My 9 year old patient was raped and required surgery - page 26

by ssouthernyankee

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I currently have a 9 year old girl I am taking care of on unit. She was raped resulting in surgical repair to entire pelvic floor and also needed a colostomy. As I change her sheets and such I just don't know what to do. I cry... Read More


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    well that's good to know and i pray that she will be with you for a long time, too!
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    Jesus...I just saw this post and can't help but write...even though we are in february already... makes me cry.... Just hold her. that is why I don't work w/ children... I'd be crying the life out of me... just can't handle it. God bless you for the work you do...
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    Quote from ssouthernyankee
    i currently have a 9 year old girl i am taking care of on unit. she was raped resulting in surgical repair to entire pelvic floor and also needed a colostomy. as i change her sheets and such i just don't know what to do. i cry everytime i walk in there. i just want to hold her. she isn't allowed visitors and she is so scared. my heart is breaking. any advice?
    omg......how horrible. what kind of monster does that ? i am so sorry.......i could never do ped's bc of things like this. hats off to the ones that can. she is lucky to have you as her nurse.
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    Thank you. It's not been easier but we're getting there. She's sound asleep in her little bed now. She's such a sweet little girl. It already feels like she has been with u her whole life. She fits in with our family unit perfectly. She has a long hard road ahead of her but she has a spirit about her I've never seen before. She will be wonderful when she grows up. I'm just doing the best I can to raise her in a safe and educational enviroment so she can flourish and continue to grow into herself. She's just awesome. My inspiration for sure.
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    You are an angel. I don't know how I would cope with your situation, but I am glad the little girl has someone like you caring for her. I like the idea of a diary to either write or draw in, but the main thing is just to be there for her, as you have been. She is going to need someone she totally trusts and feels comfortable with if and when she wants to talk.
    Love to you both
    Janis
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    Quote from JanisM
    You are an angel. I don't know how I would cope with your situation, but I am glad the little girl has someone like you caring for her. I like the idea of a diary to either write or draw in, but the main thing is just to be there for her, as you have been. She is going to need someone she totally trusts and feels comfortable with if and when she wants to talk.
    Love to you both
    Janis
    I got her a journal but she doesn't really write much in it other than little sweet I love you notes to me and my kids, but she draws alot too. She has gotten comfortable enough to tell me about anything at this point, most of which is very difficult to hear. I think she knows that I understand the pain she has gone through even though I haven't given her many details of my past growing up in foster care. She has even talked back a time or two. WHo would've ever thought you'd have a parent being happy that a child is back talking? lol. I am just glad she feels safe enough to do so. WHen I was young and in foster homes I wouldn't have anything to do with most of them just isolated myself as much as possible. So I must be doing something right. I do not always knows the right thing to do or so I just try to follow with my heart and to be patient. Thanks again for the compliment, I don't feel like an angel I just trying to give back what I can, It is helping me heal as much as it is helping her out.
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    Quote from ssouthernyankee
    I got her a journal but she doesn't really write much in it other than little sweet I love you notes to me and my kids, but she draws alot too. She has gotten comfortable enough to tell me about anything at this point, most of which is very difficult to hear. I think she knows that I understand the pain she has gone through even though I haven't given her many details of my past growing up in foster care. She has even talked back a time or two. WHo would've ever thought you'd have a parent being happy that a child is back talking? lol. I am just glad she feels safe enough to do so. WHen I was young and in foster homes I wouldn't have anything to do with most of them just isolated myself as much as possible. So I must be doing something right. I do not always knows the right thing to do or so I just try to follow with my heart and to be patient. Thanks again for the compliment, I don't feel like an angel I just trying to give back what I can, It is helping me heal as much as it is helping her out.
    I know exactly what you mean about her feeling save enough to "talk back", lol
    i imagine it will "boil over" at some point.....hopefully you and she will have a very solid foundation by then....good luck
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    as i've red this thread i was touched....this kind of situation is hard for a nurse to deal especially if you are a kind-hearted person and sensitive....i feel bad for the child....i hope the person who raped her will feel guilty....its really an assault to the family of the child..maybe comforting and feeling her more secure would make her more at ease...i hope she will be alllowed to be visited by her family coz it will really help but of course try to make this kind of action in a step by step process... this will be a long term goal..... it needs patients so that the wound will heal..in time....
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    She is so lucky to have you as an nurse. Advocate for her and make her your cause right now. You obviouslly need to do this from your own standpoint of healing; professionally and emotionally. You are the care giver....advocate advocate, advocate and love, love ,love, love, love. She is lucky to have you. Be strong for her! She needs you! In an incredible way! You are an awesome nurse. Be there for her. It's your job! (and Im sure, your compassion!!!!!) Good luck. Do one for the team! We are behind you!
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    The wold is an ugly place. We can ony ty to repair it,,,,but your pretty firm dealing with pedophiles(So am I!!!!!!). They are usually victims of abuse lashing out. What is done, is done You cant take it back or fx it. But you can suusallt branner of steel a loving support workker that supports her emoyionally, thru friendhip, socilalwork,,,what ever she need, Hold her man poa, advocate, because in sure there isnot many others 9famly not neccesarily rxcluded) She needs a resorce team to look out for her and her issue.s wto man o it fiesnt happens again I suppot you anytin!
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