My 9 year old patient was raped and required surgery

sharpeimom · Mar 5, 2009

May he be the plat du jour when he finally goes to prison!! :yeah: I speak "French student French" and have taken several trips there but my husband lived and taught there while finishing his dissertation and maybe could think of a better expression but this is the best I can do for now. A plat du jour is equal to our special of the day or a blue plate special. May he "git as good as he gave." Sorry, but I worked with child survivors who had been raped and sodomized for too long. Hence, my five year break. We can all rejoice for two men going to prison. The above-fold headline this morning was "____ gets sent away and child's family celebrates!" There really IS a G*D!!

sharpeimom:paw::paw:

ksangel · Mar 5, 2009

oh my godness. what a story. i hope you and the little girl continue to do well. this is probably why i dont do peds....i like kids.... have bad attitude when it comes to parents abusing the children

THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE DONE FOR THE CHILD.!!!!

llltapp · Mar 6, 2009

I'm still thinking about both of your struggles. Ya know, someday, when she grows up, wouldn't it be great to see you two write a therapeutic book about this together. What a gift that book would be to everyone..... the survivors, nurses, the both of you, and the entire world. As I began reading the thread, I have to admit, the ER cynic came out in me.... I was thinking like your coworkers a little bit, "don't get too close, she will have to detach from you and it will hurt, you must not let your issues get in the way......." Then after the second page, I thought, who CARES about the unwritten "rules". Do what you feel is right for yourself and the little girl. This is God's world, not ours, who are we to interfere with love.............. You taught me something.

Thank YOU. :)

Linda

ssouthernyankee · Mar 6, 2009

I'm still thinking about both of your struggles. Ya know, someday, when she grows up, wouldn't it be great to see you two write a therapeutic book about this together. What a gift that book would be to everyone..... the survivors, nurses, the both of you, and the entire world. As I began reading the thread, I have to admit, the ER cynic came out in me.... I was thinking like your coworkers a little bit, "don't get too close, she will have to detach from you and it will hurt, you must not let your issues get in the way......." Then after the second page, I thought, who CARES about the unwritten "rules". Do what you feel is right for yourself and the little girl. This is God's world, not ours, who are we to interfere with love.............. You taught me something.
Thank YOU. :)
Linda

Thank you so much, reading this has brought tears to my eyes. I cannot wait to see how she blossoms and how our bond continues to grow stronger. A book would be an awesome idea when she is grown up. Thanks for agreeing with me on just doing what feels right. I am so thankful for this site, all of you have helped me more than you could ever possibly know.

ssouthernyankee · Mar 6, 2009

I forgot to add that I just got a second foster child placed in my home, a 16 year old who was sexually abused by her stepfather. She's been in the system for awhile and was having trouble bonding with other foster parents. The case worker called and asked if I would come meet her. I went to the office and met her, beautiful girl. Right away she warmed up to me. Then she started laughing, I asked what was so funny and she said " I am so much bigger than you, you are a skinny minny" After visiting for about 2 hours, we both decided we wanted to try the placement. She then asked me to sit on her knee and had the caseworker take a picture. She came home with me that evening. She's doing great, she's so good with my little one and my kiddos. All of them have already warmed up to her. I seem to draw in these little wounded souls, I have to say I have never been happier. I absolutely love what i'm doing, Now I am only working at the hospital part time, and I'm okay with that I love just being with the kids. I have found my calling I guess.

ssouthernyankee · Mar 20, 2009

:yeah:Sentencing on her dad was today. 25 years!! We are working on getting her moms parental rights removed as well. She is sticking up for the dad not interested in her precious little girl one bit. We had a little party this evening with cake and ice cream to celebrate this part being over with. I now have 5 kiddos in my custody, never thought I'd have all these kids being a single parent but I truly love it. I am taking all of them on a road trip this weekend for spring break, we will go site seeing and some fun shopping of course lol. We are just enjoying the good news.

sharpeimom · Mar 20, 2009

Fantastic!!

:clpty::clpty::smiley_aa:smiley_aa:bdyhdclp::bdyhdclp::hpygrp::hpygrp:

sharpeimom:paw::paw:

Debilpn23 · Mar 20, 2009

:bow:

:yeah:

:yeah: Thats wonderful news enjoy you're road trip.

JanisM · Mar 21, 2009

That's the best news I've heard all week. I'm so glad you've found something you love doing that changes kids lives for the better. Good luck to all of you. I hope he rots.

iamablonde, BSN, RN · Apr 17, 2009

WOW! I haven't checked this in a while! SOOOO HAPPY about the "bio dad" and his SENTENCE! WOOOO HOOOO! Throw away the KEY I say!

So happy for you and your growing FAMILY!!! What a wonderful story!!!! Brightened my day! thank you!

ssouthernyankee · Apr 18, 2009

The "buddy" of her dad who was also involved has just worked out a plea bargain, he was only sentenced 10 yrs. Again I am glad that there wasn't a trial to deal with but I am upset that he got off so much easier than her dad. Although I realize that her dad's role in this was much more vicious and him being the one that should have been PROTECTING her instead of destroying her he should have gotten the stiffer sentence. Everyone is doing well. I will post more later I am just wore out right now.

Grace Oz · Apr 22, 2009

Continuing to hold you and your little ones in thought and prayer.

Bless you for being you!