My 9 year old patient was raped and required surgery - page 27
by ssouthernyankee 68,651 Views | 321 Comments
I currently have a 9 year old girl I am taking care of on unit. She was raped resulting in surgical repair to entire pelvic floor and also needed a colostomy. As I change her sheets and such I just don't know what to do. I cry... Read More
- 2Feb 27, '09 by ssouthernyankeeQuote from flygirl43Thank you for the support and kind words. We are both doing great.She is so lucky to have you as an nurse. Advocate for her and make her your cause right now. You obviouslly need to do this from your own standpoint of healing; professionally and emotionally. You are the care giver....advocate advocate, advocate and love, love ,love, love, love. She is lucky to have you. Be strong for her! She needs you! In an incredible way! You are an awesome nurse. Be there for her. It's your job! (and Im sure, your compassion!!!!!) Good luck. Do one for the team! We are behind you!
- 4Mar 4, '09 by llltappJust read through this entire post..... wiping my face, neck, and chest up from all the water I've been spewing out of my eyes (you know the visual) lol. I was soooo happy to hear she is talking back!!! That means something special... yes she is comfortable now. Just a smallllllllll word of advice from someone who has no business giving any advice lol, make sure you treat her normally too. If she does something wrong, correct her. Children LOVE boundaries and being held accountable. It shows you care. A very well-respected PNP colleague of mine was telling me the other day, when kids have been through something horrible, they need structure and boundaries just as much as those who haven't, even more so. Just thought I'd pass that on to you. I LOVE what you have done! God bless you, her, your family, and your coworkers who finally came around!! Nothing happens by coincidence, God's hand is all over this situation
- 11Mar 4, '09 by ssouthernyankeeOkay everyone, drumroll please...........My little girl's "father" has plead GUILTY, now all we are waiting for is sentencing. We are so relieved it feels like a ton has been lifted off of me. She is doing wonderful, she got into my makeup yesterday and "painted" herself and the bathroom. I walked in and caught her with mascara in her hand I just busted out laughing, good parenting huh? lol. So far she hasn't really done much to need my getting on to her the mouthing back hasn't been bad but if it does get out of hand I will start gentle disciplining, I try to treat her the same way I do my other kiddos, but again I'm not much on strict parenting with them either and so far they are very well behaved, well mannered and compassionate kids. Hopefully I am not messing up too much.lol. Thanks again for all of the support, this has been an amazing and heartwrenching journey at the same time. Thanks for sharing in it with me.
- 3Mar 4, '09 by sharpeimom GuideMay he be the plat du jour when he finally goes to prison!! I speak "French student French" and have taken several trips there but my husband lived and taught there while finishing his dissertation and maybe could think of a better expression but this is the best I can do for now. A plat du jour is equal to our special of the day or a blue plate special. May he "git as good as he gave." Sorry, but I worked with child survivors who had been raped and sodomized for too long. Hence, my five year break. We can all rejoice for two men going to prison. The above-fold headline this morning was "____ gets sent away and child's family celebrates!" There really IS a G*D!!
- 2Mar 5, '09 by ksangeloh my godness. what a story. i hope you and the little girl continue to do well. this is probably why i dont do peds....i like kids.... have bad attitude when it comes to parents abusing the children
THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE FOR THE CHILD.!!!!
- 5Mar 6, '09 by llltappI'm still thinking about both of your struggles. Ya know, someday, when she grows up, wouldn't it be great to see you two write a therapeutic book about this together. What a gift that book would be to everyone..... the survivors, nurses, the both of you, and the entire world. As I began reading the thread, I have to admit, the ER cynic came out in me.... I was thinking like your coworkers a little bit, "don't get too close, she will have to detach from you and it will hurt, you must not let your issues get in the way......." Then after the second page, I thought, who CARES about the unwritten "rules". Do what you feel is right for yourself and the little girl. This is God's world, not ours, who are we to interfere with love.............. You taught me something.
- 2Mar 6, '09 by ssouthernyankeeQuote from llltappThank you so much, reading this has brought tears to my eyes. I cannot wait to see how she blossoms and how our bond continues to grow stronger. A book would be an awesome idea when she is grown up. Thanks for agreeing with me on just doing what feels right. I am so thankful for this site, all of you have helped me more than you could ever possibly know.I'm still thinking about both of your struggles. Ya know, someday, when she grows up, wouldn't it be great to see you two write a therapeutic book about this together. What a gift that book would be to everyone..... the survivors, nurses, the both of you, and the entire world. As I began reading the thread, I have to admit, the ER cynic came out in me.... I was thinking like your coworkers a little bit, "don't get too close, she will have to detach from you and it will hurt, you must not let your issues get in the way......." Then after the second page, I thought, who CARES about the unwritten "rules". Do what you feel is right for yourself and the little girl. This is God's world, not ours, who are we to interfere with love.............. You taught me something.
- 8Mar 6, '09 by ssouthernyankeeI forgot to add that I just got a second foster child placed in my home, a 16 year old who was sexually abused by her stepfather. She's been in the system for awhile and was having trouble bonding with other foster parents. The case worker called and asked if I would come meet her. I went to the office and met her, beautiful girl. Right away she warmed up to me. Then she started laughing, I asked what was so funny and she said " I am so much bigger than you, you are a skinny minny" After visiting for about 2 hours, we both decided we wanted to try the placement. She then asked me to sit on her knee and had the caseworker take a picture. She came home with me that evening. She's doing great, she's so good with my little one and my kiddos. All of them have already warmed up to her. I seem to draw in these little wounded souls, I have to say I have never been happier. I absolutely love what i'm doing, Now I am only working at the hospital part time, and I'm okay with that I love just being with the kids. I have found my calling I guess.
- 9Mar 19, '09 by ssouthernyankeeSentencing on her dad was today. 25 years!! We are working on getting her moms parental rights removed as well. She is sticking up for the dad not interested in her precious little girl one bit. We had a little party this evening with cake and ice cream to celebrate this part being over with. I now have 5 kiddos in my custody, never thought I'd have all these kids being a single parent but I truly love it. I am taking all of them on a road trip this weekend for spring break, we will go site seeing and some fun shopping of course lol. We are just enjoying the good news.