Men in OB/Peds Nursing....Any thoughts?.... - page 7

by Wild Irish LPN 9,922 Views | 73 Comments

I remember seeing something posted along these lines a while back, but it never really "got going" so I thought I would open it up for one more try....I am about to finish my LPN Program, and then will be in pursuit of my BSN... Read More


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    There is nothing hilarious about privacy issues, cultural issues, or religious preferences. While I had a male obstetrician I understand women who prefer female Ob-gyns and nurses. I worked as a VD counselor years ago and many males came in who requested male docs or nurses. More recently I worked in a family care practice and men coming in for ED wanted a female practioner for their Viagra prescription--it was a matter of male ego that they didn't want to admit to another man that they suffered from impotence. We often have devoutly religious people of both genders who want someone of their own sex caring for them whether or not they are disrobing for care. These preferences are deeply ingrained for personal, cultural, religious or other reasons and it's typically the hospital's decision whether or not to honor these requests; in my experience they usually do honor them.
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    I'd much rather have the OP there than the OB doctor I had that made a rude comment when I had a bowel movement while pushing. I don't know what he was expecting to come out of me. Maybe he was disappointment that the winning lottery numbers didn't come out instead!

    I don't know why anyone would be uncomfortable with a male OB nurse when so many OBs are male. Wouldn't make any sense to me, unless a person was uncomfortable having a male OB. But would it make sense to have a male OB doing your care and balk at a male OB nurse?
    Last edit by caregiver1977 on May 15, '12 : Reason: clarifying
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    I would refuse a male nurse. Would I let a man deliver my baby? Yes, if he was in the OB practice that I was going to for my pregnancy; difference? I will get to know this male provider over a period of 9 months, a male nurse may not see until I go into labor. Also, any OB nurse knows that the patient spends 95% of her labor with the nurse...a male nurse in OB (excluding NICU) is like hiring a mechanic who has never driven a car (IMO).
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    Quote from HeartsOpenWide
    I would refuse a male nurse. Would I let a man deliver my baby? Yes, if he was in the OB practice that I was going to for my pregnancy; difference? I will get to know this male provider over a period of 9 months, a male nurse may not see until I go into labor. Also, any OB nurse knows that the patient spends 95% of her labor with the nurse...a male nurse in OB (excluding NICU) is like hiring a mechanic who has never driven a car (IMO).
    Let me add, I do not mean a woman who has never given birth can not be an OB nurse; just that women understand women...and giving birth is a woman thing. Again, if it were up to me, only a woman would deliver my baby; but in my area there are not any practices that are all female. Having worked with the male providers,I work, with for over two years; I would feel totally comfortable having them help me to deliver my baby. If one of the female providers agreed to "special me" I would go for that first.
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    Speaking of men in NICU...those of you who wouldn't allow me to be your L/D nurse...would you allow me, a male NICU nurse, into the c-section or delivery room to rescusitate your dying infant?

    I might see your tender bits...or your baby might die while we're looking for someone besides a male that knows how to rescusitate a baby.
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    Hospitals are full of men--and women--who can resuscitate patients of every age.
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    a male nurse in OB (excluding NICU) is like hiring a mechanic who has never driven a car (IMO).
    As others have already said, nurses are not required to have experienced every condition they work with in order to be competent, caring, skillful and wise. Men who have participated in a partner's pregnancy and delivery can certainly bring something to the equation that stands to benefit the birthing family. And even those who haven't done this may be knowledgeable and compassionate and willing to learn.

    On the flip side, just as it's a mistake to insist that males should automatically be excluded from women's health nursing, it's also an error to assume that just being female equips a person to be a good L&D or postpartum nurse. Some women have no desire (or aptitude) for a role in mother/baby nursing. And those who do work in these areas can lose their enthusiasm or be negatively influenced by any number of personal or professional concerns to the point where they are abrupt, insensitive or deficient in the care they provide.

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    On a different note, I have always felt that the fact that male nurses are looked upon differently from male docs lies in the nature of the relationship. No matter how collaborative his practice might be, the male doc--or any doc, for that matter--is looked upon as the one in charge--an authority figure, if you will. And comparatively speaking, he's there for only a short stint. The nurse takes more of a partnering role and usually spends far more time with the patient. There is a short-term bonding, a kind of intimacy and trust that takes place in a good birth situation that doesn't normally occur with the male doc.

    I suspect it is the idea of their partner developing this kind of bonding with another male that some men might find uncomfortable or even threatening. Such an aversion may be tucked behind the obvious reluctance to have another male seeing the laboring mother's anatomy, but in many ways, I think may explain the resistance to male Ob/Gyn nurses when a male OB is seen as acceptable.
    Last edit by rn/writer on May 30, '12
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    Quote from Patti_RN
    There is nothing hilarious about privacy issues, cultural issues, or religious preferences. While I had a male obstetrician I understand women who prefer female Ob-gyns and nurses. I worked as a VD counselor years ago and many males came in who requested male docs or nurses. More recently I worked in a family care practice and men coming in for ED wanted a female practioner for their Viagra prescription--it was a matter of male ego that they didn't want to admit to another man that they suffered from impotence. We often have devoutly religious people of both genders who want someone of their own sex caring for them whether or not they are disrobing for care. These preferences are deeply ingrained for personal, cultural, religious or other reasons and it's typically the hospital's decision whether or not to honor these requests; in my experience they usually do honor them.
    Religious and cultural issues are one thing, but thinking that a nurse cares about your parts in anyway other than a professional way is ridiculous. Modesty is modesty. No one is eager to show their parts to a female nurse either but you get over it to have your baby. Also, we are not talking to women who are in active labor. I'll bet that tune changes when they need something and that man is the only one who can get it for them. I'm pretty sure male nurses in OB go above and beyond to respect the modesty of their patient's and their patient's families. They realize their disadvantage. I don't buy that a women nurse is better suited for that position because they understand. Understanding and caring are two different things. I've worked with and seen far too many female L&D nurses who don't care and it shows. I think this guy and others like him deserve a chance.
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    Quote from Suburban.Raider.11
    Religious and cultural issues are one thing, but thinking that a nurse cares about your parts in anyway other than a professional way is ridiculous. Modesty is modesty. No one is eager to show their parts to a female nurse either but you get over it to have your baby. Also, we are not talking to women who are in active labor. I'll bet that tune changes when they need something and that man is the only one who can get it for them. I'm pretty sure male nurses in OB go above and beyond to respect the modesty of their patient's and their patient's families. They realize their disadvantage. I don't buy that a women nurse is better suited for that position because they understand. Understanding and caring are two different things. I've worked with and seen far too many female L&D nurses who don't care and it shows. I think this guy and others like him deserve a chance.
    I know you hate to think it, but not all nurses (or doctors) are that professional. Some of them do make rude comments about body parts or losing control of your body right to the patient (I have witnessed this happen and it has happened to me; I am not talking about something I heard). But you are exactly right when you say there are many female nurses that are not suited/no longer suited for labor and delivery. I think the OP deserves a chance.
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    While it is not my intention to discourage anyone from their dreams and goals, I would not want a male to be my L&D nurse. Much like I would not want a male Dr. to attend the birth of my child. It's a personal preference. I don't understand why a man would want to do that. That is not meant to be rude, I'm actually very curious? Looking at lady parts all day seems like it would be very uncomfortable and intimidating if I was the opposite sex and couldn't relate in any way.


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