To those who want to leave nursing - page 2

It seems like every time I come onto AN these days, every other post is "I'm sick of nursing/I want out". I understand the nature of this site and forum and all are welcome to come on and vent, but... Read More

  1. Visit  PunkBenRN profile page
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    Ok, people vent. That's exactly what this post was, a vent. It was directed at posts on AN, but I hear it all the time from former classmates and co-workers. It is constructive to get your feelings out. It is not constructive to complain incessantly without trying to change the circumstances. Venting is not my problem - my problem is when put down my profession, when people try to dissuade others from getting into the profession.

    Yeah, I am only 25. Before you start making ageist assumptions on my path to today, let me clear something up. Since 15 years old, I have been working full time (32-40 hours). I have been paying my own rent, food, and transportation since 16. I have been in retail, roofing/construction, food service, traffic control, factory work, farm work, sales, and I did work at a humane society for three years prior to nursing. For what student loans I could qualify for I am indebted. Everything else was out of pocket, and required 40-50 hour work weeks while going through school full time. At the busiest point in my life, I was working three jobs and 75-80 hours a week. I do agree that my youth leaves room for naivety, but I worked HARD to be where I am today. I love what I do, and I would do it all over again.

    As far as not reading the posts, I tried. I generally pass right over them - the reason why I posted is the flood of topics related to this subject. I didn't want to troll or single anybody out, so I felt it would be more rude to reply to those posts. My problem is not related to nurses that are frustrated, burnt out, had negative experiences.... I like those posts and offer my support as I can. To those who come on here to bash nursing as a whole without allowing the option of reprisal or change, I have no tolerance.

    I tried to make a rational argument. Go ahead and all you want, I knew this post would generate some heat. But do you not agree that these posts are getting out of hand?
  2. Visit  PunkBenRN profile page
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    Quote from DizzyLizzyNurse
    I agree that the OP is correct, I just think the ideas could have been delivered in a more positive supportive way.
    I know I was a bit surly today, I was trying to be direct after working a 14 hour night.
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  3. Visit  PunkBenRN profile page
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    And thank you Good Morning, Gil - you took my point and summed it up more eloquently and in fewer words. Exactly the point I was trying to get across, and much less aggressive than my post.
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  4. Visit  canesdukegirl profile page
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    If a nurse was TRULY wanting to leave the profession and was TRULY sick of everything related to nursing, I highly doubt they would still come to AllNurses.

    Nurses vent. We have to! We have so many peers on this forum, and many of them give great advice when we post that we are MISERABLE and FED UP. Sometimes our e-colleagues just need some validation. Some are looking for advice on how to change their career path, while others are seeking pointers on how to deal with specific situations but are so frustrated that they tend to throw out the baby with the bathwater in their rant...the snowball effect, if you will.

    I encourage others to speak out in this forum. It is a healthy outlet.

    Understanding is key. Compassion is welcome. Nurses who post threads stating that they are sick of nursing don't need MORE judgment heaped onto their plates; they are trying to gain more perspective.
    Nurse acewa, sallyrnrrt, diva rn, and 2 others like this.
  5. Visit  PunkBenRN profile page
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    Quote from imintrouble
    If it were only that easy.

    The OP is 25 yrs old. Everything was simpler when I was 25.
    I guess the OP didn't pass the therapeutic communication part of the NCLEX.
    haha, again, sorry for coming across cranky. I do promise you my bedside communication skills are much more gentle.
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  6. Visit  imintrouble profile page
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    Quote from PunkBenRN
    I know I was a bit surly today, I was trying to be direct after working a 14 hour night.
    Try working that 14 hour shift for 10-20-30 years. You might appreciate the "I want to leave nursing" vents more.
    sallyrnrrt, DizzyLizzyNurse, abbaking, and 18 others like this.
  7. Visit  mrr5745 profile page
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    "Difficult patients? Welcome to nursing."


