Turning single parents into nurses - page 12

(New York-WABC, December 12, 2006) -- There is a unique free program aimed at filling the acute shortage of nurses and, perhaps more importantly, getting single parents educated and back into the... Read More

  1. by   ShortStackRN
    Quote from rph3664
    Not just single mothers.

    Single fathers have the same challenges - often worse, because if a single man has custody of children, oftentimes the mother is deceased or not in the picture. They also have to deal with the vilification society has for them - after all, he must have killed her, or just didn't want to pay child support.

    I'm very aware that many single moms also have fathers who aren't in the picture, for whatever reason.
    You are so right! And after I posted this I actually sat down and thought about this fact and was going to come back and say something about single fathers. I actually have 2 men in my class that are both single fathers...one has 2 boys and one has 1 little girl...both have custody of their children because they have deadbeat moms. They are two of the smartest, hardworking men I've ever met! I have much respect for men in this field...especially men who are raising children.
  2. by   rph3664
    I've known not a small number of divorced women (and a few who were never married) who had jobs where they worked odd hours, and the child's father was the child care provider. And no, they did not consider him to be a free babysitter. He's their DAD.

    Why not? Even if the mom and dad don't have a friendly relationship, the overwhelming majority of women want their kids to have a good relationship with their fathers.

    The one person I have ever known who had a live-in nanny was a man who had two kids, one of them severely retarded and to my knowledge nobody knows why, and his wife had left him (although not because of this) and at the time was not in the picture. His job was one with irregular hours, and he found out that a nanny was less expensive than special needs day care, and in addition she could watch his son too, as well as doing some light housework. Some people criticized him for this, but what business is it of theirs? He did what was right for his family.
  3. by   I love my cat!
    I wonder how the original 5 women and this program are doing?
    The program was started over a year ago and it would be interesting to see how they are doing at this point. Do they even like Nursing? Love nursing? Hate it? Did they get married? Have more kids? Are they still able to attend classes? Are they happy and healthy? Lots of factors to consider.....

    Also, the program is being funded with $8 MILLION dollars (according to the article). So there must be thousands of other women and men (with children) that will be/are using this resource.
  4. by   lizmatt
    Do they even like Nursing? Love nursing? Hate it? Did they get married? Have more kids? Are they still able to attend classes? Are they happy and healthy? Lots of factors to consider.....
    I think any of these are a possibility. I think a lot of the posts on here make it seem like these were random single mothers who it was decided for them that they would become nurses. But even in the article one of the students stated that she has wanted to be a nurse forever. I am pretty sure these were women who had a previous interest in nursing.

    So like any student entering nursing school - they may like or hate it. The single parents are no different.
  5. by   I love my cat!
    Quote from lizmatt
    I think any of these are a possibility. I think a lot of the posts on here make it seem like these were random single mothers who it was decided for them that they would become nurses. But even in the article one of the students stated that she has wanted to be a nurse forever.

    I am pretty sure these were women who had a previous interest in nursing.

    So like any student entering nursing school - they may like or hate it.
    The single parents are no different.
    These women are different in some ways, IMO.

    I went to school with students that wanted to be "Nurses forever" and ended up quitting. Some finished the program and never went into Nursing. Ever. Just because you think you will like something, doesn't mean you will. The students that I were in classes with weren't going to lose their housing if they quit the program. I imagine these women would.
    The other difference between these students and the students that I was in school with are that these women are having their lives and education funded, 100%, no money to pay back.

    Some people suffer with a lot of guilt when things are handed to them.
    I would hate to think that they have gotten into this program and then realize, Nursing is not for them, are unhappy with it, but are staying in the program because they don't want to appear ungrateful by quitting. Or perhaps, their living situation is better now, so it's worth sticking out the program.

    That is why I was wondering how they were doing.
  6. by   lizmatt
    Ok, I understand now. That makes sense. Being in a program like that is a lot of pressure from outside sources who are always judging - especially some who have contributed financially.

    (I have experienced this pressure as I am in a similar program - though only our housing is funded and it is not only for nursing)
  7. by   statphleb SN
    I am single mom of 4 "fatherless" children--not because of divorce or because of death(oh, how i wish)---but because in my younger years i was stupid and "popped out" babies to the first moron who had a glowing "L" on his forehead---that said i work my a** off to pay the bills(no not on welfare), i go to and pay for nursing school(again not welfare), i spend quality time with my children(being both mom & dad), and deal with the stress of having a child with a disability(no sob story-just facts)... i think this program sounds wonderful--and i wish all those women luck(im green with envy)---to some of the other comments i have read here--not every single mom thinks the world owes her---i made my bed , i'll lie in it!!:angryfire
  8. by   I love my cat!
    Quote from statphleb SN
    I am single mom of 4 "fatherless" children--not because of divorce or because of death(oh, how i wish)---but because in my younger years i was stupid and "popped out" babies to the first moron who had a glowing "L" on his forehead---that said i work my a** off to pay the bills(no not on welfare), i go to and pay for nursing school(again not welfare), i spend quality time with my children(being both mom & dad), and deal with the stress of having a child with a disability(no sob story-just facts)... i think this program sounds wonderful--and i wish all those women luck(im green with envy)---to some of the other comments i have read here--not every single mom thinks the world owes her---i made my bed , i'll lie in it!!:angryfire
    Boy, that is a lot to deal with!
    I would encourage you to go to the State and see if you can get some assistance. I know you are doing all of this on your own, but if financial help is there, you should really try to use it! I know that you don't feel that anything is owed to you, but I think you should try to use what could make your life easier for you and your children.
    I went to school with many single moms and many (not all) had financial assistance from the State as well as other resources.
    They had almost all of their tuition covered and their books were paid for. They received childcare for almost nothing and could be reimbursed for the gas that was used to transport their kids to and from daycare. They also has subsidized housing, assistance with their phone and electrical bills.....as well as food stamps.
    Over the years, some of the moms needed medical care (surgery). Their bills were covered because they had a dependent child under the age of 18.
    Sure, some people abused these privileges, but most did not. I have kept in touch with a few of these women and most are still in the Nursing profession, too.

    I don't think that there is anything wrong with receiving assistance if the assistance is being used to make your life better!

    (I do have to add, I was in school many years ago, so I honestly don't know if assistance is so readily available to single parents in school anymore....I'm assuming that there is, but then again, never asume anything, right? )

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