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No. 100
Old Mar 03, 2009, 08:43 PM

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For every student who looks on the bright side, and strives to do even better than her apparent best, I wonder how many others there are who, demoralized, have quit trying, or just plain quit school. How sad...
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No. 101
Old Mar 05, 2009, 03:26 AM

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Congratulations to you for persisting and not crumbling under this negative kind of leadership/mentorship. I was going to say you survived a General Patton form of boot camp but even Patton recognized the importance of preserving the dignity of even the lowest foot soldier. Obviously this instructor has some real issues- perhaps she feels it is payback time for the way she was treated. Too bad she is so miserable and did not recognize the *gem* that you are. But this is how people become perfectionists, for better or worse- they are beaten up emotionally and try so hard to please. I hope the rest of your program is better for you- I'll bet you graduate at the top of your class.
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No. 102
from queen777
Old Mar 05, 2009, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by expiringmind View Post
For every student who looks on the bright side, and strives to do even better than her apparent best, I wonder how many others there are who, demoralized, have quit trying, or just plain quit school. How sad...
Its not just school being a downer, its happens after when working. I could tell some more horror stories about this subject where I was left "holding the bag" for another nurse because I followed her and she did not complete her work.
It was so bad at several different places I finally quit nursing and told my husband he would see me in jail and it would not be my fault, but the negligence of another nurse.
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No. 103
Old Mar 05, 2009, 08:28 AM

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Or, what about the nurse who started out passionate and with great intentions who didnt know what the 'bag' was because it was never gone over in orientation but it was asssumed he/she knew what he/she was supposed to be doing - hence, to avoid leaving the 'bag' behind? That has got to be THE most frustrating item in nursing - to be left a bag or to leave a bag - and to have a director 'believe' one has been told/taught/corrected and that this employee is just being 'incorigable'. We do not do a good job of helping people learn. They are either demoralized publically or reported to the 'administration' for not doing their job. No one THINKS that they may not have been 'taught'! A lot of assuming goes on in nursing. It makes the legal nurse consultants rich! Rather than device a complete training program, they blame the trainee. I have seen this over and over again. How sad... negligence may also spell .. 'lack of knowledge' without intent.
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No. 104
from queen777
Old Mar 05, 2009, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by PeaceonearthRN View Post
Or, what about the nurse who started out passionate and with great intentions who didnt know what the 'bag' was because it was never gone over in orientation but it was asssumed he/she knew what he/she was supposed to be doing - hence, to avoid leaving the 'bag' behind? That has got to be THE most frustrating item in nursing - to be left a bag or to leave a bag - and to have a director 'believe' one has been told/taught/corrected and that this employee is just being 'incorigable'. We do not do a good job of helping people learn. They are either demoralized publically or reported to the 'administration' for not doing their job. No one THINKS that they may not have been 'taught'! A lot of assuming goes on in nursing. It makes the legal nurse consultants rich! Rather than device a complete training program, they blame the trainee. I have seen this over and over again. How sad... negligence may also spell .. 'lack of knowledge' without intent.
I totally agree. But what is a new,as I once was, to do when the head nurse asks me, "what are you doing, fluffing pillows?" I worked on 11-7 med-surg floor. You know everyone has an IV, and I would hear time after time from pts, "the last nurse said she was going to come back and help me to the BR but never came back." So I was left "holding that bag" plus trying to get their vitals too! Its a slow going process, but do you think she ever got off her dufuss and came to check things out or lend a helping hand?" Not in you wildest dreams. The other head nurse was just as bad, always wanting to "write me up" for some crap! But being new I didn't want to "rock the boat".
I can say this though "if things are not the way you think they should be, don't stick around thinking its going to get better, naw, it won't. Sorry!
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No. 105
from allstarRN
Old Mar 05, 2009, 11:21 PM

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How beautiful. Thank you for that...gives me courage to continue and take everything as a challenge and a experience to learn from!
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No. 106
from honeykrown
Old Mar 06, 2009, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by lepew View Post
Again, as an instructor, I am sorry for all the bad ones. There are some good ones out there. Where I teach, we are evaluated each semester by our students. There have been instructors who were urged to quit because of continuously bad evals. I don't believe bullying is the way to teach. I ask my students questions at clinical, but give them time to respond and try to encourage them as most people can't remember things when put on the spot. I can't expect them to know every answer, as I don't know every answer (that is where the trusty PDA comes is really handy!). Terrorizing students is not teaching. That said, there are some students who are not prepared. Some expect you to open their heads and poor the knowledge in for them. I will go out of my way to help a student as long as the student is trying. Why help someone who doesn't put forth any effort? My students and I have a great time at clinicals and in class. We all learn and help each other. Just thought you should know that there really are some caring instructors out there....
In my school we evaluated our teachers,one in particular never received good reviews but she is still there and the excuse was that there werent many nursing instructors. But she was only a bad lecturer in class. No nurse ever messed with her students.

After reading most of the stories, i thank God for my school and instructors. I could tell none was as bad as anyone here (at least i could say for myself)
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No. 107
Old Mar 10, 2009, 12:43 AM

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WOW!!!! I WENT THROUGH A SIMILAR NIGHTMARE WITH MY 2ND QUARTER CLINICAL INSTRUCTOR, AND I MUST SAY, THAT YOU HANDLED YOURSELF QUITE WELL...I, LIKE YOU, ALSO CRIED AND THOUGHT ABOUT GIVING UP, BUT THE FUTURE NURSE IN ME WOULDN'T ALLOW IT...NOW HERE I AM IN MY IN MY SECOND SEMESTER, AND CLINIC IS CHALLENGING BUT THEN AGAIN, I'VE HAD WORSE...MY INSTRUCTOR IS STRICT BUT NOTHING I CAN'T HANDLE...I'M CONVINCED THAT MAYBE THAT TOUGH INSTRUCTOR WAS JUST A HURDLE PUT IN MY PATH FOR ME TO GET OVER AND PROVE TO MYSELF JUST HOW MUCH NURSING REALLY MEANS TO ME...SO NOW WHEN THINGS GET TOUGH OR HECTIC I JUST REMEMBER ALL THAT I HAVE GONE THROUGH TO GET THIS FAR...AND HOW IT'S HELPING ME TO BECOME A WONDERFUL NURSE!!!~~THANKS FOR SHARING~~
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No. 108
Old Mar 10, 2009, 06:06 AM

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Being strict and pushing knowledged is one thing; knowledge and redirection can be delivered without harsh or nasty words or mannerisms. It is unacceptable for this to occur in an educational environment or a work environment. People do not learn if they are attacked! Some day, I hope to see this change everywhere!
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No. 109
from Medic09
Old Mar 11, 2009, 10:41 AM

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Great story of persistence. Thanks for the inspiration!

Why is this under 'Transcultural Nursing' ?
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