Your place sounds a LOT like the rural Oklahoma hospital where I used to work in L and D. However, it is quite different than where I am now (WA State) ---here is how things tend to go where I work:
Rooming-in is automatic with all healthy moms and babies. ALL our rooms are LDRP; each has a warmer-bassinet and they are cared for as couplets by one nurse. Only time baby may leave room is for PKU perhaps, or weights, but I do these IN the room if parents prefer. It is THEIR choice.
Other than that, baby never leaves the sight of parents. Even if to the nursery, I encourage one or both parents to come also, so they can see what we are doing. I find this really fosters a trust relationship and I know darn well I would want to be there if my kiddo were in the nursery.
Epidural rates are HIGH tho----I am estimating 85% perhaps a bit more.
Csection rates roughly 25%
ALL Moms whose babies are well may BF immediately upon birth, prior to or after placenta is delivered ---it is THEIR choice. I encourage BF immediately upon placing infant on mom's chest and delay the bath even meds by 30 minutes or so, so mom/baby may bf and bond. If they need longer, I do place the eye prophylaxis at 30 minutes' age and return babe to mom.
Far as I am concerned, the Bath can wait for hours, if mom and her family choose. I prefer mom get to "smell" her newborn and touch and hold the child for a few HOURS before bathing. I find they love this (most of them--there are a few who insist on a bath prior to holding baby).
showers are UNLIMITED....as long as intermittent FHTs look good and they are NOT on pitocin/mag
IV's are NOT routine, but usually, Heplocks are encouraged. IF there IS NO NEED for meds (e.g. GBS protocol or Pit, we try to work with mom's preferences where possible).
Several birthing balls of various sizes are available when they want them. I encourage their use whenever possible and show them the various ways they can be used. (e.g. not just sitting).
Induction rates are HORRIBLY HIGH and they are OFTEN due to "social reasons"---- be they Dr's or patient's, it is not always clear. I don't know the rate, however. Would have to look that up. On that vein, AROM is very common, yes, but usually only upon established labor. It may be done also, when in advanced labor is being halted by intact membranes (according to the doctor). NOT nearly as common as in times past and increasingly rare in cases of positive GBS moms.
Episiotomy rates are low; (percentage, I don't know, I would have to look up-- but I am thinking less than 25%). Usually, unless there is NO way to get baby out w/o it, they are NOT done. A minor tear is preferable, actually, is our doctors' belief. We DO massage perineums (as RN's and dr's), use warm, moist compresses, and I do encourage short, pulsing pushes when baby starts to crown to avoid tearing. If unanethesized, I encourage "open-glottis" pushing (not closed and no counts to 10 if I can help it). They can push of their own accord and usually know HOW to push and HOW long to....I encourage them to do what feels right. After a few pushes, most moms have a "groove" they get into and they do fine. With anesthesia, I do have to work more with them to push but if we are counting, usually to NO more than 6 or 7--I find there are fewer problems w/decels this way and moms' endurance lasts longer.
If not choosing epidural or intrathecal anesthesia, use of IV pain meds is very rare.....I don't encourage their use cause they generally are not that effective for long, need mulitiple administrations and of course, all of them DO directly affect the baby. They understand this when we discuss meds. I don't discourage their use, but make moms aware of the facts as well as benefits.
I use a lot of principles taught in my Labor Progress Handbook whenever possible. The techniques I learned there have really helped me "be there" for my laboring families. Hope this helps you.