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No. 110
from queen777
Old Mar 11, 2009, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Medic09 View Post
Great story of persistence. Thanks for the inspiration!

Why is this under 'Transcultural Nursing' ?
I wondered that too!
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No. 111
from cubeo
Old Mar 11, 2009, 08:18 PM

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Great story, You are very brave and strong! comparing to the nursing school i know, the instructors are worst!! and a lot of students got kick out for stupid reasons.
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No. 112
from clayah
Old Mar 11, 2009, 08:28 PM

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I think you should have reported this instructor for abuse - you still can after ou have graduated. Your instructor was totally inappropriate in criticizing you infront of a patient - for the patient's sake and for your reputation.

You need to report this instructor or she will continue to abuse students.
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No. 113
from cubeo
Old Mar 11, 2009, 08:33 PM

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i would like to know where can report abusive nsg instructors? to Board of Registered Nurse?
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No. 114
Old Mar 13, 2009, 06:53 AM

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I had a head nurse who is like that at a previous hospital where I worked. He returned from vacation and gave us each a key ring. I use that keyring every day as a memento about what I must NOT do to my staff now that I am a head nurse. People like that are great examples of what we don't want to be. Don't be affraid to contact her and thank her for being the perfect BAD example. People like that need to know.
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No. 115
Old Mar 13, 2009, 07:00 AM

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Wow Mac

Someone said that to me recently; that I will remember... how I was treated, degraded and criticized based on a lot of hearsay and of course my own errors..

However, a good manager HELPS their employees, gives them the benefit of the doubt and ARRANGES additional training AWAY from a caseload to assist the individual in their learning. You do not keep throwing people to the wolves so they can sink or swim... especially when they are new.. It does not benefit the employer or the employee or the moral of anyone to do that.. Unfortunatley, there are a lot of bottom feeders in the world that enjoy contributing to the process. When I was a manager, I nipped it in the bud and made the staff provide support. If I am ever a manager again, I hope that I follow the high road rather than feeding the sharks in the water. It's not ok to yell at someone, degrade them or embarrass them in front of people. It accomplishes NOTHING but feeds the ego or egos of the players involved. I personally was screamed at my second day and fourth day on the job. I was in denial and wanted to believe that this was not the culture but just 'incidents'. I was soon to find out that most of the staff really enjoyed the gossip and degradation of newbies...It kept them going. Gossip and event twisting kept the 'director' informed and the unit 'going'. I am praying to my nursing angels I NEVER have to witness this type of 'NURSING' AGAIN!
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No. 116
Old Mar 13, 2009, 09:45 AM

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I would think because the said offenders are not from western civilization
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No. 117
from queen777
Old Mar 13, 2009, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by PeaceonearthRN View Post
Wow Mac

Someone said that to me recently; that I will remember... how I was treated, degraded and criticized based on a lot of hearsay and of course my own errors..

However, a good manager HELPS their employees, gives them the benefit of the doubt and ARRANGES additional training AWAY from a caseload to assist the individual in their learning. You do not keep throwing people to the wolves so they can sink or swim... especially when they are new.. It does not benefit the employer or the employee or the moral of anyone to do that.. Unfortunatley, there are a lot of bottom feeders in the world that enjoy contributing to the process. When I was a manager, I nipped it in the bud and made the staff provide support. If I am ever a manager again, I hope that I follow the high road rather than feeding the sharks in the water. It's not ok to yell at someone, degrade them or embarrass them in front of people. It accomplishes NOTHING but feeds the ego or egos of the players involved. I personally was screamed at my second day and fourth day on the job. I was in denial and wanted to believe that this was not the culture but just 'incidents'. I was soon to find out that most of the staff really enjoyed the gossip and degradation of newbies...It kept them going. Gossip and event twisting kept the 'director' informed and the unit 'going'. I am praying to my nursing angels I NEVER have to witness this type of 'NURSING' AGAIN!
You are an angel! I totally agree with you, especially about beating down someone's moral...as this, for some reason, has stayed with me too long. I am one of those you only have to say it once, I will never forget it!
I grew up in a family like that. All my older sister and brother did was demoralize, insult, ridicule, called me names, and ran from me. They were only 3 & 2 yrs older than me.
But I am different from them and that is a good thing!
Anyway, why can't people feed more on the good in someone, and teach that person to become a better nurse than maybe theirself? I too learned not to treat others like I was.
You certainly "hit the nail on the head" as my dad would say, another was "consider the source", but you really said it like it is, its really sad too! Its like some never grow up!
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No. 118
Old Mar 14, 2009, 11:11 AM

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I had an instructor just like her. It was my maternity instructor. Im glad you feel positive about your negative experience with yours, I however cant. Mine almost made me quit, her goal was to make me cry everyday, and she always succeeded. She had nothing to do with my accomplishment, she literally destroyed my self esteem. It took me years to get over what she did to me. I too had great instructors the next term who was impressed with me, but deep down I still felt awful because of that one instructor. Its a shame that nursing schools allow such "monsters" to teach. I truely feel that if the future of nursing depended on them, nursing would fall to pieces. Thanks for such a wonderful story, it sounded so much like mine. Im glad you made your way through it and succeeded.
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No. 119
Old Mar 14, 2009, 12:09 PM
Updated Mar 14, 2009 at 12:15 PM by multicollinearity

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You know, I had a moment when I was watching my clinical instructor with another student one day. My clinical instructor was raising her voice and said to another student, "What is the matter with you!?" She was throwing her body into it and creating a certain facial expression, jutting out her jaw, to create a look of meanness.

My light bulb moment was that I could see my clinical instructor was acting. As soon as she walked away from this student, the 'act' dissolved and she looked drained from the 'put on.' When I wasn't the target, I could see just how much she was acting. I could see this when my clinical instructor was dressing down another student, but not when she did this with me due to my own adrenalin, when it was me getting some form of this act.

I realized that day that she probably thought this was how it had to be, and it appeared to exhaust her. She seemed to think the military boot camp thing was her job. It's probably how she was educated, how she was treated as a nursing student. To be fair, I don't think she had formal education in how to teach nursing students. She had a BSN and hadn't worked in a clinical setting in years.

When I understood she was putting on an act, probably didn't know better, and it was exhausting her, I no longer took it personally.
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