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:nurse: I work in a small rural hospital in Nebraska,you would think the nurses here would be as professional as anywhere,or more so,wrong-wrong-wrong...we have some younger 22-30 year olds that use... Read More

  1. Visit  gypsyatheart profile page
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    I have to agree with you here, I don't appreciate it when either gender starts cussing at work. Although, come to think of it, this really isn't a problem where I work. Can't say I've had to deal with this issue a lot, if at all.
    Now gossipping and cliques, well, that's another story....you're gonna have that wherever you are. And it doesn't matter if it's men or women. There are groups, cliques, etc, everywhere! Not just nursing.
    I don't like the singling out of "ladies" and inferring that we (women) should behave better....


    Quote from RN4NICU
    You folks that comment about certain words being inappropriate for a lady to say - do you really think that its appropriate for a man to say??

    I don't think they sound any better coming from men, nor do I think it is more acceptable for men to use them, so it just struck me as odd that people singled ladies out. Profanity is profanity - the gender of the speaker does not change a thing about the words.
  2. Visit  Ross1 profile page
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    I am a social worker (M.S.W.) and current nursing student. In my 12 years of working in the health care industry and working side by side with nurses, I have never witnessed nurses using foul language or engaging in such unprofessional behavior regarding patients. What I have witnessed unfortunately is a high rate of unprofessionalism (downright meanness) towards each other. I can't tell you how many times I've observed nurses talking bad about each other. All this does is create a negative workplace atmosphere and low morale.

    I have never been treated poorly or with disrespect by a fellow social worker, however, my experiences with nurses have varied from outstanding to awful. I do believe that there is much truth to the saying that "nurses are the only professionals who eat their young!"

    Health care is a very high stress profession and much of this stress could at least be alleviated if we were more kind to one another. Workplace negativity can ruin a job.
  3. Visit  kat911 profile page
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    Cursing should never occur in front of a patient. Personally when I am frustrated, angry or just downright disgusted with behavior of my fellow nurses I will resort to potty mouthy mode, but only in the confines of my office and only in front of those who are not offended by my words. I am not so concerned with the words a nurse uses in the nurses station as long as it is away from patients or family. I am more concerned with the care and compassion she shows her patients and coworkers. I have had potty mouth for a long time so I am not offended by curse words unless they are directed at me. Like others have said here, it's a way to blow off steam and relieve stress, and sometimes there are just not other words that are as expressive.
  4. Visit  imnmk_rn profile page
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    All you can change is your own behavior/response. If it bothers you, tell them that it does. It can be tough, and you might have to just know that you are going to be part of the topic of conversation in the breakroom if you don't handle how you confront the behavior in a professional manner. Act professionally yourself, model professional behavior, and don't let them get you down. Talk with your manager if it's out of control. Look at when/where it's happening - in the breakroom, venting about their assignments? In emergency situations where the way a person is used to dealing with stress shows its true colors? Or in front of patients and families? I agree, this behavior is not professional and doesn't put nursing in a very good light. But again, just look at your own behavior and be a consistently professional, excellent nurse. Get another job if it gets you down so much that you start to hate it there.
  5. Visit  Ross1 profile page
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    One of the best coping strategies in my opinion is "I see nothing...I know nothing" (Schultz from the 1960s TV show "Hogan's Heros." With regards to gossipping which can be so destructive to employee morale, my motto is that I do not participate in such behavior. Sometimes it is difficult to avoid these situations. I always find myself in situations where my female colleagues (I am a man) come to me to unload their feelings (and gossip) about their co-workers. All I can do in situations like this is listen but not respond.......cause what I say will surely come back to bite me in the *** at a later time.....since the person that comes to me with her gossip will most likely go to other people and repeat what I said!

