Age when you had your first child? - page 2

Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I... Read More

  1. by   ShannonSRN
    I was a very young 18 when I had my first child.
    She is a beautiful 12 year old young lady today, and has a 7 year old sister, and a 5 year old brother.
  2. by   mom and nurse
    Married at 27, 1st child (boy) at 28, 2nd (boy) at 29, 3rd (girl) at 32, then husband and I adopted a 6 year old boy and his almost 7 year old sister when I was 35. :wink2:
  3. by   Faeriewand
    I had my first at age 20. I was tired all the time and would have slept all day if allowed. Baby #2 came along 5 years later and I wasn't so tired Baby #3 came 5 years after that and then baby #4 came 3 years after that.

    5 years apart was not such a good idea. Having the last 2 closer together was better. A little bit closer would have been better.

    It is a misconception that if you have children very young you will be able to keep up with them. No matter what age you are children are a challenge. I was barely able to keep up with my first and I was only 20. I was sooooo tired all the time. As I got older I was a more competent parent and could better "keep up" with my kids and was not as tired.

    (Heck my mom is 68, still works as a home health aid and walks from one city to another and back again which is many many miles. It takes her half the day. She has enough energy for several people! )

    I think the ideal age for starting a family is about age 30. I think you are a better parent at that age, more stable financially and emotionally.
  4. by   purply_hazy
    I was nineteen when I had my son (who's now four and a half years old). Got married to someone six years older than me so I thought he'd be mature enough, but I thought wrong, so I'm now separated by 24.
  5. by   sac. nursing student
    #1 ~26
    #2 ~31
    I wanted to be financially set in order to stay home with both kids. They are 5 years apart because #1 had colic and I was too afraid that #2 would also.
  6. by   RN and Mommy
    I was 22 when I had my daughter. I wouldn't change my life for anything now, but it would be easier if I finished college first. I graduate in May and it has been harder, but it has made my goals more worthwhile knowing I will be able to provide for her.
  7. by   DutchgirlRN
    Age 22 - first pregnancy/fetal demise 22 wks
    Age 24 - second pregnancy/ healthy baby girl !
    Age 32 - third pregnancy/placenta abrupto 20 wks
    Age 34 - fourth pregnancy/ healthy baby boy !

    I'm blessed with two who are now 16 y/o & 24 y/o and a new grandson. My daughter is 24 and this was her first pregnancy, no complications.
  8. by   st4wb3rr33sh0rtc4k3
    Well, I was 17, when I was pregnant. I don't recommend getting pregnant at that age. I was a senior in highschool, and I was pregnant that whole year. I had to put off college, but least I graduated from highschool. And it wasn't fun, especially with the baby's father who wasn't there to help me. My second I had when I was 26, boy what an age gap between them.
  9. by   suzi_h
    #1- 19
    #2- 20
    #3- 22
    I had them all young so I can't say one way or another. Luckily, we are and always have been stable. I think maturity and stability matters, not neccessarily age. As long as your not dirt poor, you can pretty much make the money work. I promise that, we were close to dirt poor with #1 and never went on welfare. I think "financial ready" is too vague to decide when to have one. No one is ever financially ready to have a child. Unless of course you've got close to $200k sitting around for when baby arrives.

    :wink2: Suzi
    Last edit by suzi_h on Nov 29, '05
  10. by   gr8rnpjt
    Quote from sugabuga
    Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I appreciate your responses in advance!

    #1--23
    #2--25
    #3--35
    #4--45

    guess which one was the easiest. Thats right, at age 45 I had my son and had an epidural for the first time!
  11. by   liljulz0613
    I had my son 6 months ago and I'm 19. I got pregnant while going to school and ended up dropping out. I think getting pregnant that young took a toll on me and I just couldn't believe it. I mean I was pregnant by my fiancee and not just some random guy but it still was a shocker. I knew my life was going to be totally different. I had plans and dreams. Once my son was born though, I couldn't have been more happy. I got myself on track and am going to nursing school now. It's hard because I don't get to go clubbing everynight or hang out with my friends but I wouldn't change it for the world. Everyone always tells me how cute he is and how he's so stylish. I tell 'em it's cuz I'm young and stylish too. lol. Personally I wish it would've waited but it's a blessing and I wouldn't change it for anything.
  12. by   sugabuga
    So what would you say is the ideal age?
  13. by   mstigerlily
    Quote from sugabuga
    Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I appreciate your responses in advance!
    #1 23
    #2 32
    #3 35

    I definitely see some advantages to #1. Breezed through everything, never worried, just went with the flow. Got down on hands and knees and crawled around at the park, knees didn't creak then, ran around a lot more with her. BUT did not have patience, resources or experience. Spanked my daughter more than I should have, even though she was basically an easy child.

    With the second, I was sort of learning all over again but remembered some stuff from the first. Was more patient, but not as active. I think I'm the best mom with my third as far as temperment goes but I'm definitely not as spry. I have definite ideas about when the "right" time to have a child is but this has some leeway. I'd say between 18-40 is ok, depending on the parents. Anything sooner or later is too young or too old, IMO.

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