have you had an abortion? - page 2

I need some advice and was wondering if anyone has ever had an abortion and regretted it? Can you please tell me why you chose abortion and how you came to decide that was the best choice for you. ... Read More

  1. by   Omegaqueen1121
    Quote from TweetiePieRN
    I personally have never had an abortion. However, a few years ago I did accompany a very good friend to the clinic so she could have a support person there with her. I was in the room with her when she was having her abortion.

    My friend was a single mother raising her 3 year old son and working full time. She also took care of her aging mother who lived with her. Then she found out she was pregnant. After telling the father of the baby...he left her. The decision to abort was very hard for her to make, but in the end she is glad that she went through with it. As a friend, I am so glad that I could be there for her.

    I hope that you will find accurate information so that you can make an informed decision. Good luck to you. You will be in my thoughts ((((hugs))))-Tweetiepie
    I had one two years ago and just like a previous member mentioned, I was also raped. to make a long story short at that time i have no regrets on what i did ( i have a seven year old girl from my previous marriage) Right now my ex is still in jail for domestic dispute with his new girlfriend. I love my self unconditionally for not subjecting myself to continue that abusive realtionship. nor to bring an innocent life into it! However strongly pray and weigh your options before coming to that decison. Good Luck!( A big Hug for encouragement and support) :spin:
  2. by   WhiteCaps
    Quote from cutecat
    I need some advice and was wondering if anyone has ever had an abortion and regretted it? Can you please tell me why you chose abortion and how you came to decide that was the best choice for you. I am currently facing the question of abortion myself but I don't think I can go through with it. I don't personally know anyone who has had one who I can talk to about this. Anything would be appreciated; I would not judge anyone.

    Please don't do it. There are other options.

    You might try looking up Project Rachel sites
    for true stories of women who had abortions and what they went thru
    and how they found healing.

    www.rcab.org/projectrachel

    (Rachel was the woman in the Bible who's weeping could not be consoled because her children "were no more")

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  3. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    To the OP: you do what's best for you.
  4. by   fergus51
    I would just second that. I have never been in your shoes. I do know 2 friends who have had abortions with no regrets and one person who gave a child up for adoption who regretted it. Only you can know what is right for you. Hopefully you can speak to someone who focuses on YOU and your life.
  5. by   Energizer Bunny
    And I third it! You do what's best for you and your situation.
  6. by   rdhdnrs
    I had one when I was 19 years old. I thought it was my only choice at the time. I feel the same as one poster who said she would not have had the children she has if she hadn't had an abortion. I am totally enamoured of the two girls I have.
    That said, I must say I do think of that little soul. For some reason, I see it as a "him" and now that I'm a Christian, feel that someday I will meet him.
    On the other hand, you must do what's right for you and your life and your family. You have a hard choice. If you want to discuss further email me privately.
    You are in my prayers.
    Lisa
  7. by   L&D_RN_OH
    Choosing to continue or end a pregnancy is a very personal decision. I agree with everyone who has suggested counseling. I think feeling confident with your decision is the most important factor in whether or not you will have feelings of regret.

    That said, I had an abortion at 14, after being raped. I have never once regretted it. I know that it was the only logical option for me.

    I now have 3 beautiful children who I love more than anything, who would not be, if I had chosen a different path at 14.

    Good luck with your decision. I'm sure you will come to make the choice that is most comfortable for you.
  8. by   tylerlvn
    I have never been in your situation. I have aways been on the opposite end - years and years of infertility. I do not judge you. You have to make your own decision. One option is adoption. I am so thankful everyday for my adopted son. I know how hard it must have been for his "birth" mother. But, she changed my life forever. Like I said... I do not know what I would do in your circumstance. It is one option to think about though.
  9. by   kmchugh
    Never been there (obviously), but do want to offer my support. Take the advice of others and seek counseling, if you think it might help.

    You are at a tough junction in your life, and whatever decision you make, there will be someone there willing to judge you, and to second guess your decision. Just wanted you to know that there are those on all sides of the question who won't judge you. I can't. I haven't been where you are.

    My only hope for you is that, whatever your decision, you come out of it convinced it was the right decision for you.

    Kevin McHugh
  10. by   manna
    I have never had an abortion, but I very seriously considered it when I found out I was pregnant with my first son (my boyfriend at the time - now my husband - and I were both essentially homeless, usually drugs/alcohol heavily, and neither of us were working). I even had made an appointment with the clinic, but something kept me from going. Today, I am glad that I chose to have and keep my son and my beliefs regarding the abortion issue have changed drastically.

    I'll echo the other posters who said only you know what is the best decision for you. Get some counseling, and be sure you're at peace with your decision. Good luck...
  11. by   mother/babyRN
    It is never an easy decision whatever your personal belief. I had to consider it years ago and would vacilate from one point of view to the other minute by minute. I actually had the appointment made but couldn't do it...The views of my parents surprised me since they were opposite than what I expected. My mom told me I should consider it since I was just starting out in my life and it would be changed and uprooted forever.....She should know...She had five kids and her life as she wanted it to be, never materialized. Until that conversation I hadn't realized that despite the fact she was (is) a great mom, her dreams were never to be...My dad, on the other hand, who I thought would be for it, was against it because in the far past, as he then shared with me, a girlfriend of his had had one without consulting him.. I soon realized that NO ONE can help guide you to that decision. They may counsel but invariably, some part of their personal belief systems must come into play.
    I chose not to have the procedure and my 21 year old son is amazing. He recently wrote the rules which I published here under "The Mother's Rule Book." (general nursing discussion)...It was a tough road and definitely a far cry and adventure through a route far afield from that originally chosen...I still ocasionally wonder what my life would have been like had I chosen another decision, and regretfully , there were times when I almost wished I had, because even with the best of support, raising a child is not easy...But, in the end, you have to make the choice which best suits you, for your own reasons, whether counselled or not...I wish you only the best in whatever road you take.....I have been there.....{{{{}}}}
  12. by   mother/babyRN
    I should mention that years later, when I met my husband, we were told we were both infertile.....Somehow though, we did manage to have three little ones.....I recall the doc I saw to confirm my pregancy all those years ago, actually angered me when he said there was some good news at the pregnancy ( I sure didn't think so) and then told me that at least I knew I could become pregnant. Years later when it didn't happen, I could appreciate the reasoning behind that.....
  13. by   gypsyatheart
    I can only offer you support and prayers. This is a very personal decision. It really doesn't matter how many other people have had one or not. Ultimately, this is a decision you and you alone must make. Only you know your circumstances, only you know your heart. Of course, I support the suggestion of counselling and I think the PP organization is great at helping young women, so if that might help you, go for it.
    If you need anything or just to talk, feel free to PM me.

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