Didn't bond well. (venting, long) - page 2

I normally get very close to my patients and receive lots of feedback about the care I give, but friday night was an exception, and all the events led to a healthy baby boy, but it was hell getting... Read More

  1. by   OBNurseShelley
    That's for sure, she already said she wasn't going to do it again! THANK GOD!
  2. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by OBNurseShelley
    That's for sure, she already said she wasn't going to do it again! THANK GOD!
    I think we all say that while we're still up in stirrups, don't we?
  3. by   kids
    Originally posted by OBNURSEHEATHER
    I think we all say that while we're still up in stirrups, don't we?
    Uh...my exhusband & I were discussing wanting the "next one" to be a girl while I was still being stitched up from our first natural child birth.
  4. by   GailWHNP
    It drives me nuts when patient's relatives compare their experience with my pt and questioning my "expertise" because this was/wasn't done to them! That kinda frightens the patient, too. Had a pt the other day who was "ruptured" for 22 hrs before coming to hospital . . . tested pos fern pattern at MD's. She came at shift change. I admitted her . . . baby looked great, mom about as afebrile as one can get . . . early labor with irregular contractions. Doc ordered pit, which I started. I told him I saw no fluid leaking from vagina and she wore no pad. I started pit. Sister was getting her into a nervous wreck about why we weren't sectioning her because her waters broke and she was sectioned at 24 hrs. Sister kept on me all night long . . . a long 12 hours! Kept telling doc still no wet pads under patient. Came back the next night and they had discharged the patient . . . AFI indicated plenty of fluid, none leaking! Funny also was that this pt came in the day before saying she had ruptured and nurse sent her home . . . neg nitrazine. Pt didn't want that nurse to take care of her next night . . . like the nurse let her go ruptured for 22 hours! Wish I had been there when they d/c'd her. I kept questioning pt re the ROM, but she and sis swore it ruptured with a gush! I tried telling them there's really no dry birth, but they wouldn't listen.
    Gail
    also venting
  5. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by kids-r-fun
    Uh...my exhusband & I were discussing wanting the "next one" to be a girl while I was still being stitched up from our first natural child birth.
    Really? I was asking at exactly WHAT time that same day I could expect the nurse to ive me my Depo.

    Heather
  6. by   imenid37
    i feel bad for you. what a headache. don't ya wonder why they came to the hospital in the first place. don't ya ever feel like they wish there was a birth king (like burger king) where you could have it your way and fast?

    i hate to brag, but i had a lovely gal last night. lpn at a nursing home. not w/ dad anymore (his loss-she was a very nice young lady), but had a nice supportive best friend and mom w/ her for labour. what a pleasure to take care of and what a break from some of our hold the pickle hold the lettuce special orders don't upset us... crew that come along so frequently.

    last week i had a bi-polar low iq non-bathing lady w/ std @ term who wouldn't wear clothes, shower, or take her antibiotics. guess what she took her baby home. hooray for county social services! this job truly is an adventure isn't it?
  7. by   mother/babyRN
    I just tell them that everyone has horror stories about delivery because everyone only tells the bad things...Had a 16 year old in labor and when I got back today she told me how easy it was to have a baby and it wasn't bad at all.....Sigh......
  8. by   NurseShell
    I too was discussing next baby while being stitched up

    Then after #3 was au naturale (not by choice mind you) I said "next time they WILL admit me and give me the epidural" (long story - they sent me home, blah, blah, blah - 3hrs after getting home I was "dying" couldn't get hubby to believe me when he finally took me in - after ROM - I delivered within 25 mins of walking through the door)... my mother and my husband looked at me, speechless...my mother actually said "you do NOT need anymore children!"
  9. by   kids
    Originally posted by nurseshell
    I too was discussing next baby while being stitched up

    Then after #3 was au naturale (not by choice mind you) I said "next time they WILL admit me and give me the epidural" (long story - they sent me home, blah, blah, blah - 3hrs after getting home I was "dying" couldn't get hubby to believe me when he finally took me in - after ROM - I delivered within 25 mins of walking through the door)... my mother and my husband looked at me, speechless...my mother actually said "you do NOT need anymore children!"
    LOL!

    I went from 4 cm to babe in arms in 37 minutes (after being in the hospital for 2 hours)...my OB told me if I was going to have anymore babies I needed to go to the hospital with the first contraction.

    (I feel really bad for women who have long labors, I went to the hospital when the contractions were 5-7 minutes apart and "uncomfortable" with my 3, I was in the hospital "in labor" for less than 6 hrs with the first 2 and less than 3 with the 3rd)
  10. by   RN2B2005
    There must be a lot of control freak patients out there....reason #497 that I am NEVER going to be an OB nurse. Ever. You guys are saints.

    The suburban "family-centred" hospital wherein I delivered my son prides itself on "patient-centred" deliveries, whatever that means. They have a little page in their "Becoming Parents" workbook for your birth plan. We actually had a birth plan, but it was pretty simple: Epidural. IV. Get Baby Out. As it turned out, we didn't follow it--no epidural--but the important part of the birth plan, Get Baby Out, was followed successfully.

    I do know that in my Lamaze/Bradley/New Age Nonsense class (sponsored by the hospital and nothing but a HUGE waste of money), the instructor took time to explain that labour and delivery would be "uncomfortable". Seriously. There's even a book out there called "Childbirth Without Pain", written by a man, of course.

    The nurse who placed my IV was reluctant to touch me during ctx, apparently lots of women are angered by the "unnecessary" pain of an IV placement (I told the nurse to get the damn thing in and let me worry about the ctx). Hmm. How in the heck do these patients expect to get any pain meds?

    Too many women--and men--have been spoonfed this stupidness about holistic birth, water birth, hypnobirth, and every other kind of idiocy. We've grown up without measles, polio, and all kinds of other diseases; we've never seen a woman die in childbirth. Therefore, we forget that vaccines are necessary, that C-sections save lives, that pain drugs can ease labour, that medical intervention is sometimes necessary and lifesaving.

    No woman should be ashamed of taking drugs in childbirth, or of having a c-section, and although I had (as it turned out) a drug-free delivery the last time around, there's no guarantee that the next one will be as easy or progress as quickly.

    That's my .02. I hope that woman sends you flowers or something.
  11. by   mother/babyRN
    And why is it the people who probably shouldn't have kids can have them so easily! I just had a g8p0 habitual aborter come in with ecclampsia, go through 36 hours of pit and THEN have a section for non reassuring hr....Of course it was an IVF baby.....

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