    LOL! This is officially the first time I've been welcomed to nursing by some one with 2-3 years experience! Ahhh...to be young and naive again
    Last edit by mrr5745 on Oct 11, '11
    sallyrnrrt, brandy1017, diva rn, and 7 others like this.
  8. Visit  Good Morning, Gil profile page
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    No problem! haha. But seriously, I like your point about ageism, or I guess it's reverse ageism since we're young. To dismiss someone's view purely based on their age is really not fair. I have met some people in their 40's and 50's who are less mature than I was in high school. Gossipy, irresponsible financially, lazy 50 somethings. Granted, I was a pretty mature teenager, not perfect by any means, but I always understood why my parents had a curfew (they were worried about me and date rape, etc), and never fought that. You clearly have had life experience behind you, more than many people twice your age. This is not to say that I have not been around some pretty immature people in their 20's either. I respect the wisdom any nurse gives me at work and appreciate their knowledge regardless of their age. Usually, the ones that are in their 50's have been nurses for 30 plus years and know a ton, but obviously, there are some new non-traditional 50 something nurses now. Let's all just be respectful toward each other. If we can't get along on a website, how on earth do we get along at work? Oh yeah...that's an issue in nursing. It's at the tip of my tongue...lateral....and...violence, yes. Let's be nice to each other .
    Jay406, A Blooming Rose, and trixie333 like this.
  9. Visit  ZooMommyRN profile page
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    So let me see if I understand this, you can rant and vent about something that bothers you, but feel others should censor themselves because it bothers you? Here's the beauty of a public forum, keep scrolling and don't read it.
    sallyrnrrt, DizzyLizzyNurse, abbaking, and 18 others like this.
  10. Visit  carolmaccas66 profile page
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    I probably agree in the main.
    I've just gone thru a period where I'm absolutely sick of nursing in very way, cos I feel I don't get treated like a professional, after all my hard work. But I've worked in hospitals for over 26 years, so I'm not a newbie. There are however reasons people can't leave nursing (at least not right away):
    - Have no money for study.
    - Have a mortgage, or rent. Can't find somewhere else cheaper to rent in a tight market (this happened to me not long ago as well).
    - Are a single parent, have kids in school, can't move due to them or sharing parental commitments thru a court so they aren't allowed to take the kids to move for another job.
    - Are getting too old for bedside nursing. Life is SO lovely when ur 25! I thought absolutely nothing of doing 3 late/early shifts, then going out to a party/nightclub staying up all night drinking whatever, going to sleep at 5am, then going to work later! I wouldn't even contemplate that now. Nursing is harder on u when u get older; you ache more, you have to deal with more cos ur seen as mature & people confide in u more; you get more tired & need more sleep.
    - I would love to go back to mmixing cocktails & bartending for a while, I did hospitality work for years b4 nursing. But they won't take an old bag like me now - they want young, slim, big-boobed blondes with long legs, g-strings and short skirts, so they can perve at them and pay them less.
    - You think 60+ patients is manageable? I did meds one night for nearly 65 people and it was SO was not manageable! And it is very unsafe - I do not work in those facilities now.
    - You think 1:8 psych patients is easy? I regularly get this. Wait till most of them are suicidal & go psychotic on you (have seen this happen in psych & ED).
    Peopel will always complain. They can't just up & leave jobs for various reasons. And they probably are looking for other jobs, but the housing & job market is so tight, there's no room for leeway. Sometimes it's best go just listen & sympathise & give them a break, as some people may feel trapped as well, ie: too scared to try anything else & have only worked as a nurse.
    It's hard breaking into a new market too.
    Nurse acewa, sallyrnrrt, brandy1017, and 13 others like this.
  11. Visit  MN-Nurse profile page
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    Great post.

    I would add if you are leaving nursing and have one of those sweet 12 hr day shift schedules, please let me know so I can apply for your job!
  12. Visit  MN-Nurse profile page
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    Quote from imintrouble
    If it were only that easy.

    The OP is 25 yrs old. Everything was simpler when I was 25.
    I guess the OP didn't pass the therapeutic communication part of the NCLEX.
    Even at a tender 25, the OP struck chords with some of us, um...more seasoned folks too.
    sallyrnrrt, LadyFree28, trixie333, and 3 others like this.
  13. Visit  Sun_danc3rRN profile page
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    Quote from PunkBenRN
    Yeah, I am only 25. Before you start making ageist assumptions on my path to today, let me clear something up. Since 15 years old, I have been working full time (32-40 hours). I have been paying my own rent, food, and transportation since 16. I have been in retail, roofing/construction, food service, traffic control, factory work, farm work, sales, and I did work at a humane society for three years prior to nursing. For what student loans I could qualify for I am indebted. Everything else was out of pocket, and required 40-50 hour work weeks while going through school full time. At the busiest point in my life, I was working three jobs and 75-80 hours a week. I do agree that my youth leaves room for naivety, but I worked HARD to be where I am today. I love what I do, and I would do it all over again.
    To put it bluntly, BFD! We have ALL worked hard to get where we are! We all have lives, spouses, children, have had crappy jobs, some even including nursing. Alot of us are drowning in debt with student loans, mortgages, car payments, have one income, etc. I was a 15yr old high school drop out who had a baby, and worked to get my high school diploma, even when they didnt have programs to bring your baby to school in 1984. This is just the beginning of the story of education that myself, my husband, and kids went through while I earned 3 degrees, my husband earned 2, and each of our 3 children earned a college degree. We all have our stories..which in my opinion gives us all the right to vent. I don't know about anyone else, but I come here to vent and read because I have no support system at home that understand the trials and tribulations of being a nurse. And you know what the days that I want to leave nursing it is the mortgage, the car payments, the student loan payments, my husbands monthly medical expenses with insurance, that make it so I just can't walk away from it. While I am on this subject, how DARE you state as you did in your original post that MY patient care suffers. I might not always like my job, but I am ALWAYS professional as are 99% of the men and women I work with. Come back and evaluate the validity of your post in a few years, I bet you change your tune on that. And PS if it bugs you so much to see it then don't read the posts. I don't believe being on allnurses.com is a job requirement anywhere, so you should be ok.
    sallyrnrrt, abbaking, brandy1017, and 14 others like this.

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