Age when you had your first child? - page 17

Morning everyone! I'm doing a paper for development psych (ugh) and was wondering how old most of you were when you had your first child and what you think the best age to start a family is. I... Read More

  1. by   alilar
    #1- age 23
    #2- age 25

    Two years apart was very difficult for at least the first 4 months. Now my children are the best of friends. As far as a perfect age there is not one. Age is just a number and all people are different. People mature and achieve goals at all different ages. I think the prime time to have a baby is when you are in a nurturing relationship and both partners are in agreement that having a child is right. You don't have to be wealthy just secure enough to provide the things that a child will need.
  2. by   prmenrs
    Yes, Gompers, he was one of my pts. I think I got a bit carried away w/ the "primary nursing" concept!!! OR, primary nursing run amok!
    Last edit by prmenrs on Aug 18, '06
  3. by   nursemama2be
    I got pg with my daughter at 17 and had her at 18...

    I had already graduated high school 2 yrs earlier and was in college.. I think it was the best time for me.. since at 21 i ended up losing an ovary and i have not been able to get pg since then.. diagnosed with unexplained infertility at 25... and now my daughter is turning 8 and she is my pride and joy.. i know being younger i can keep up with her special needs.. i wouldn't want to do this later on...
  4. by   KarryRN
    I got pg with my first when I was 24 and she was born 2 weeks after I turned 25. My second ws born 23 months later, a couple of weeks before I turned 27. My last child was born when I was 29. I wanted to be done by the time I was 30.
  5. by   onesunniegal
    I was 26 y.o. when hubby and I had our little girl. She will be two this November, my where has the time gone!!!

    Only thing about the timing is I wish I was already done with nursing school. I have nine more months left in the program and miss being with her during my class hours.... but other than that was good age for me.
  6. by   crazylilkelly
    So anybody out there that had their first baby @ 30-32 yo & now have them out of the house, do you still feel young in your 50s? I look @ my husband & my parents in their 40s & they aren't lively @ all. In my opinion I think them having kids so young & being super poor took a toll on their energy over the yrs. I guess it doesn't help that they don't eat right or exercise!
  7. by   teresab_2000
    #1 I was 21.
    #2 I am 23 almost 24 (just had her 2 weeks ago).

    Fortunately I finished my 2 year nursing program right as I found out I was pg with #1. I am happy to have my kids this young and have no regrets.
  8. by   Natkat
    I had my first child at 22. I was a horrible mother. I wanted to anything but be at home with her. I wanted to run around and party and left her with some very irresponsible people. I was very irresponsible myself. I also was not financially prepared to have a child and it has taken me most of my adult life to recover from that. I wish I had been more financially stable (and yes there is such a thing as being ready financially). I have been through complete hell because of not having an education and living on poverty wages.

    I remember getting the baby urge again at around age 35. For me that would have been the perfect age to start a family. I was more settled and would have gladly sat around and just watched her hair grow. By then I would have probably had an education and many years of career growth behind me. I might have traveled quite a bit and done just about everything I wanted to do and would have felt much more content to stay at home and be a Mom.
  9. by   kejmq5
    I was 16 when I had my first child. She was a beautiful baby girl. It was definitely to young!!!! But, on the flip side, she is the reason that I am what I am today. I had to strive to obtain my education, to provide the life I wanted for her. She is now 19 and I am very proud of her. My hopes for her is that she gets her education before children. It was very hard and I had alot of long, sleepless nights.
  10. by   LDRNMOMMY
    I just had my first child, a little girl at 28, but I turned 29 a month later.
  11. by   CMCRN
    1st at 16
    2nd at 30
    In between I became an RN. My daughter, the second one, I really did not want to go the early baby route, I wanted her to get an education first. So I took her to Take Your Daughters to Work Day at age 14-15-16. It worked I guess because she is almost 24 and no kids and still in school working on the education
  12. by   Lovely RN
    First son at age 18 second son 4 months ago I am 31. Big age gap yeah I know I feel like I am starting all over form scratch.
  13. by   jenrninmi
    Quote from crazylilkelly
    So anybody out there that had their first baby @ 30-32 yo & now have them out of the house, do you still feel young in your 50s? I look @ my husband & my parents in their 40s & they aren't lively @ all. In my opinion I think them having kids so young & being super poor took a toll on their energy over the yrs. I guess it doesn't help that they don't eat right or exercise!
    My parents had us in there young 20's. They are now mid 50's, retired early and living a great life on the ocean! :spin: I don't think they would have done it any differently.

    I had my daughter at 24, my son at 25 and I wouldn't have done it any differently either. I was married for over 3 years when we had my daughter. We both had associates degrees (not in nursing though), lived paycheck to paycheck, but we were always very happy, attentive parents and very hard working as well.
    Last edit by jenrninmi on Jan 10, '07

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