When is it appropriate to share faith at work?: One nurse's story - page 11

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As nurses, we wear many hats. To name a few: we are caregivers, providers, assessors, comforters, encouragers, teachers, an ear to listen. Are we to be evangelists or preachers? In my opinion, no and....yes. I believe that it is... Read More


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    Quote from FSUNurse2b
    So, if you overheard a fellow staff member talking about things concerning the Bible, you would:

    ask them to discontinue this behavior or further disciplinary measures will be take. IN most facilities this will cost you your job...period.

    I politely ask,

    1) would you take these actions because of "hopsital" policy or your own "personal" policy and,

    2) is it like this at "most" facilities because of "their" policy, or a nurse managers, own "personal" policy or opinion?


    I'm not certain if certain areas of the hospital have differing policy statements concerning "conversations" with the patients....

    just curious.


    Thanks.
    Hospital policy only my personal views do not enter my professional decisions.

    I do not have an interest in employees, patients, co-workers private lives....as long as it is legal. I have worked with Many people of different religious spiritual beliefs and I find discussing them over coffee at break fascinating. I love learning what cultural differences and similarities we all share. It just isn't always appropriate to share at the bedside.

    Look over the years I have been burnt by the most simplest of things....you just really don't know mankind when they are ill. These are just cautionary word of how to navigate the mine field
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    FSU, How would you feel?

    How would you respond if a group of Muslim nurses wearing hajib were speaking about their religion and it was not compatible with your knowledge of Christianity? Would you be as quick to defend their position? (Post 89)
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    Quote from Esme12

    Look over the years I have been burnt by the most simplest of things....you just really don't know mankind when they are ill. These are just cautionary word of how to navigate the mine field
    I totally agree. Money is another issue I never go into with a patient. A patient once said to me "Can you do me favor? Here are my car keys. Can you go into my car and get the money that is in the ashtray and bring it to me?" I wouldn't touch THAT situation with a ten foot pole.

    This morning I was thinking of a typical conversation I have had with Christian patients.
    Patient (smiling): "Are you a Christian?"
    Me (smile back): "Yes, I am"
    Patient: "He is good, isn't He?"
    Me: "Yes, He is. He has always been there when I need Him"

    That's about the jist of it. Or a patient may start that way and ask for prayer because they are scared, going into surgery, etc. I never have big philosophical discussion. It is usually short and sweet like the above example. Like we are talking about an old friend.
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    I just had surgery and my Doctor told me he prays before all his surgeries and asked me to pray, too. I gladly obliged. I said "You pray for me and I'll pray for you" Now, I am a Christian and to me this was totally appropriate, and welcomed. I thought it was kinda cool, actually. Just thought I'd share. I also live in the "bible belt". I come from the northeast, where this kind of thing would be very taboo, but here it is generally accepted I find.
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    Quote from Glycerine82
    I just had surgery and my Doctor told me he prays before all his surgeries and asked me to pray, too. I gladly obliged. I said "You pray for me and I'll pray for you" Now, I am a Christian and to me this was totally appropriate, and welcomed. I thought it was kinda cool, actually. Just thought I'd share. I also live in the "bible belt". I come from the northeast, where this kind of thing would be very taboo, but here it is generally accepted I find.
    Had you and your surgeon discussed religion before this took place? Did he know that you shared his beliefs? I respect that you felt that it was a appropriate and I'm glad that everything worked out fine for you.

    Personally I find his approach a little dicey, if my surgeon were to tell me that he prays before surgery I think that I'd wonder if he lacks confidence in his abilities and those of his OR team.
    I'd probably be asking anaesthesia for a little extra midazolam

    I generally think that potentially controversial topics such as politics and religion are best avoided in the workplace and in the healthcare provider - patient relationship.
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    Quote from nursefrances
    I totally agree. Money is another issue I never go into with a patient. A patient once said to me "Can you do me favor? Here are my car keys. Can you go into my car and get the money that is in the ashtray and bring it to me?" I wouldn't touch THAT situation with a ten foot pole.

    This morning I was thinking of a typical conversation I have had with Christian patients.
    Patient (smiling): "Are you a Christian?"
    Me (smile back): "Yes, I am"
    Patient: "He is good, isn't He?"
    Me: "Yes, He is. He has always been there when I need Him"

    That's about the jist of it. Or a patient may start that way and ask for prayer because they are scared, going into surgery, etc. I never have big philosophical discussion. It is usually short and sweet like the above example. Like we are talking about an old friend.
    Well said....!!!!
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    Quote from macawake
    Had you and your surgeon discussed religion before this took place? Did he know that you shared his beliefs? I respect that you felt that it was a appropriate and I'm glad that everything worked out fine for you.

    Personally I find his approach a little dicey, if my surgeon were to tell me that he prays before surgery I think that I'd wonder if he lacks confidence in his abilities and those of his OR team.
    I'd probably be asking anaesthesia for a little extra midazolam

    I generally think that potentially controversial topics such as politics and religion are best avoided in the workplace and in the healthcare provider - patient relationship.
    Actually, no. I do live in the south though, (originally from north east) and it seems to be much more widely accepted here to discuss religion and God. I didn't mind, as I believe in the power of prayer, but I can certainly see how others would be bothered by it.
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    Wow, new to this board. Shocked that, even separated out into a board specifically for spirituality in nursing, nurses are being attacked for their spiritual beliefs. Would the Chrisitian nurses have more freedom to share with each other in a forum specifically for Chrsitian nurses? Or would people invade that with their negativity as well?
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    Christian nurses are not being attacked.....it is about the appropriateness of discussing religion with patients. Controversial subjects like this are better left out of your conversations with patients.
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    Quote from GundeRN
    Wow, new to this board. Shocked that, even separated out into a board specifically for spirituality in nursing, nurses are being attacked for their spiritual beliefs. Would the Chrisitian nurses have more freedom to share with each other in a forum specifically for Chrsitian nurses? Or would people invade that with their negativity as well?
    if you are new to this site you will find many people with many belief systems and many opinions. Some people are confrontational, others not so. I look at the posts as an education for me into humans and their inter beings. What you perceive as negativity may be a jolting way of trying to figure out the whys. Why would some think sharing faith is right while others find it to be wrong. I have not taken it as negativity towards any religion, Christianity in particular. We do not have huge amounts of posters who are not Jewish, Christian, agnostic or atheist. i would welcome more input from other religions. Baha'i, Islam, and other religions are rarely shared here. I wish more would share. Knowledge of other religions is very helpful to all nurses.

    I don't think I would want to see any religion boxed in. Who would gain more knowledge that would help them to understand others? One of the best reasons I see for the forums we have and also one of the tools nurses need, to be able to deal with all people one is asked to care for.
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