This guy named Gary Ezzo wrote a book called "On Being Babywise" (and has since written several books covering toddlers to teens) and from what I understand one of his teachings is to NOT feed a baby when it is crying, but to feed it on a schedule that THE PARENT deems correct, in order to instil discipline into the child at an early age and show the kid who is in charge. Just let the kid cry and he'll eventually stop is his rationale. Allegedly he is a proponent of other things too, like spanking at a VERY early age (like around 6-8 months to 2 years old), and sending a child to his room if he's sucking his thumb (at an appropriate age). My friend said something about not letting the toddler child out of his room if he insists on sucking his thumb. (!)
Here is part of an article I found from Ladies Home Journal discussing this controversial method.
Babies in Danger?(controversial child rearing)
Author/s: Jenny Deam
Issue: April, 1999
These two families followed a popular but controversial child-rearing program. One says their children thrived; the other says their baby's health suffered. Does this parenting method go too far?
Jennifer Kambas didn't know what to do. Her newborn daughter, Elizabeth, wouldn't stop crying. Kambas, thirty-six, longed to comfort her, but in the parenting class she and her husband had taken, they had been warned that picking up the baby every time she cried would only encourage her to cry more.
The Kambases were well-educated professionals, but when it came to babies, they were lost. Their friends and their faith pointed them to one man: Gary Ezzo, a conservative Christian minister who has created a controversial child-rearing plan designed to mold infants into well-behaved, respectful children. His program has become increasingly popular--almost two million parents across the country have now tried it.
When Kambas became pregnant, she and her husband took one of Ezzo's "Preparation for Parenting" classes near their home in Laguna Beach, California. A cornerstone of the minister's teachings is that new parents must instill order in their homes to stave off exhaustion. Kambas liked Ezzo's idea of feeding her baby every two and a half to three hours--rather than on demand, as other experts advised--so that the infant would sleep through the night by eight weeks.
But when Kambas mentioned the program in her Lamaze class, the instructor advised her not to follow the Ezzo schedule. There had been problems, she said, of babies not gaining enough weight, or failing to thrive from not being fed often enough. After Elizabeth was born, three pediatric nurses at the hospital also told her to feed the baby on demand.
"I ignored them all," Kambas admits. "The woman who taught our [Ezzo parenting] class said, `They're going to tell you in the hospital to feed the baby when the baby is hungry.... Just smile at them.'"
But once Elizabeth came home, "She would cry and cry, but we wouldn't feed her because it wasn't time," Kambas says. "I called the person who taught the class. She said [Elizabeth] was probably just getting used to her schedule."
"We were so stupid," Kambas says. "But I really believed that this program was the most biblically based."
When Elizabeth was five weeks old, she cried so long and hard one night that Kambas became frightened and rushed her to an all-night clinic. The doctor there weighed the baby and discovered that she had gained less than a pound and a half since birth. (Typically, a baby has gained more than two pounds by this time.) The doctor turned to Kambas and asked, "What's going on here?" She broke down and told the clinic staff about the feeding schedule she had Elizabeth on.
The doctor was adamant: Kambas had to start feeding Elizabeth more often. That night, she began to feed Elizabeth on demand. In seventeen days, the baby gained nearly five pounds.
Looking back, Kambas is tormented by the thought of what she did to her baby. "[She] was so little," Kambas says. "We were starving her."
This guy has twisted the scripture where Jesus wonders why his Father has forsaken him on the cross....and has used that as reason for denying a crying baby a breast.
I figured if my friend's nurses knew enough to warn her to avoid the book at the hospital, there would be nurses here familliar with this. I would hate to see my friend struggle with her breast feeding because she isn't feeding her child enough BUT she swears by this stuff.