Re: maternal-infant bonding
I think mother-baby bonding is a wee bit more complicated (or simple, really!) than that. IF the fact an epis was a real factor, what about csection moms? I really bonded w/my daughter much sooner after my "c" than I did w/my vaginal delivery w/my son because he was in a NICU after birth (being preemie, in an isolette on oxygen and IVs......conversely, dd was term/healthy and put to breast in the first hour after birth. Bonding w/her was so natural, fluid and easy cause she was healthy and did not have health problems that complicated my son's first 3 months of life.
Truly, I believe, in the long run, bonding is really up to the individual family. Both my babies were very well-bonded to both my dh and myself in the infancy stage of life, and beyond.
Truth be told: My dh seemed to bond sooner w/my son as he was first shown kangaroo care w/him, whereas I was spending all my time struggling with and trying to nurse him (preemies are tough) and not kangaroo'ing him. I noticed my baby was much calmer when my dh was holding him than when I was.
At first that bugged me, but I realized what a gift it was soon enough....
At home, we both did skin-to-skin with both our babies, and bonding went very well........
You see, really, bonding is a long-term thing, not just a first-day deal! And an epis or other such procedures should NOT get in the way of that.
Also I believe firmly that nurses are in a unique, honored and wonderful position to facilitate family-newborn bonding,whether it be in the NICU, post-partum or immediately after delivery in the labor suite. We definately can get them off the a good start, with some effort and consideration. And that can overcome almost anything that happened during the labor/delivery course. So no, sorry I am not buying this one!
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