I want to change jobs, be a Walmart Greeter

  1. I've worked L&D at a small community hospital (<400 births/month) for about 13 years now. We do everything from antepartum/triage to labor and delivery, nursery (if the baby is sick), and are now expected to scrub/circulate our own cases. This with two nurses per shift, sometimes three. They call off the third though on a regular basis. No secretary, no tech.

    Anyway we had a tragic event, a uterine rupture and a newborn death. It totally freaked me out. I was there when she came in, but not when it happened. I've always loved my job but now its different. I have been applying to insurance jobs, utilization review jobs, research jobs, although I have NO experience in these matters. I've thought of hospice or home health or anything considered less risky and less scary. This wasnt the first tragedy we've had but this one seems worse, or I've taken it worse. I keep thinking that I want a 7-3 job, no hollidays, no WE, non-clinical, something CALM. I've never wanted a desk before EVER. Help! Has anyone else felt the same way? I am trying not to make a rash decision but I still keep applying to other jobs. Does this make sense???????????
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  3. by   justme1972
    I have no advice, because I'm not a nurse, but if you were here I would give you a big hug and take you out for coffee and a good stiff chocolate dessert!
  4. by   CHATSDALE
    some times we reach a point in our lives when we know it is time to move on

    if you have been a successful ob nurses all these years you have the smarts to do what you make up your mind to do

    good luck
  5. by   crissrn27
    Take some time before deciding. This is a major change, and if you really liked your job before now it could be a bad move. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this, and some times they just hit you harder than others. Like they all add up and you feel like you have had enough. Maybe you have, but think it though and if you do leave, leave the door open just in case.:icon_hug: :icon_hug:
  6. by   jill48
    Quote from kdot2003
    I've worked L&D at a small community hospital (<400 births/month) for about 13 years now. We do everything from antepartum/triage to labor and delivery, nursery (if the baby is sick), and are now expected to scrub/circulate our own cases. This with two nurses per shift, sometimes three. They call off the third though on a regular basis. No secretary, no tech.

    Anyway we had a tragic event, a uterine rupture and a newborn death. It totally freaked me out. I was there when she came in, but not when it happened. I've always loved my job but now its different. I have been applying to insurance jobs, utilization review jobs, research jobs, although I have NO experience in these matters. I've thought of hospice or home health or anything considered less risky and less scary. This wasnt the first tragedy we've had but this one seems worse, or I've taken it worse. I keep thinking that I want a 7-3 job, no hollidays, no WE, non-clinical, something CALM. I've never wanted a desk before EVER. Help! Has anyone else felt the same way? I am trying not to make a rash decision but I still keep applying to other jobs. Does this make sense???????????
    I am so sorry that you are sad. This is the exact reason that I knew I could never be a baby nurse. Everyone wants to be a baby nurse in the begining, but when I thought about the sick babies (or even worse, the deceased ones), I knew this was not somthing that I could handle emotionally. I always said it was you guys that are the true angels; I just could not do what you do. Good luck to you.:kiss
  7. by   tencat
    Take some time to decide what you want to do. If you've loved your job, try to figure out why this particular case hit you so hard. Does your work have an employee assistance program?

    Maybe the stress of working short with few resources has finally gotten to you. Our small hospital has few OB nurses, and the ones they have they work into the ground. (I'm not one of them, thank heavens!) Maybe it is time for a change for you. That's ok, too! Hang in there.
  8. by   Dolce
    So sorry to hear about your tragic story. That does sound stressful. Have you considered OR nursing? With your scrub/circulation and OB experience you would be an asset to any OR. While there is WE/Holiday call for most OR positions, they are usually M-F. Another option to think about is trying out an agency position and only working part time. Sometimes just switching to part time for a while helps after having a stressful experience. Hope you find something that is ideal for you. I think a nurse with 13 years of experience is qualified for many different areas.
  9. by   first_lobster
    I've worked ICU for the last 3.5 years and I've seen my share of those that should NEVER have passed on. I've been more than freaked on more than one occasion and have put serious thought into Alpaca Farming more than once. Getting freaked out over this only makes you human. At the end of a really bad day, instead of thinking about the patient that I just lost, I think about all the ones that have walked out. Then I say a prayer for all those that have passed on, and I ask God to give me strength and courage and ask him to put me where he wants me. I always seem to end up here. Maybe a change would do you some good, or maybe just a new perspective. Keep your head up.
  10. by   ERNurse752
    It sounds like your unit manager needs to get a CISD (critical incident stress debriefing) for the staff on your unit.

    It also sounds like staffing is super crappy on your unit.

    If it were me, I'd probably make sure I got my CISD/counseling to deal with the event...and then find another job just based on unsafe staffing. I don't think right now is the time to make the decision to totally switch specialties though. Unless you were already thinking that direction before this happened.
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Agree with the above post. Time for debriefing for the entire nursing/medical team involved in that tragic event. Do not make any rash decisions until you have received some counsel and had time to process this event, please. I know first-hand about how you feel; I almost quit my job on the spot a few years back after a very tragic outcome. Just take the time you need and be very good to yourself. You need some serious TLC.
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    PS: 400 del/month is a BUSY unit, way too busy for the staffing you describe here. I would really think about the consequences as I make the decisions I need to. But again, debriefing is necessary here and sooner rather than later.
  13. by   JaneyW
    Is there a teaching hospital around you? I used to work at a place that sounds like yours. I also loved it and the people I worked with, but there were too many near misses for my taste. I went to a large teaching hospital and am much less stressed there. However, you give up a lot of your autonomy. Sometimes I get really frustrated by lack of autonomy and think of going back out in the big world and then we have a crazy day and I am so thankful to be there where it is so safe.

    I am a CISM peer counselor at my facility and I agree that you guys could use a de-briefing. Maybe a holiday? Big hugs to you. I cringe every time someone tells me that L&D must be so happy.
  14. by   CRNI-ICU20
    Oh...I am sooooo sorry for you. This must have just rocked you to the core.
    You are having some post traumatic stress....and you are looking for a way out.....
    This isn't the best time to make a total career change....maybe a latitudinal change, but not a completely different career altogether.
    Have you thought about being a lactation specialist, or something that is related, but something that isn't so stressful and demanding and emotionally charged?
    Is there a career counselor that you can talk with? perhaps on line?
    Maybe it isn't the job that you are running from, it's the components to the job that make it so impossible that you are running from....maybe you could cut back a few days for awhile....or just do some education in labor and delivery....
    I WILL pray for you....
    for now....put your head down and let it all out.....and then take a little time out for you each day....you need a break.

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