? about fetus that died in womb - page 2

by mysticalwaters1

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Hey everyone! I just have some questions what I discussed with coworkers: A fellow coworker told me a pregnant friend of his the fetus had died. They did I believe an US (I don't know how old the fetus is) and no heartbeat. ... Read More


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    A one-day wait isn't going to make much difference physically. It's the emotional trauma that I would be concerned about, and the mother should have been told all of her options regarding the birth or removal of the baby.

    I have personal experience with this. My baby was full-term and I went to the hospital d/t lack of movement. An US was performed - no heartbeat. Doctor was called immediately. Since I had already had something to drink that morning, I had to wait 4 hours before he would do the cesarean (I was already scheduled for a cesarean d/t a prior one).

    It was the hardest 4 hours of my life. It did not give me any time to "process" and grieve for the loss, b/c a part of me believed it was all some horrible mistake and I didn't completely believe he was dead until I woke up from anesthesia and asked the doctor. That's when my grieving began.

    In short, barring any contraindications, the mother's wishes should have been followed. If they were not, she should find a new OB.
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    Also, it may be important to look at the practicalities here. Was the woman's so available right then, is this a bigger hospital that could provide for her care on a moment's notice, etc. I worked at a rural hospital briefly and they didn't even have anesthesia in house 24 hours a day. If he was busy on a case or the only OB/GYN in town was busy and a woman came in with a deceased baby, waiting would have been necessary for her safety.
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    Quote from mysticalwaters1
    Hey everyone! I just have some questions what I discussed with coworkers:

    A fellow coworker told me a pregnant friend of his the fetus had died. They did I believe an US (I don't know how old the fetus is) and no heartbeat. So they were going to remove the fetus the next morning.

    1. My question is what is the time frame to remove the fetus if it has died or if the fetus is even removed? My coworker feels the fetus should have been removed that day and his friend shouldn't have to wait an entire day.

    2 and 3. My other question is while the fetus is dead will it harm the mother staying inside? I thought there could be risk of infection and other issues like the fetus detaching causing bleeding issues but I also thought the fetus is still recieving supplies from the mother so how long can that last? I thought if the fetus is almost to full term the baby is delivered naturally?

    My coworker feels it was unethical instead of removing the fetus that day to remove it the next day. My coworker even further states the nurse involved should have acted as a pt advocate and demanded the dead fetus be removed in that same day. Now maybe I'm missing something. I don't know if it was a reg checkup or if she was hospitalized. All I know is the fetus died in the womb, staff were to remove it the next day and my coworker feels that is unethical. Is that true?? I don't think so. I understand the mother being distraught but to even demand the nurse do more?

    I told him I thought you normally remove the fetus but not 100% positive when they deterimine this. Unless there was bleeding isn't one day resonable? I'm sure the mother is a wreck but there are other procedures the staff do. Any thoughts?
    It's not about your co-workers feelings-it's about the mother and father....Nurses should not shoot their mouths off about things they obviously don't know....We can do ALOT of harm because of ignorance...This woman is devastated-she is experiencing all of the feelings that go along with a fetal demise-does she need the added burden this "friend" may be laying on her? I don't think so-he needs to shut his trap...Every situation is different-too many variables to discuss here.Tell your co-worker to be supportive of his friend...and remind him it's not about his feelings.....
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    It also an depend on the age of the fetus, I believe. I know I've heard some places prefer to wait, especially in the earlier gestations because of the very off chance that some sort of mistake was made and they want to ensure that yes the fetus is dead.

    No matter what though, it's a terrible loss and she has my sympathy, as do any mother who have had to suffer it.
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    Wow.

    What an utterly thoughtless and completely inappropriate comment your friend made. I hope this wasn't within earshot of the patient.

    Like others here, I have personal experience (as a father) in this sort of matter. My wife still emotionally suffers from the loss of our daughter (full term, no rational cause) even 2+ years later (and probably will for a very long time). The uninitiated often think that the mother's reaction should be to "get that dead baby out of my belly". It is almost invariably the exact opposite. That mother has spent long months (sometimes years, if you count pre-conception) waiting for that tiny new life to become a real part of their day-to-day life, and in a few cruel moments, that hope is torn from her very soul. She needs time to process the loss and work her way through the inevitable disbelief before having her child taken from her. The physiological risks in most cases are negligible. She will suffer the loss over and over in her mind for years to come. Your friend needs to realize that although the child has died, he/she is no less a person.

