Age when you had your first child? - page 6

Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I... Read More

  1. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from dianah
    #1 @ 35
    #2 @ 37

    I just wasn't ready @ age 20. There are both upsides and downsides to having kids "this" late in life, lol! I was more "ready" emotionally, was physically in good shape so the pregnancies weren't a problem. However, as I'm 50 now, I do feel a mite "tarred" these days! And while most of my friends' kids are in college or have graduated from college . . . well, at our house it's us and the teens!!
    I'd rather have a toddler than a teen.

    My 4 year old has all the kitchen utensils out of their drawer and on the floor here making a wedding cake.

    My 16 year old has her ear pressed to a phone yakking, has black eye shadow on so thick it looks like black eyes, gave me a hard time for having to get a ride to school with grandpa.

    I love them both but teens are more challenging. IMO.

    Now just do the math . . . when the 4 year old is sixteen I'll be . ....... .:uhoh21:

    steph
  2. by   jeepgirl
    Hello!
    I was 17 when I had my daughter. She's a joy! I would never go back...
    Having her made me focus and work towards what I wanted in life. I knew I had to become something for her. She gave me motivation.
    I had already graduated high school by the time I became pregnant with her. By the time I was 20, I had graduated with my ADN in Nursing and received my RN license. At 21, I finished my BSN. I'm now 22 and working on my master's degree.
    I've enjoyed success far beyond a lot of my classmates that I went to school with. Most of them are still living at home with their parents. I'm married to a good man, own my home, have a good job.
    I know that I am lucky and that most of the time, teen moms don't have such good outcomes. But for me, it drove me to become a better person - quickly. I sometimes wonder where I would be if I hadn't had my baby when I did.
    This is the first time I've said it on the board, but I am expecting AGAIN! I'm due July 2 of 2006. My husband and I are thrilled.
    But I am much more tired this time. I'm much more stressed. And I know way too much. With my first, I was so carefree...
    I work peds and OB now. I know too much of what can go wrong! To say the least, I am a total headcase with worry sometimes with this pregnancy when I compare it to the other.
    I think that the "best" time for anyone to concieve depends on the person. There is no one answer for everyone.
    Good luck on your paper!
  3. by   VivaLasViejas
    Quote from stevielynn
    I'd rather have a toddler than a teen.

    My 16 year old has her ear pressed to a phone yakking, has black eye shadow on so thick it looks like black eyes, gave me a hard time for having to get a ride to school with grandpa.

    I love them both but teens are more challenging. IMO.

    steph
    Who was it that said: "Having a teenager makes me understand why some species eat their young"??

    Aw, it's all worth it when they're a few years older and they present you with that first grandchild.
  4. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from mjlrn97
    Who was it that said: "Having a teenager makes me understand why some species eat their young"??

    Aw, it's all worth it when they're a few years older and they present you with that first grandchild.
    I hope her older brothers beat her to it. After they get married of course. But they must finish school first.


    steph
  5. by   Dayray
    #1- 16
    #2- 18
    #3- 21
    #4- 23

    Wouldn't change it. At 31 I'm a whole lot wiser then I was at 16 but then again my kids didn't really need my wisdom when they were tiny. At 16-23 I was perfectly able to give them love and attention. Now that they are older I can teach them all sorts of things and now I can also provide for them financially.

    As far as what age is better I think it kind of balances out. When your younger life is less complicated and things like career don't get in the way of raising children. When you're older you're smarter and have more money.

    If I had it to do over again I wouldn't change it. I'm really looking forward to vacations and being able to walk around naked when my kids leave. In 11 years ill be 42 and me and the wife will be newly weds allover again. Hmm maybe I'll finally buy that sports car too......
  6. by   Melody48_MSNEd
    Married at 16...........
    1st baby girl at 17....
    2nd baby girl at 18....
    3rd baby boy at 19...
    Now at 36 and still married to my wonderful husband!
    Also I am going to be a Grandma July 06! My 19 year old is going to have a baby. She is 8 1/2 weeks

    Age is just a number.......
  7. by   calilvn2008
    #1 16
    #2 17

    married 16 .It has been wonderful having them together if I could do it over again would wait till sometime till my 20's.I think it gave me a head start on life and made me realize how important school is.Have been married 5 wonderful years . And have been able to purchase my own home with my husband at 20(and thats in california too!!) So it did give me a head start but lets just say I spent my 21st birthday changing diapers!!:wink2:
  8. by   txspadequeenRN
    #1- 16 lost the baby at 19 weeks
    #2- 17 (1993)
    #3- 24 (2000)
    #4- 25 (2001)
    #5- 26 ( 2002)
    #6- 27 (2003)

    and yes folks I know what caused all this....
  9. by   sixthborn
    I was 18 when I had my daughter. I was also fresh out of high school.( Not recommended) I was 31 with my 2nd child( son) and 32 with my third( son also)..I felt great with my boys and worked up to the day of delivery. I encourage waiting until you are in your early to mid 20's before having kids..Gives you some time to grow up yourself!
  10. by   candykane
    I was 22 when I had my son. I learned my lesson. LOL. He is now 10 and has never wanted any sibilings.
  11. by   CEG
    I had my daughter at 25 and my son a week and a half ago at 26. He is a very easy, laid back baby and so far it has been a pretty easy transition. I am hoping to have 2 more but DH says he is done. We'll see who wants it more.

    When we had DD we were married for three years, both in the military, had traveled extensively, paid off all our bills/student loans/cars, owned a home, etc. Now we are leaving the military and moving- I'm going to nursing school and DH has found a great job.

    I was very happy with the timing- except that DH ended up being in Iraq for the first 9 months of DD's life. Very hard- single mom's deserve a medal for all that they do. This time with him around has been a wonderful experience.
  12. by   BORI-BSNRN
    1st-25
    2nd-27
    3er-30
  13. by   sugabuga
    Thanks for all the replies! My prof is going to flip! It seems as there are pros and cons to any age. I have no children and don't plan to until my late 20s, maybe 30. Do any of you that had your children when you were older worry about your retirement or not being able to spend as much of your life with your grandkids? Dh worries about being too old when the kids get out of school. He's worried he'll never be able to retire. Are his fears valid?

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