.
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    Smilingblueys you did the right thing, I hope he leaves you alone now and i hope you are able to live your life to the fullest now
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    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    There is such a feeling of shame when we are abused. We feel judged if we tell, sometimes. A lot of "why don't you leave"? Or, "why do you put up with it"was lobbed at me so that I kept quiet. T hankfully, with the help of good friends and inner strength, I was able to leave. But it was not easy; he stalked me for over a year afterward, theatening to shoot me or blow up my car. He was trained as an expert marksman in the military and knew about detonating bombs. I was living in hell all that time. It's not easy to leave, trust me. For those who help, God bless you.
    The most dangerous time for the woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves or tries to leave. A lot of people don't understand that, even well-meaning people. It's not enough to wake up to the fact that you're in an abusive relationship and decide to leave. You have to have a plan in place. Leaving without a plan is one of the most dangerous things you can do. I left. Without a plan. He almost killed me.

    I don't want to hijack this self-congratulatory thread. Really, it is a good thing that healthcare providers consider domestic abuse and offer their help. But getting a woman to the shelter for the night is just the beginning of the solution.
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    It's nice to read a story with a happy ending. Thanks for sharing.
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    Quote from Ruby Vee
    The most dangerous time for the woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves or tries to leave.
    You have to have a plan in place. Leaving without a plan is one of the most dangerous things you can do. I left. Without a plan. He almost killed me.

    But getting a woman to the shelter for the night is just the beginning of the solution.
    It's so true that the most dangerous time for the woman is when she tries to or just after she leaves. And, yes, you MUST have a plan so that he is less likely to stalk and terrorize you wherever you go.

    Building your confidence up until you realize that you don't ever want to be in an abusive relationship again takes TIME. Battling the mindset that had you living in terror and uncertain of your own healthy decisions involves getting long-term help.

    Sign me -

    Breaking every chain
    (Gospel song - www.mosesmediainc.com/../TashaCobbs-BreakEveryChain.mp3 )
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    It brings me almost to tears reading this. I am thankful for nurses that do their jobs courageously and pray for more like
    the two in this account. More and more of our women have become victims of men who are weak, insecure and cowards.
    As nurses who share so much with our patients I firmly believe that it is important for us to pick up on the subtle clues and
    explore deeper for the truth to be revealed. Hats off to nurses who take their job seriously and stop at nothing to see the
    right things done for our patients.


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