Compassion...try it yourself before you start bashing nurses - page 3
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1Mar 5, '13 by Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN GuideQuote from MedChicaI appreciate your post. My mom has dementia (not sure what kind) and it became too dangerous for her to live at home as she would wander off regularly. Many times walking 1.5 miles to our local hospital ER. She started out in a local Alzheimer's unit but was so angry about being placed in the "loony bin" that she got combative. They didn't have enough staff to do one-on-one so had to hire traveling CNA's . . .who of course get paid more than nurses. It took about 3 months to find a suitable facility (lock down) to handle her. She's now about 6 hours away and initially is was tough - she fell and broke her hip, had surgery, her dementia increased. She's become less combative and has acclimated. She talks in that "word salad" but occasionally makes sense. Flirts with the handsome male CNA's. (They are very handsome!!). She walks all day long. She's safe.It's a difficult thing to deal with an alzheimer's stricken individual. Takes a lot out of a caregiver. The people who made such comments were probably looking at the situation generically.
They just don't understand. That's usually the problem.
I can say that 'we' (at my facility) never judge the family members of our residents...because you really don't know. Even if they never visit or sever ties...because there's always a reason behind. A back-story.
All the same, everyone doesn't have the resources, time or ability to care for the loved ones. So, it's proper to place the resident in a place that can monitor them 24/7.
We have our confused (and combative) wanderers and they're a handful...LOL
All last evening, we had 3 of them. 1 amb ex-boxer. 1 90 yr old in a w/c. 1 70 year old in a daisy chair.
In and out of rooms. In and out of everyone's bed... and fighting with each other.
I wish that I could take people to work with me. They'd get a chuckle! The greatest irony? The 90 year old little woman used to be a schoolteacher and she is the biggest bully of them all! "Get out!" ; "MOVE!"
She's territorial, honey.
And yes, there is a twinge of guilt because all her life she stated frequently that she didn't want to be put into a "loony bin". But it was the right choice.
So, thank you very much for all you do. In visiting this place, everyone is a little bit "crazier" than the normal run-of-the-mill folks in a nursing home. I love visiting and chatting with mom's neighbors. Oh . . she's known as "Ms. Klepto" . . .she is in and out of rooms too. On one visit I found another patient's SS Card & Driver's License, which I took to the nurse who said "This lady isn't here anymore".