Oooohhh. Birth plans. Yes. I read them. Always. Absolutely.
Here's my take....as an OB nurse. Be reasonable. Write your birthplan with the thought in mind that things can go very wrong without cause or warning
in labor and delivery. You obviously know this since you PROM'ed @ 36wks. with your first.
It's the folks who write the birth plans with the assumption/attitude that nothing can possibly go wrong...you know, 'that won't happen to me.'
that scare me the most. The nursery nurses are right. It's the folks with the longest, most restrictive, most don't-do-this-and-don't-do-that birth plans where the most stuff goes wrong. There's an old legend in OB...the length of the birth plan is directly proportional to the severity of the complications that will arise.
Birth revolves around 2 things....a uterus and a fetus. Neither can read directions and neither follows instruction very well. They have minds of their own.
Just be flexible, work with your MD and nurses. Keep in mind that you will probably have to deviate from 'the plan' at one point or another. And that's okay. Folks who have the attitude that the birth plan is just a rough draft/outline of things they would LIKE and not a rigid 'game plan' are the ones who are the most successful and pleased with their birth experience.
Congratulations in advance!!