I was working recently through an outside agency at an inpatient hospice unit and I had a patient sitting in the courtyard and when I went out to check on her she said,"Do you know why that lady in the straw hat keeps waving at me in the window?' Now this window was a window of an empty patient room, there was no one in there, so I went and got another nurse and she and I went into the room and turned on the light and went to the window to show her that there was no one there, then I went back out and the patient said, " how can you say you don't see her, she was standing right next to you waving, see, she is still there,don't you see her beckoning me to come?" Then the patient died after this experience.
I also had the following experiences when I was a nurse manager in a LTC facility. I kept hearing the residents (not just the confused ones) say, someone needs to do something about the children, the childrent need to be taken care of. When asked, they would say it was a boy and girl around 3 and 5 years old, running and laughing and playing and they were concerned that no one was looking after them and caring for them. This only happened when a patient would be nearing death even if we were not epecting them to die. Then when death was imminent they would see "the man in the black coat who wandered the halls and into the resident's room." I asked my staff about this and the one who had worked there for a while stated that the LTC facility was built on the site where a man had burned down his house tieing the children down and leaving them to burn in the house, he later committed suicide in jail. The staff said that this was frequently seen by most of the residents who were nearing death even if it was not evident, and sure enough it was true. Then the weekend supervisor said that one weekend when she was at the nurses station she saw the children and they were trying to play hide and seek with her and she couldn't get them to leave her alone and it was creeping her out. I told her that if that were me I would be gone, my resignation would be on the D.O.N. desk and that would be the last shift I would work there. The night staff stated that they often saw the man in the black coat wonder the hall when someone was going to die. We also had a light it the hall that would flicker when someone was imment and when they died. Yeah, I don't work there any more, but not for this reason, I never saw any of this, but I do believe the residents account for what they saw