Quote from becca.utns
I was just wondering... When I was in my L&D rotation in school the OB's I worked with would be very condescending with any woman who gave them a birth plan. Usually it was behind the mom's back. Why do OB's do this? I could understand it if mom was making outrageous demands. But I'm just talking about the mention of a birth plan and the OB rolling his eyes (before he has even looked at it) and saying something sarcastic to the nurses. After witnessing this several times I'm actually dreading giving my OB my birth plan at my next appt.
Especially after being told, "just get the epidural.." after I mentioned 'Hypnobirthing'... Anyway... just wondering what L&D nurses have witnessed and think about it.
First, I do NOT
consider most birth plans "outrageous" or "demanding". Birthing families just want some control and say over their experiences, and to me, that is reasonable. Most plans ask for very little we cannot accomodate and try to our utmost to do, at least where I work.
I find that if BOTH birthing families and
medical personnel are flexible, everyone is happier. If a family understands their plan is a clear communication to staff as to what their optimal experience would be, NOT WRITTEN IN STONE---- and IF medical personnel respect this, we all get along. NO ONE I work with (including doctors) laughs at these or makes fun of families trying to assert some control over what interventions they do and do not receive while in our care. I honestly have not witnessed a doctor "laugh" or make rude remarks at these.
I think it would be very helpful for you to present your plan to your OB/MIDWIFE at your EARLIEST convenience, discussing each part of it thoroughly. (like you plan to do). Make sure the hospital staff have a copy when you are admitted and they are clear on what you would like. This way, you all are clear on what you want and what can be reasonably accomodated early-on. Consider having a doula present, if you want, to communicate your needs to the staff, esp. if you plan to go naturally. They are indispensible this way and worth the money!!!! When things get tough, they can be an excellent comfort and voice for your needs to medical/nursing staff.
REMEMBER: Be openminded yourself and understand that things can and do change fast in obstetrics. If an emergent condition arises, know you may have to change game-plans fast and just being aware of this can be helpful.
Before I forget, hypnobirthing is a real site to behold. I am in awe of it when it does work.... And with some people, it does work and well. It varies by individual. I would give it a try. Next time someone tells you "just get the epidural" tell them thanks for the information, but you are clear on what you want and IF you change your mind, you will be sure and let them know. The less defensive you are, the better your message will come across. You have EVERY right to a low-intervention birth experience, medical conditions allowing. Be clear on why each intervention is being done--- upfront--- before allowing it done. You have the right to have all procedures explained as to benefits and risks PRIOR to having them done! That did not change with the advent of birth planning. (grin)
I wish you luck. Every birthing family has the right to as near an ideal birth experience as they can achieve. Be clear in what you need from your OB and the nursing staff from the get-go and be openminded, as well. You will do fine! Best wishes and congratulations!!!!