Leave you family for nursing??

  1. Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in moving because of his job (no you're not having marital issue). The kids would go with you. You'd be able to move in with family and live rent free. Would you do it???
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  3. by   litebrightgirl
    [QUOTE="litebrightgirl"]Hypothetical question....If you've tried for 3+ to get into nursing school (grades are great but it's so competitive in your area) would you apply for a program out of state? You are married with 3 kids. Hubby's not interested in moving because of his job (no you're not having marital issue). The kids would go with you. You'd be able to move in with family and live rent free. Would you do it???

    Also hubby would come and visit often and after graduation you'd move back.
  4. by   RNKPCE
    Family first. 3 years is a long time to be away ( I know you'd see your family at times) you wouldn't get that time without them back. You said you have no marital issues if you leave you might start. Sorry to be so blunt.
  5. by   RNKPCE
    Re-read your post. I see the kids would be with you but my opinion still stands. Family first that includes your husband
  6. by   pixiestudent2
    No I would not leave my husband for nursing school. But that is just my opinion.
  7. by   DutchRN09
    No, unless you want to be divorced at the end of your program. Nursing school is hard enough on relationships when you are living in the same house, let alone when you are living apart. Three years is a very long time.
  8. by   litebrightgirl
    Thanks for the responses! I have friend whose deciding about this. I told her to stick it put and she'll get in eventually. I wanted to get some more opinions :-)
  9. by   CrunchRN
    No. Strange things happen when families are apart for a long time even in the most seemingly stable relationships.
  10. by   litebrightgirl
    Now here's another question to throw into the mix. What about those who go to med school? They do this all the time and no one really says anything. Is it a double standard for nurses?? Just playing devil's advocate....
  11. by   CrunchRN
    Lots of messed up marriages during that time period from what I have seen. Only the person doing it can decide if it is worth it. I wouldn't do it for nursing, but I would do it a huge amount of money. And i totally trust my husband of 22 years. But men of any age sometimes react strangely to being alone after having a family.
  12. by   Esme12
    Quote from litebrightgirl
    Now here's another question to throw into the mix. What about those who go to med school? They do this all the time and no one really says anything. Is it a double standard for nurses?? Just playing devil's advocate....
    No, they place their career over their families and they divorce as well......not a good idea.
  13. by   RNperdiem
    Doctors have a high divorce rate through residency and school as well.
  14. by   MrChicagoRN
    When I read this, I thought the challenges faced by many couples who have jobs in different cities and must maintain long distance relationships. It can be done, but it definitely puts a strain on the relationship.

    How far apart is apart? Can they easily see each other every weekend? She'll be with the kids and other family. What will his support system be? Are there other options? Online, transfer of majority of most coursework done locally?

    It can be done, but it is a huge challenge.

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