The Circumcision Discussion - page 65

I know this can be a HUGE debate, and I'm not looking to start any arguments. I was just wondering as you are OB nurses. I'm expecting a boy in July and not sure if we should circ. or not. My... Read More

  1. by   Atheos
    Talk about off topic.
  2. by   LuckyDad105
    There is no way I would let them circumcise my son, the only exception is if it was medically necessary. The reasons "He should look like daddy or he will not look like his friends" or even circumcising for cosmetic reasons makes no sense to me.

    Sure some guys will say its better, its cleaner, or they are glad their parents did it when they were born. I think a lot of those guys are in denial. Of course I am not saying every guy that is circumcised feels this way, but I think a certain percentage of them feel this way. I do not blame them, I actually feel sorry for them. I would not be happy either if my parents chopped off a very sensitive part of my body that would never grow back, for the reason "Oh, it looks so much better". I think a lot of those guys circumcise their sons as a way of getting back at their parents for having them circumcised. The cycle never ends. They can not stand knowing that their son will have something they did not have.

    The clitoris is the female structure analogous to the male penis and the clitoral hood is the equivalent of the foreskin in the male. Why does not the law allow parents to remove their daughters clitoral hood since it is equal to the males foreskin? Please note I did not say remove her CLITORIS, I said remove her CLITORAL HOOD. Before anyone starts to argue there is no comparison please educate yourself with a medical textbook.
  3. by   AirforceRN
    I'd be interested to hear stories of "my son noticed he didn't look like me and it made him so upset that it made me wish I had circumcised him."
    I just wonder if this is a valid reason (excuse) or if it is just something that is said by parents under questioning. Along the same lines I'd be interested to hear stories of "my son was teased so badly that I regret not circumcising him" or even "I was teased so much in school that even now I wish I had been circumcised."
  4. by   GooeyRN
    Do men comment on each others penises?
  5. by   Atheos
    Quote from GooeyRN
    Do men comment on each others penises?
    Absolutely Not...

    I'm sure some do, but most heterosexual males find it to be a taboo subject. I have no scientific studies and I am sure the other men here will back me up on this one. ROFL
  6. by   GooeyRN
    Quote from Stanley-RN2B
    Absolutely Not...

    I'm sure some do, but most heterosexual males find it to be a taboo subject. I have no scientific studies and I am sure the other men here will back me up on this one. ROFL
    Thank you... That is what I assumed. I was wondering if fear of getting picked on was a reality for intact men. I just can't picture a man picking on another man for something to do with his penis... Why would he be looking in the first place? He would have to admit he was looking. I don't see that going over well.
  7. by   ElvishDNP
    Ah, the debate has been resurrected....
  8. by   RN mom of 2
    I asked my hubby, and he said no one looked (to his knowledge) and no one ever talked about them. As a mom of two intact boys, I find all these "excuses" to circ absurd. After six months of research I could not find one valid reason to circ my boys. I believe the majority of circs are done for aesthetic reasons, or because parents think it's cleaner. The first reason is not valid and the second is not true. Just my (not so humble) opinion, as I'd shout it from the rooftops! :wink2:
  9. by   hillarypeace2006
    Quote from LuckyDad105
    There is no way I would let them circumcise my son, the only exception is if it was medically necessary. The reasons "He should look like daddy or he will not look like his friends" or even circumcising for cosmetic reasons makes no sense to me.

    Sure some guys will say its better, its cleaner, or they are glad their parents did it when they were born. I think a lot of those guys are in denial. Of course I am not saying every guy that is circumcised feels this way, but I think a certain percentage of them feel this way. I do not blame them, I actually feel sorry for them. I would not be happy either if my parents chopped off a very sensitive part of my body that would never grow back, for the reason "Oh, it looks so much better". I think a lot of those guys circumcise their sons as a way of getting back at their parents for having them circumcised. The cycle never ends. They can not stand knowing that their son will have something they did not have.

    The clitoris is the female structure analogous to the male penis and the clitoral hood is the equivalent of the foreskin in the male. Why does not the law allow parents to remove their daughters clitoral hood since it is equal to the males foreskin? Please note I did not say remove her CLITORIS, I said remove her CLITORAL HOOD. Before anyone starts to argue there is no comparison please educate yourself with a medical textbook.

    I too am like you and opted not to circumsize my son. He was a 33 weeker and with all he had been through, did not think a weiner wack was necessary. And his dad is European and they don't do it unless the kid is Jewish..

    Furthermore, their is a small risk with Penile cancer, but the risk is so small most experts suggest that this is not a strong factor for consideration. I think this practice is no more necessary than any other cosmetic procedure. I was suprised at the response of the NICU nurses and my family when I informed them of my decision not to circumsize. I just don't want to get into wacking body parts unless necessary or until age of consent. Plus he gets to be different and fully "intact"
  10. by   LoveMyBugs
    Quote from Stanley-RN2B
    Absolutely Not...

    I'm sure some do, but most heterosexual males find it to be a taboo subject. I have no scientific studies and I am sure the other men here will back me up on this one. ROFL
    We had a guy come into the ER who tried to circ himself and it went wrong, we thought maybe a B.H. issues, but he had been in jail and was tormented by it not beinging circ.
  11. by   hillarypeace2006
    That guy sounded unstable was there a psych eval done?
  12. by   LoveMyBugs
    I belive that there was, but he was not my patient so I am not sure, I hoped that he did.
  13. by   geminiway
    When my son was born, the nurse pressured me to sign the circ concent form. After I refused, she showed me that my son's foreskin would not retract, therefore, she insisted that I would have to have him cut. I only found out a year or two later that no infant foreskins are retractable. I'll never know whether she was just ignorant or whether she was on a mission to convince me to sign the concent. Any chance there is a commission paid?

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