Quote from bluesky
Well this is what I have found... first of all most nurses are sensitive to their patient's needs. Often however, they seem to lose this sensibility when it comes to how they (we) treat each other. Being a mom, an activist and soon to be RN (May '04, bayyyyybe), I do often find myself emotionally exhausted from meeting everyone else's psychosocial needs. Alas, my poor husband has payed the price because I'm not really sensitive to his needs as much anymore. Please y'all more experienced folks correct me if I'm wrong but I've also noticed that there are other factors related to how respectfully we treat each other. These are; unit type (OB and Peds nurses I've found to be more sensitive), atmosphere promoted by management (professional vs. pure gossip central), age, specialty and professionalism of attending physicians.
Just remember this simple rule, all that smiles is not a friend. There are so many genuine and sensitive people in this business but those nurses who aren't do the most damage behind your back. It seems to me that the in-your-face insulters are in the end easier to become friends with because they are straight shooters.
Just my 2.
Excellent post! Worth repeating.
Congratulations on your RN. I got my licence at age 34, and found myself at first becoming de-sensitised to the mahem that mankind inflicts upon itself.
At the same time, I have found that my sensitivity has increased to the point where I have found myself not only to weep openly at ER tragedy, but also when I am particularly moved by a musical performance. I give permission to do this by being an old man, who might be a Jew or a homosexual.
I think it helps to pray and weep with families at the end of a patients life.
I have to congratulate you also on the wisdom you express in your last paragraph. If I had been aware of the nature of nursing politics in the beginning I would have done well to have chosen some other profession. How right you are that, "All that smiles is not a friend."
Every new job I went to the nurse's "coven" smiled to me, and did me in behind my back. Whenever you are new you are damned walking in the door. If you work too hard, you make your sisters look bad. If you do not work hard enough you are a slacker. If you don't suck up to the clique, you are not a "team player." The older you get, the worse it becomes, (see the string , "Blackballed and broke.)
I thought my boss was my friend, so I wrote some complaints to her. After a few weeks, when it became apparent that she had no intention of discussing my complaints, I handed her some more. She responded by firing me. It took several months for me to realize that I am in an "at will" state. If I had simply walked across town into another job on day-one I would still have a job, somewhere.
Thank you again for such a good post.