You bet your b*** I've had a similar experience. Not death, but just as heart-wrenching. While working in the NICU, close to shift change, I was with a first time mom (a young mom) who was tearfully putting her 31 week baby back into the isolette. She was being discharged from pp that day, going home without her baby, and very upset. It was very hard for her to be a young, single mom who had to leave her fragile little baby hooked up to every monitor in the world. My EVIL charge witch comes stomping over, says very rudely and abruptly to the mother, 'You need to leave now. It's change of shift!' I was so flabbergasted and horrified, nothing came out of my mouth in defense of this poor mother. Instead, I held her hand and walked her out of the unit.
THAT, my dears, is one of the MANY reasons I left NICU. People often ask me why I left...I always tell them, 'loved the work, loved the patients, HATED the staff.' It just wasn't worth it to me to work with a bunch of heartless, cold, b****es.
Lynn, you seem like such a good nurse. It truly sucks that that whole scene happened to you. You should be proud of yourself, though, for sticking up for your patient's family. I wish I had.