STUDY: Most Doctors Decline 'Friend' Requests From Patients - page 2

Here is an interesting article abstract from the Journal of Medical Ethics. Even though this is specific to doctors, I am sure the similar concerns would hold true to nurses and patients. I think... Read More

  1. by   Meriwhen
    I can't say I blame the doctors for refusing. I would if it were me.
  2. by   dbscandy
    Quote from CrazierThanYou
    What is eeeeuuuuwwwww about that?
    Nothing...unless it was about a week after the funeral!!!
  3. by   dbscandy
    I use facebook to see pics of my family and friends, their kids and pets. I do have former babies' parents as 'friends'; they catch me up on the baby's wt gain, milestones, trips, Dad's 'visits' to Afghanistan, new pregnancies (wow), etc. What's happening in my/their lives, not professional details.

    I know some folks who lost their jobs over much less then Ms James. And they were soooo shocked when it happened.

    Facebook may be a fun & sophisticated tool for the 21st century, but some people have never learned to keep their mouths shut, and common sense usually can't be learned.
  4. by   hecallsmeDuchess
    My policy has always been not to allow people from work as friends on facebook. My co-workers are not my friends, we are simply colleagues and that is what we'll happily be. I just don't want my personal life becoming fodder for unit gossip.
  5. by   VickyRN
    A mandatory training course we are required to take on "Preventing Workplace Harassment" for our university has a case study involving a fictional character "Pat" and states the following in regards to anything posted on FB that a befriended coworker can see:

    Pat works in the Admissions Office and he was pleasantly surprised last week to get an invitation to "friend" his manager on Facebook. Pat accepted the invite and discovered there were several people in his Department posting comments on Facebook.

    The other day he received a message from a co-worker who wrote - "What is up with kids these days? Everyone seems to be on meds and there's a disorder for everything. What happened to the good old days when people just worked through their issues without meds?" The co-worker's comment on Facebook garnered a few like-minded responses from some of Pat's colleagues.

    Pat now feels uncomfortable and is surprised his manager didn't put a stop to the posts or say something. Unknown to his colleagues, Pat takes medicine for a condition he has. The medicine helps him overcome his challenges and function well. However, Pat was just about to ask his manager for a modified work schedule for a week or two since his doctor is changing his medication and Pat is bound to have some side-effects. But, given the Facebook posts, Pat is reluctant to ask for anything.
    The general guideline is: If conduct or communication negatively affects or impacts the organization, then it becomes the business of the organization - so don't be surprised by management concerns or discipline.
    Pat says he was going to request a schedule accommodation due to his new medication, but the Facebook posts make him uncomfortable and hesitant to ask for that. Accordingly, the Facebook posts hinder Pat's ability to... Request a reasonable accommodation.
    By law, employees with a disability have a right to request a reasonable accommodation that will help them to do their job. By making him uncomfortable and fearful of co-worker perceptions and reactions, the Facebook posts are hindering Pat's ability to request a reasonable accommodation when acclimating to his new medication. Expressions or other signs of intolerance sometimes have unintended consequences as seen here. Therefore, whether we're on the employer premises or not, we don't ever want to say or do anything to make people feel uncomfortable about their protected background (whether their gender, age, religion, disability, etc.) or feel excluded.
  6. by   traumaRUs
    Yep - I wouldn't friend or accept a friend request from a pt. Now, the docs in our practice and all of us are frineds but still even on FB we are very very professional and there is nothing that could be taken out of context.
  7. by   Ruby Vee
    it seems very wise to decline "friend" requests from patients -- for doctors or nurses. i wonder what a similar study would reveal about nurses and friend requests.

    i'm very selective about who i "friend" -- i only friend actual friends and relatives whom i like. i've gotten a few friend requests from co-workers and just ignored them for months on end. if they're not an actual friend, i don't see the point.

    i'm a bit freaked out, though, because i recieved a friend request today from my neice's new boyfriend. i just met him over the weekend. i'm not sure that i want to be that friendly with the guy -- he's a very nice guy, but i forsee it being awkward of they break up or something! besides, he doesn't need to see pictures of his girlfriend's aunt and uncle on a cruise or of our dog, etc.
  8. by   nurseclm
    My physician decided to accept my request because I am an RN and I think she knows I am not going to be sending anything other than "Hi." Most patients don't get this professional relationship and how it must stay that way. So the term "friend" will be misinterpreted.
  9. by   Finally2003NP-C
    Isn't it amazing how a social network can alter the professional perception of your provider? Folks, be aware that the professional who treats you also has a personal life. All providers put their pants/skirts on one leg at a time, all go to the bathroom at least daily, and occasionally let the dogs loose. That being said, anyone (professionals and nonprofessional) who post pictures and private information on a social network should be ready to "have rocks thrown at their greenhouse."
    Personally, any provider who uses a social network should have their head examined. It only leads to inuendo and/or undue attention. I do not tweet,twit,or face on any level. All professionals should heed the advice. Regardless of how you feel about it, clients expect a professional demeanor and will not tolerate the smallest infraction.
  10. by   linearthinker
    I don't do this social network business, but if I did, no I certainly would never "friend" patients or coworkers. For that matter, there is no way I would ever use my real name either.
  11. by   NeoNurseTX
    We have a few nurses that friend a lot of the NICU moms. I refuse. If they want to send me pictures of their baby growing up if I primaried them, I'll give them my email.
  12. by   Student-Nurse-Mouse
    I use face book, but have all the sercurity setting to friends only. I have a few pictures that have been tagged of me while out partying, but as my Mum is on facebook too, I heavily censor and edit what goes on my page.
    I ocasioanlly whine about work on fb, but only ever in a 'that was a hard shift, looking forward to days off' kind of way.
    I have one ex patient on my fb, but it was from over a year ago, (and he turned up in my social group) but thats it. I wouldnt dream of adding patients if they were just atients as friends, and also I'm warey about adding co-workers.