Compassion...try it yourself before you start bashing nurses - page 2

by wooh

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    Nurses are the last port of call.

    I like that, and very often it's true. Thanks, Wooh.
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    Quote from DizzyLizzyNurse
    I'm sure everyone's had rude nurses. Just like there are rude bank tellers, rude cashiers, rude doctors, rude secretaries, etc.

    I'll never forget I did my first CPR on someone a couple months ago. After the person was revived and sent to ICU, the PCA said, "Mrs So and so is asking for an Ambien." I walked in there just to hear, "Where the hell have you been? I've been asking for 20 minutes for my Ambien!!" I was shocked. I can't believe it would never cross her mind that there could be anything more important than her Ambien on the floor. I did tell her, "Someone coded. I was doing CPR." She got to be the shocked person then.
    HAHAHA, I have had patient's complain that we turned the lights on to code the person in the next bed, come in during a rapid to demand pain meds and refuse to leave until she got them because she asked for them before this other patient decided to crump. No shock or apologies at all. My favorite is a patient I had promised to bring water too and then we found another patient in trouble. Took me all of 15 minutes to get his water. His response "I guess I should just die of thirst before expecting water from you." When I explained my delay his response "Your MY nurse, I should come first!" This is why I like dogs better than most people.
    jmll1765, noyesno, rumwynnieRN, and 8 others like this.
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    Quote from brandy1017
    If we had a code in a double room someone would always take the other patient out into the hall and try to get them a different room so they weren't exposed to the whole situation.
    ​Sometimes that just isn't possible. But really? This is what you wanted to add to a thread about Compassion: Try It Yourself Before Bashing Nurses?
    AngelicDarkness, wooh, applewhitern, and 2 others like this.
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    Compassion is a very difficult thing. It's easy -- when you're not getting what you want or feel you are entitled to -- to bash nurses for lacking it. But very difficult to keep it front and center for 12 straight hours when confronted with the yahoos described above.

    I've tried caring for my mother in her home during the early stages of her Alzheimer's, and I felt somewhat like the author of the article. I couldn't take my eyes off of her for even a minute for fear she'd wander off, burn the house down or cause some other harm to herself or others. I got to sleep -- the minute I'd close my eyes Mom would be out of bed and into trouble. I couldn't even close the bathroom door to use the toilet.
    When she went to assisted living, it was the best thing that could have happened to either of us.

    Still, there are plenty of people to tell me that they'd never let THEIR relative end up in a HOME because they LOVE them too much. Compassion: try it on first.
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    Quote from DizzyLizzyNurse
    I'm sure everyone's had rude nurses. Just like there are rude bank tellers, rude cashiers, rude doctors, rude secretaries, etc.

    I'll never forget I did my first CPR on someone a couple months ago. After the person was revived and sent to ICU, the PCA said, "Mrs So and so is asking for an Ambien." I walked in there just to hear, "Where the hell have you been? I've been asking for 20 minutes for my Ambien!!" I was shocked. I can't believe it would never cross her mind that there could be anything more important than her Ambien on the floor. I did tell her, "Someone coded. I was doing CPR." She got to be the shocked person then.
    A surprising amount of people just are 'like that', i.e., selfish and freakin' rude. I won't lie - it feels good to offer a well-placed comment, burst their bubble AND make them think.

    I've never worked a TRUE 'customer service' type job and with good reason. I'm not a 'customer service-y' type person. It's one thing if someone has a mental illness of some sort and quite another if they're lucid, aware and just flying off the handle/being ugly and mean because 'that's just how they are'.
    Seems like this is required and I never knew that until I joined the nursing sector of the hospital.
    To be honest, I'm very much ill-suited for that aspect of the job.
    That's all that I have to say.
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    Quote from Ruby Vee
    Still, there are plenty of people to tell me that they'd never let THEIR relative end up in a HOME because they LOVE them too much. Compassion: try it on first.
    Ugh! For some, it seems that compassion flies right out the window when an opportunity to prove their own superiority presents itself.

    I can't even believe someone would feel they have the right to speak to how another person handles such a situation. Makes me want to throttle them. Really? You would have done it differently..meaning better? Well bully for you! Instead of judging others why don't you go home, get down on your knees, and thank God you've never had to make such a decision!

    My family experienced similar judgements when my brother and sister in law withdrew care for my brain dead nephew. It has made me a little bitter. The nerve of some people!
    tnmarie, DizzyLizzyNurse, poppycat, and 2 others like this.
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    Quote from Ruby Vee
    Compassion is a very difficult thing. It's easy -- when you're not getting what you want or feel you are entitled to -- to bash nurses for lacking it. But very difficult to keep it front and center for 12 straight hours when confronted with the yahoos described above.

    I've tried caring for my mother in her home during the early stages of her Alzheimer's, and I felt somewhat like the author of the article. I couldn't take my eyes off of her for even a minute for fear she'd wander off, burn the house down or cause some other harm to herself or others. I got to sleep -- the minute I'd close my eyes Mom would be out of bed and into trouble. I couldn't even close the bathroom door to use the toilet.
    When she went to assisted living, it was the best thing that could have happened to either of us.

    Still, there are plenty of people to tell me that they'd never let THEIR relative end up in a HOME because they LOVE them too much. Compassion: try it on first.

    It's a difficult thing to deal with an alzheimer's stricken individual. Takes a lot out of a caregiver. The people who made such comments were probably looking at the situation generically.
    They just don't understand. That's usually the problem.

    I can say that 'we' (at my facility) never judge the family members of our residents...because you really don't know. Even if they never visit or sever ties...because there's always a reason behind. A back-story.
    All the same, everyone doesn't have the resources, time or ability to care for the loved ones. So, it's proper to place the resident in a place that can monitor them 24/7.

    We have our confused (and combative) wanderers and they're a handful...LOL
    All last evening, we had 3 of them. 1 amb ex-boxer. 1 90 yr old in a w/c. 1 70 year old in a daisy chair.
    In and out of rooms. In and out of everyone's bed... and fighting with each other.
    They're great.
    I wish that I could take people to work with me. They'd get a chuckle! The greatest irony? The 90 year old little woman used to be a schoolteacher and she is the biggest bully of them all! "Get out!" ; "MOVE!"
    She's territorial, honey.
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    Its harder to praise than to fault. Remember to encourage your colleagues and support those who may be afraid to ask for it.
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    Nurses are human beings, they become rude, angry or even sad depending on the situation. So, one has to be more understanding about them but then again nurses should also control themselves especially when it comes to patients who may try your patience.
    DizzyLizzyNurse likes this.
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    Quote from Ruas61
    It seems like the UK is having a media expose of their NHS. This is like the third article I have seen in as many days for very disturbing trends and deaths.
    It's the daily mail. I'm not sure what their agenda is, but they have it in for nurses and the NHS. Their articles are meant to stir people up, but like I said, no idea what their agenda is.


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