Sorry to be so negative, but I've gone on 5 interviews and I still can't secure my first nursing job. I got laid off from my job as a CNA a couple of weeks ago, I'm only getting unemployment for now. I still live at home with my parents so it's not so bad. I lost touch with nearly all my friends since I've graduated which stinks. Makes me feel so lonely. I feel like I'm spiraling into a depression. Sometimes I have trouble even getting out of bed and just taking care of myself lately.
The last recruiter I spoke to told me that I come off as very sweet and like a pushover. I appreciate the honesty and constructive criticism, but come on -- someone's gotta give me a chance to prove that I'm not a pushover, that I am strong, and that I can handle whatever challenge comes my way. How can they judge me after only meeting me once??? It's so frustrating and unfair.
I feel like all these rejections are the Universe's way of telling me that I'm not cut out for nursing! That I should just give up now because I don't fit the exact mold... Just because I don't fit into the box of what they think makes a great nurse. Well, they're the ones losing out on a great nurse... =(
Feb 18, '13
by not.done.yet, MSN, RN Guide
Quote from yourstrulyjmc
The last recruiter I spoke to told me that I come off as very sweet and like a pushover. I appreciate the honesty and constructive criticism, but come on -- someone's gotta give me a chance to prove that I'm not a pushover, that I am strong, and that I can handle whatever challenge comes my way. How can they judge me after only meeting me once??? It's so frustrating and unfair. I feel like all these rejections are the Universe's way of telling me that I'm not cut out for nursing! That I should just give up now because I don't fit the exact mold... Just because I don't fit into the box of what they think makes a great nurse. Well, they're the ones losing out on a great nurse... =(
Well, no actually. You are completely wrong.You are struggling and I hope you will read this with a note of kindness in the tone, as that is intended in this reply.
Nobody owes you a chance. Every opening right now has literally hundreds of applications. Why would anyone, in this job environment, pass by applicants who are exactly what the employer is looking for to "give a chance" to someone who isn't? Think about that for a second. Nobody owes you anything here.
You have been given fantastic feedback and are choosing to whine about the unfairness of it instead of acting on it. Few people are given the gift of feedback post interviews and to not take it and tweak your approach would be so foolish! You obviously look good on paper -five interviews is huge these days. So whatever is going on, you are failing to close the deal during the interview process.
Here is what I suggest you do:Get good at verbalizing your strengths and your passion. Don't be quiet about it. Ask questions about things at the job, like nurse to patient ratio and how much turnover have they had in the last year. These questions communicate a lot. It shows you aren't hoping for a chance, you are shopping for an employer. Done well, it communicates the ability to speak up on hard issues. It negates the idea of a " push over". Ask questions and have a CONVERSATION, not merely answering questions put to you. Look people in the eye. Smile and seem excited to be there. Shake hands firmly. Have in the back of your mind that you are interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. This automatically takes away the sense of desperation and meekness you are apparently communicating during your interviews, both verbally and nonverbally. At the end, shake hands, look the manager in the eye and state outright you would love to work there.
Don't get sucked in by "unfair". Once you imagine yourself a victim you have sucked away your own power. Listen to the feedback and change your approach. Nobody owes you a chance. You have to earn it. You are not yet a "good nurse". You are a new grad trying to earn the opportunity to learn to become a good nurse. All you have to offer right now over alllllll the other new grads who want the same thing you do -is the ability to make them want to work with you. You have been told you are failing to do that and you have been told exactly HOW you are failing! That is golden! Five interviews means you look good from afar. Now show them you are a personality that can handle the intense pressure of nursing. Be happy, be confident, be excited, dress appropriately and close the deal. Whatever you do, don't get sucked into "no fair", because no fair is a lie that will keep you from what you want. Nobody ever promised you a chance. You have to earn your spot. You have been told how to do it. Most people don't even get that much.
Last edit by not.done.yet on Feb 18, '13
Feb 19, '13
Thanks everyone... and you guys are right, I am on a "pity party" and I know I need to stop because it's just gonna become a vicious cycle. There are plenty of people experiencing much worse in their lives than I am. So thank you for the "tough" answers because I need to hear that -- didn't realize how whiny I sounded lol. It's true that if you see yourself as the victim, you give up the control you have over changing the situation. Yeah this situation stinks and it's partly due to the economy too, but I just need to make the choice to work on my confidence, self esteem/insecurities (things within my control). Even if I have to fake it for now, just for the interviews...
Anyone have any tips for that? I don't want to project that kind of image...
Last edit by yourstrulyjmc on Feb 19, '13