When is it appropriate to share faith at work?: One nurse's story - page 2
As nurses, we wear many hats. To name a few: we are caregivers, providers, assessors, comforters, encouragers, teachers, an ear to listen. Are we to be evangelists or preachers? In my opinion, no and....yes. I believe that it is... Read More
- 5May 7, '13 by aknottedyarnWhen my DH was in ICU and had just had a stroke the intensivist met with us. He asked us if we had any faith. My DS is a very fundamentalist Christian. We disagree about much in religion. I had so little faith then but willing to do anything at that point. The doctor had us all join hands and he prayed with us. A gentle prayer, I have no recollection of what he said, it calmed all of us.
Two days later, they removed DH from the machines. Again this wonderful doctor was there, supporting us as he turned off the ventilator that was providing a pretense of life. He took my hand and all of us including DH's mother and my two sons, all held hands together as we all repeated the 23rd Psalm.
This man's quiet presence and love of God was willing to give us a bond that we needed after he had explored to be sure it was not offensive to us. It took a great deal of time for me to find faith. I know this man's offering in a horrible time has helped me to accept a gift that I might have not been able to without seeing real faith in action in such a hard time.
- 2May 7, '13 by NF_eyenurse, BSN GuideQuote from That GuyI appreciate your post. And yeah, that's my point. The awkwardness that one is put into.I dont share with my pts because I dont believe in religion. I hate when people ask me to pray because I just stand there looking like a doofus. But if it works for the pt/nurse whatever, I think it is great.
I don't "do" astrology. I remember so many times patients or other people would ask "what's your sign?". And no they weren't hitting on me.
I would say. "I don't really follow that but I think I'm a libra." And leave it at that.
- 3May 7, '13 by Liddle Noodnik GuideQuote from nursefrancesIt's funny because when it happens to me, *I* feel like the one who is supported. I'm sure they do too but I really feel blessedTimes like these stories, this is when I believe it is appropriate to share. When the patient starts the dialogue. If it is started by the nurse and the patient is not a believer I think it can come across as unwelcomed. We as Christians are to go about the world spreading the good news. But I believe this should be done on our own time, not our employers.
What about you? Do you like to share with your patients? Any thoughts?
- 3May 7, '13 by windsurfer8I am a nurse and have been for 8 years. I know this..if I am ever a patient and nurse utters one word about god, allah, buddha, or Santee Claus when I am a patient, I will tell them to leave my room immediately and would write them up before they were out of the room.
- 4May 7, '13 by leslie :-Di've worked with the dying most of my nsg career...
and have been the recipient of many, many bedside confessions.
many of these folks were fundamental Christians...
and a few of these people were paralyzed with fear, convinced they were going to hell.
it was at these times, that i would share my (non-denominational and spiritual) beliefs...
including but not ltd to, my non-belief of God's wrath.
i do believe i brought a lot of reassurance to these people as death drew near.
other than to try and comfort those who were suffering, i have never shared my beliefs...
regardless if pts brought it up or not.
to me, nsg is supportive in nature and generally speaking, don't see why or how religion should be a part of that role.
- 0May 7, '13 by NF_eyenurse, BSN GuideQuote from windsurfer8Not even .....Santa?I am a nurse and have been for 8 years. I know this..if I am ever a patient and nurse utters one word about god, allah, buddha, or Santee Claus when I am a patient, I will tell them to leave my room immediately and would write them up before they were out of the room.
- 0May 7, '13 by stephanie.Quote from windsurfer8Totally not the OPs point. Patients initially shared with her- not her to them. Relax.I am a nurse and have been for 8 years. I know this..if I am ever a patient and nurse utters one word about god, allah, buddha, or Santee Claus when I am a patient, I will tell them to leave my room immediately and would write them up before they were out of the room.
- 0May 8, '13 by ladyfthStephanie, I believe windsurfer was making a point. I could not believe 'one' R.N. who comes in a room and talks about God. Most are not true Christians and will stick medication in a 'patient' against their will and not show compassion. Nursefrances 'liked' windsurfer8's comment. Christian 'lover of Jesus' and 'liking' that comment? How can a 'true' Christian like that?
- 4May 8, '13 by leslie :-DQuote from lovebug0wow...your attitude against Christians is notable.Nursefrances 'liked' windsurfer8's comment. Christian 'lover of Jesus' and 'liking' that comment? How can a 'true' Christian like that?
that's really too bad.
as to your question, i "like" many posts...whether i agree with them or not.
sometimes it's a sign of acknowledgement that the post was read;
and sometimes it's a sign of respect, that we can agree to disagree.
nursefrances has class, and exemplifies the values of a true Christian... i know that to be truth.
"Most are not true Christians and will stick medication in a 'patient' against their will...????"
woman, you need education... and lots of it.