My Life with a Nurse: A Man's Perspective - page 7

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I've been married to a nurse for more than a quarter of a century, and let me tell you, nurses are not what you expect (and I don't even care what you expect, because you are wrong)! Let's begin by tearing down some of the... Read More


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    Quote from Nurse fwb
    There is one thing you forgot to write about in your article. If your wife is a nurse then it is guaranteed that at some point in your marriage she will sleep with a doctor or male nurse! So, just prepare yourself for the fact that ALL nurses cheat on their spouses at some point!!! You can take that to the bank!!!!
    Watching too much Grey's Anatomy are we??
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    Quote from Nurse fwb
    ... ALL nurses cheat on their spouses at some point!!! You can take that to the bank!!!!
    Huh??? OK. ;>)
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    Quote from Nurse fwb
    There is one thing you forgot to write about in your article. If your wife is a nurse then it is guaranteed that at some point in your marriage she will sleep with a doctor or male nurse! So, just prepare yourself for the fact that ALL nurses cheat on their spouses at some point!!! You can take that to the bank!!!!
    As a new member and your first post....The thread is 10 years old. I am sorry if you had a bad personal experience. I have been a nurse for over 30 years and I never cheated on my husband and dated one MD back in the eighties....who was single as well.
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    """""""Originally Posted by Nurse fwb ... ALL nurses cheat on their spouses at some point!!! You can take that to the bank!!!!"""""""




    REPLY....
    I think anyone that would run after a doctor is nuts! I work with surgeons all day (OR) and they are so high maintenance! Why would you want that grief?! And if they cheat with you they will cheat ON you too! I have been married over 21 years to an awesome man and have NO plans to run off with a doctor!
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    Trolling, are we?
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    Quote from Nurse fwb
    There is one thing you forgot to write about in your article. If your wife is a nurse then it is guaranteed that at some point in your marriage she will sleep with a doctor or male nurse! So, just prepare yourself for the fact that ALL nurses cheat on their spouses at some point!!! You can take that to the bank!!!!
    Trolling, are we?
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    I LOVE it. It is so true!
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    This is great! My husband calls me his guardian angel after I picked up on two different and serious health problems that he had blown off. I kept insisting that he get checked out by his doctor, even threatened to go in and talk to our family doctor myself about my concerns. He gave in and went. The doctor told him one of the conditions was very serious. The other one would have been if it had gone unchecked until he started to feel truly bad.

    So yeah I'm grumpy, and I talk about gross things, and sometimes I let my emotions out at home when I have to hold them in at work. But there are benefits to being married to a nurse.
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    Not a bad article. Written for nurses not anyone else. My wife is a nurse and so was my Ma.
    I have worked in hospitals for over 30 years and know just how hard their job can be and how more and more is squeezed from them by Admin. I want to take this opportunity to tell nurses a few things. I see you at the nurses station ignoring the call light I hear the tone used to respond to calls. I hear how you talk about the patients, esp the regulars. I hear you say "We'll keep an eye on it" Then leave the room...how you gonna watch it when you ain't there? Fix it now. But what bothers me the most is ..."That's not my patient." I have heard you call the phlebotomist mean. I have heard you make all kinds of excuses for screwing up an IV start, non of which were I did a bad job or I need more training

    In my time the quality of nurses has not improved. I have seen it go down hill. Remember why you are there even if you have worked a double and are dead tired. The patient really, really does come first...not your perceived greatness or sacrifice. I'm not dissing nurses. I have seen many good ones some great... but there should be more based on what I read in the union rags, see posted on FB and after a perusal of this site. Thank You.
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    Quote from Dr Sleep
    Not a bad article. Written for nurses not anyone else. My wife is a nurse and so was my Ma.
    I have worked in hospitals for over 30 years and know just how hard their job can be and how more and more is squeezed from them by Admin. I want to take this opportunity to tell nurses a few things. I see you at the nurses station ignoring the call light I hear the tone used to respond to calls. I hear how you talk about the patients, esp the regulars. I hear you say "We'll keep an eye on it" Then leave the room...how you gonna watch it when you ain't there? Fix it now. But what bothers me the most is ..."That's not my patient." I have heard you call the phlebotomist mean. I have heard you make all kinds of excuses for screwing up an IV start, non of which were I did a bad job or I need more training

    In my time the quality of nurses has not improved. I have seen it go down hill. Remember why you are there even if you have worked a double and are dead tired. The patient really, really does come first...not your perceived greatness or sacrifice. I'm not dissing nurses. I have seen many good ones some great... but there should be more based on what I read in the union rags, see posted on FB and after a perusal of this site. Thank You.
    While I appreciate your sediments and agree with a couple of points such as "That's not my patient" and the failure to answer call lights. I too find a frustration with the newer nurses and their perception of their responsibilities the crusty old bat in me takes issue with the rest of your post...and you are "dissing" nurses.

    This IS a site for nurses, hence the name...ALLNURSES. The OP was speaking of his own experience and was speaking of nurses...hence he speaks only to nurses. Nurses keep an eye on everything we are the ones responsible for it all and are actually paid very little. We are blamed for everyone's failings including the failure we have NO Control over. There are things that aren't able to be FIXED NOW and the nurse following me will follow up. Unlike the MD"s we don't sleep at night.

    If you feel that IV is so easily started you are welcome to try. I have found that MOST MD's are unable to start IV's as they don't have to...but to criticize one's skill when you are NOT competent in that skill yourself is bad manners and poor behavior. You could go and start an EJ or pick up a pen and at least write for a PICC line for we all KNOW you don't insert those either.

    It is the nurse who saves your behind snug and warm in your bed fast asleep with whomever. If administration didn't consistently refuse to give adequate staffing to care for the patients and took some of their year end bonus and applied that to have adequate staffing and RETENTION of seasoned staff, instead of laying all the seasoned nurse off because we cost more money, you might have the mentors available to guide these newer nurses into well trained seasoned competent nurses.

    I would be willing to venture a wager that if YOU have to spend 12 hours 3-4 days a week with some of these patients, instead of the few moments out of your precious day to grace us with your presence, you might find you have the need to vent a little about the treatment of the staff by the patient and visitors. It is comments like this
    That's what you are getting paid for. Family are visitors. If you have a visitor in your home do you expect them to serve you? Do your job and stop complaining, its bad enough we have to pay out our ass's for the room,and medical these days. Damn right I'm going to get my money's worth. This pic shows she is alone, no family...so what excuse for you?
    taken from the AN FB page for the poster is gravely mistaken ...she isn't paying for us for we don't bill for services...you however Doctor do...are your patients getting their monies worth out of you when an office visit for 10 minutes of your time is in excess of $289.00 for a GP?

    I caution you to appreciate those nurse at the bedside who can save your behind at 3am...or you can continue in a passive aggressive manner and be called for Tylenol at 0400. I have NEVER been a proponent of nursing collective bargaining....until the last 8 years. I don't think there is any other option any longer as long ad administrations continue to treat educated nurses like a disposable tissue.

    Just like Unions put a stop to inhumane conditions in the coal mines and stopped the abuse of children because they were small and could set the TNT...collective bargaining is necessary to stop the abusive behavior against the largest group of caregivers in this country NURSES....when the CEO is making hundreds of thousands of dollars in bonuses and million dollar salaries...someone needs to be thiere to protect the patients from harm. As far as
    worked a double and are dead tired.
    how chipper are you after 16 long hours, no break, no food, you aren't allowed to have water and the last time you went to the bathroom was 12 hours ago?

    Who really cares for the patients? That just happens to be a nurse.
    Last edit by Esme12 on Feb 4
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