Having trouble getting pregnant...getting worried.... - page 2

Here's my story in a nutshell. I have 3 children: 9, 4, 18 months. My husband and I would like a large family, and I didn't have problems getting pregnant with my other children. We have been... Read More

  1. by   nurseunderwater
    I used a wonderful book called taking charge of your fertility.....check it out! You will learn more than you ever wanted to know about cervical mucous...

    I also subscribe to the belief that the babies come on their scheduale...maybe "he's" around just not ready to land...

    Remember....practice, practice, practice

    oops...just saw the other posts...so hey, that 3 of us, guess you better get that book!
  2. by   jkaee
    Thank you all for your replies. I have a drs appt on Monday so I'll ask her and see what she thinks I should do next. My personal opinion is that I rarely ovulate, because when I do, I get that crampy feeling on either my right or left LQ's, and that's how I knew to get pregnant the last times. So I don't know if my body is still recovering from breastfeeding, or what. So, we'll see what she says on Monday.
    I am grateful for my other children, and I realize that there are others that would kill to have what I have. It still doesn't take away the pain and anxiety when you've always had a dream of a large family (I just love raising my kids....well, most times anyway!) and all of a sudden things aren't going as expected. But, once again, thank you for your advice, and I'll keep you posted!

    Jennifer
  3. by   Spidey's mom
    Jennifer, you are a spring chicken! I had my last child at 43 and he is almost 3 now That was 12 years from the last one.

    Relax and talk to your doctor.

    Best wishes and good luck.

    steph
  4. by   jkaee
    BUMP this thread on up!

    Just an update....went to see my NP for an annual.....she said although I'm still within the "time frame" of trying to achieve pregnancy she still wants me to get some basic bloodwork done just to check things out (thyriod, prolactin since I breastfed my youngest....that could still be up and interfering with ovulation)

    Got some ovulation kits from Babyhopes.com....seem to be working. Will see what happens in a few weeks!

    Hugs to all that replied to me, maybe I'm paranoid, but I have a "life plan"....I know, I need to relax!


    Thanks again everyone!

    Jennifer
  5. by   smk1
    Quote from Hannahrn
    that is a really condescending & insensitive response. You are making a pretty big assumption-how do you even know that the person who is asking is religious? I'm tired of people placing everything in "god's hands" ...if that were true why would there be sick & starving children int his world? Is that part of God's big plan - to torture innocent children? Pleeeeeeeeeeease!
    is this necessary? i don't think she meant any harm by it, a lot of people view god and religion as a comfort in times of distress. this is probably all that was meant. let's try not to see unpleasant motives where there likely are none.
  6. by   jkaee
    Quote from smkoepke
    is this necessary? i don't think she meant any harm by it, a lot of people view god and religion as a comfort in times of distress. this is probably all that was meant. let's try not to see unpleasant motives where there likely are none.

    I thought so, too, and considering my signature, I think it's safe to assume that I do believe in God and have my religion in times of stress. I just chose to ignore it as I thought someone might be trying to start something.....who knows.....
  7. by   momtotwinglesx5
    [QUOTE=Limor]few suggestions:
    the next step is trying fertility drugs starting for light ones to induce ovulation and increase number of follicles and chances




    Be careful or you may get more than you bargained for, lol! I got impatient trying to concieve my 2nd child and the practitioner gave me Clomid (to shut me up, I think!) and I ended up with twins! :chuckle On the other hand, since you want a large family, maybe that would be good!

    I know where you're coming from though--everybody tells you to relax, especially since you already have children. Well, they might as well hold their breath--it's not possible to "relax and don't think about it" when you are worried about infertility.

    Read all you can on fertility and it sounds like your NP is being helpful too. Hang in there! By the way, I have 5 kids now!

    Sue
  8. by   crankyasanoldma
    I think many people who state well meaning platitudes like "just relax" "count your blessings" and "god loves you", etc, don't realize how hurtful these statments can be, especially in regards to fertility issues. I would usually remind the intended recipient to look at the positive "meta-message" and move on to someone who can offer the practical help you seek, but will concede that those same platitudes can become trying and tiresome after a while.

    Anyway, the general rule is that unprotected intercouse with the same partner for one year without conception requires a visit to the OB-GYN. Seeing your doctor was the right thing to do.
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from crankyasanoldma
    I think many people who state well meaning platitudes like "just relax" "count your blessings" and "god loves you", etc, don't realize how hurtful these statments can be, especially in regards to fertility issues. .

    boy you are not just whistlin Dixie. I can't tell you how hurt I have been by well meaning remarks like these from family and friends. Infertility as well as pregnancy loss, are very ISOLATING crises. Only those who have been there get what we feel.
  10. by   ?burntout
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    boy you are not just whistlin Dixie. I can't tell you how hurt I have been by well meaning remarks like these from family and friends. Infertility as well as pregnancy loss, are very ISOLATING crises. Only those who have been there get what we feel.
    Ditto Deb....
  11. by   newonboard
    I am 26 and trying to get pregnant i've trying for over a year now but still negative. i thot i was last month but period came 2 days late with lots of clot and pain all thru. the cycle.Anyways, that is just to familiariaze you with my condition.
    i saw this fertility drug on the internet OVULEX before orddering it i would like your opinion on it has anybody ever used it. what do u think of me using it. i would love your prompt replies.
    DH has a son so i know he is fine.
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    please see a doctor. it's been over a year and your last period is troubling to me. You need a workup.
  13. by   mother/babyRN
    When you aren't so focused on it, it will happen...BELIEVE ME, my "infertile" husband and "infertile" self had three children in three years once we stopped thinking about it..

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