Quote from earle58
hmmmmmm. at the risk of sounding arrogant, i've always believed that the suppression of any negative emotions merely add stressors to your bod and put you at a much higher risk to a number of ailments. it's that mind-body conection that can either prevent or elicit a number of diseases, including ca.....yes, it's unfounded but just has always what i believed.
well, according to this article, looks like dh is going to live til he's 200 yo.
You are not at all arrogant.
My mothers mother expressed her emotions. She would say what she felt and thought to anyone. If upset she talked and talked. She confronted what she perceived as injustice head on, no attempt at tact. Because of her honesty she had many friends.
She was diagnosed with diabetes in 1932, the year insulin became available.
She followed her diet, took her insulin, and tested her urine.
I never knew her to have ketoacidosis or be hospitalized for her diabetes.
My mother was diagnosed with IDDM in 1942. She was rigid about her diet, measuring and weighing food.
She was nearly always pleasant and polite. She tried to help others. Once she tried to help a woman whose husband was abusive. Another time she called a couple she didn't know to tell them they were missing out on a relationship with their beautiful grandchildren. They had disowned their daughter for marrying a man with a different faith. She was calm but upset that they told her to mind her own business.
When my sister told her she was filing for divorce her blood sugar went over 600. She had kept her calm demeanor trying to gather information and convince my sister to reconsider.
Then she drove herself to the ER.
My Mom died at age 54 of an MI with all the usual complications of diabetes.
Grandma lived to be 81. Still with a temper.
Science is just now studying what has been common wisdom for ages.
If your DH is open with his frustrations and opinions I bet he lives a long time.