    I will never have to apologize for something I never said.
  6. Visit  luv2yoga profile page
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    It's so hard not to get sucked into that. I want to know what's really going on, but I have found that you just don't win by talking about others behind their back. I still struggle with it and sometimes I'm better than others. I used to use this technique with a really viscious gossip (who was a GUY, by the way) at work. When he would share his "insights", I would respond with "gee, that hasn't been what I've observed." or "gee, I don't pay attention to what Joe/Suzie does". You get the idea. It worked with him, he found me a boring conversation partner and stared leaving me alone. Unfortunately, when it's true friends of mine who aren't viscious, when they start sharing secrets I am not as good. But after reading these posts, I am going to work on it.
  7. Visit  Gromit profile page
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    Quote from ayndim
    I wonder if they would talk that way in front of their parents. I am 33 next month and if I cursed in front of my dad he would still try to wash my mouth out with soap. :uhoh21: Hate to sound sexist but there are some words that should not come out of a lady's mouth.
    That is, of course presuming that these people ARE ladies. Just being female doesn't make you a lady anymore than being a male makes us gentlemen.
  8. Visit  miphillli profile page
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    This is in reply to KAT911, thanks for your input,I do,however have to disagree,
    nurses are intelligent people and an intelligent person [ male or female] will be able to "vent" without being foul, again, these words are heard at nurses station
    report room,halls ect. If you want to go in your office,shut the door,and vent in this way,it sure can't hurt anyone,just you.:imbar
  9. Visit  kat911 profile page
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    Quote from miphillli
    This is in reply to KAT911, thanks for your input,I do,however have to disagree,
    nurses are intelligent people and an intelligent person [ male or female] will be able to "vent" without being foul, again, these words are heard at nurses station
    report room,halls ect. If you want to go in your office,shut the door,and vent in this way,it sure can't hurt anyone,just you.:imbar

    Acutally it doesn't hurt a bit! Our profession is full of people from all walks of life with all types of backgrounds and beliefs, it's not up to me to judge someone else's language unless it is expressed improperly in front of patients, families, or visitors. We all know the limits, we can all abide by them. I know some people are terribly offended by "blue" language and I try to not "offend" them. I don't understand how it is so offensive but that is just my opnion and I realize it is not shared by many people. If you want to judge who I am based on my language then base it on all of my language, as well as all of my behavior. I am not linear, I am a full rounded individual with many facets. Be careful who you look down your nose upon, you could miss out on some very important and special relationships. :stone
  10. Visit  zenman profile page
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    I used to live across the street from an elementary school and the little bas****s...I mean kids, would say words that I had just learned as an adult!

    My wife, a school teacher, told me about a parent-teacher conference where little Johnny had been written up for cussing. When the teacher told the mother, the mom reached over and started slapping little Johnny. "What's the hell's wrong with you, you little f****r! When I get you home, you sorry bas****, I'm going to kick your a**! I told you never to cuss, you little SOB! And we ask why?
  11. Visit  RN4NICU profile page
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    Quote from zenman
    I used to live across the street from an elementary school and the little bas****s...I mean kids, would say words that I had just learned as an adult!

    My wife, a school teacher, told me about a parent-teacher conference where little Johnny had been written up for cussing. When the teacher told the mother, the mom reached over and started slapping little Johnny. "What's the hell's wrong with you, you little f****r! When I get you home, you sorry bas****, I'm going to kick your a**! I told you never to cuss, you little SOB! And we ask why?
    Unfortunately, this is a pretty common problem, Zen.

    A friend of mine that floated to peds. unit told me about going in to flush an INT (nothing painful here, just a little saline). Kid bit her, punched her in the face, kicked her in the knee, and called her a f*****g b****
    Meanwhile, his parents just stood there and said/did absolutely nothing - as if this was normal, acceptable behavior.

    I guess that's why I like babies - they don't curse me no matter what kind of trash their parents are. But if their parents start in, I call security.
  12. Visit  LPN4Life profile page
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    Quote from ayndim
    I wonder if they would talk that way in front of their parents. I am 33 next month and if I cursed in front of my dad he would still try to wash my mouth out with soap. :uhoh21: Hate to sound sexist but there are some words that should not come out of a lady's mouth. Still not acceptable for a man to be cursing at work either or in front of the ladies. Gosh am I old-fashioned or what? It wasn't until after I married did I find out my dad ever cursed. And that is only because my husband told me.
    Personally, I think we are kinda young to be old fashioned (33 in Oct) lol, but I agree with you, ANYTIME I hear curse words from a woman, I just cringe. My parents didn't do it in front of me, me nor any of my friends do it, it just isn't acceptable.
    Sure blowing off steam is one thing, but when there is someone out there that may take offense to that way of talking it is just respect to not talk that way, I don't think professionalism is even the word for it, its just plain DISRESPECTFUL
  13. Visit  LPN4Life profile page
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    [QUOTE=RN4NICU]Unfortunately, this is a pretty common problem, Zen.

    A friend of mine that floated to peds. unit told me about going in to flush an INT (nothing painful here, just a little saline). Kid bit her, punched her in the face, kicked her in the knee, and called her a f*****g b****
    Meanwhile, his parents just stood there and said/did absolutely nothing - as if this was normal, acceptable behavior.

    I guess that's why I like babies - they don't curse me no matter what kind of trash their parents are. But if their parents start in, I call security. [/QUO


    That is just sad..............

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