    On a similar note, I have run into similar attitudes when it comes to parents wanting to keep the child with them for a time. In trying to remember that most nurses don't know what it's like to lose a child before you've gotten an opportunity to know them, I remind them that if it were their child, they'd probably have trouble letting go too. I do whatever I can to facilitate the parents' grieving process.

    Oh, and for all of you nurses that do have the privilege of caring for these folks, a special request - PLEASE DON'T FORGET ABOUT THE DADS!
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    My condolences.

    Waaay back, a childhood friend's mom was pregnant, and learned at 7 1/2 months that her baby was dead, and had to carry it to term. This was back in the late 60's. Tragic, all around.

    Suebird
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    horrible situation
    maybe what upset the friend is that the mother was really not given a choice and later was upset and told him that she wished that the induction or d/c would have been done at once
    some medical people can be insensitive this is an everyday event to them and it is the most traumatic situation that the patient has ever been subjected to
    my condolences to all who have been in this situation
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    Maybe it was different for me. Everything was "normal" until I was over 4 months along. Then they could not find the kidneys. At 6 months I had to end the pregnancy. Renal Agenesis. Look it up. 13 years ago....asked if there was anything I could do...give a kidney to my baby...was told no.
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    My sister in law lost her baby at 18 weeks. She went in for a routine ultrasound at 18 weeks and they found the baby was dead. This was a shock to the entire family since you figure once the first trimester is over you have nothing to worry about. My own dr told me(I was 14 weeks pregnant when she lost her baby) at 10 weeks when I saw my son's heartbeat that once you see the heartbeat there is only a 5% chance of losing the baby.
    She was scheduled for an induction the next day and on the way in for it her water broke and she delivered her daughter vaginally a short time later. IOt was horrid ordeal because they told her she had a boy and she said it looked like the baby had a tiny penis and it wasn't until they got the DNA back that they discovered she had a really had a little girl. They did all the work ups, DNA, autopsy, etc and they never did find out why the baby died. Waiting gave my mother in law time to come up since she lived over 4 hours way and had to get time off of work and her husband(who was there for the ultrasound) time to get several days off of work to support sister in law.
    She said she was in shock and didn't really pay attention to her choices, and it was really her husband's decision(she just went along with it) to wait as he knew she would need to have the support of her mother when this happened.
    She said she feels it was best to wait, she wouldn't have been able to deal with it if she would have been sent at that moment for an induction.
    Horrible situation no matter how you look at it. I'm sorry for everyone's losses.
    I had a very early miscarriage, I was no more than 2-4 weeks along, I found out I was pregnant by a fluke and was told(I wasn't given a a choice they told me this was what I was going to do) to let nature take it's course and finally got sick of waiting(4-6 weeks later) for nature so I went on the pill and 4 weeks later miscarried the baby when I started my period. I think the woman should be given a choice of what she wants to do. I didn't want to walk around waiting for nature to take it's course, especially after 4-6 weeks of waiting(I knew I wasn't pregnant because I caught pnemonia a week after I was informed that i had lost the baby and the pregnancy test was negative) which is why I grabbed a pack of pills I had around(I got pregnant on the shot) to get it over and done with.


    Taryn
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    This is always a sad situation. We have IUFDs at my hospital way too often for my sanity, but usually as soon as it is discovered (in clinic or triage), they admit the patient and start induction. I find that a lot of people (some staffers, some family members) don't understand why the patient would be subjected to labor only to deliver a dead fetus. They think she should just be given a c-section so that she can get it over with.

    But the real reason for my post: My sister was pregnant in 1989 with her fourth pregnancy. She had delivered a beautiful little girl in 1986 after several years of trying to get pregnant and then miscarried two times after that. About two and a half monts into this pregnancy, she had a period of very heavy vaginal bleeding and went to the doctor. She was told she had miscarried and they scheduled for her to have a d&c done the following week. When she went in for the d&c, they did blood tests and USG per protocol prior to starting procedure and found that she was still pregnant. At 31-2/7 weeks, she SROM'd at work and went to doctor. They sent her to the hospital where she received antibiotics for PPROM and steroids for five days. On the 5th day (32 weeks), they did another USG and found the baby to be breech so decided to c-section her then. Not only was the baby actually not breech, but while the placenta was firmly in place in the fundus, the baby was lying inside the fallopian tube (right at the opening). She was 3 lbs 3 oz and spent 4 weeks in the NICU. She is now 16 years old, 5' 8" tall and weighs about 180 pounds (due to Hashimoto's syndrome).


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