To those who want to leave nursing

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It seems like every time I come onto AN these days, every other post is "I'm sick of nursing/I want out". I understand the nature of this site and forum and all are welcome to come on and vent, but this post type really irks me. Instead of responding to every post, I wanted to make a blanket reply to all posts.

Ok, you are sick of nursing. For reason A, B, or C , you had a revelation that this is not the profession for you. Lets start with that revelation.

First of all, give it more than a few days before posting about how its time to throw in the towel. Everyone has bad shifts/days/weeks, that is life. After giving yourself some time to cool down, you may realize you are overreacting. Also, can you think of a job prior to nursing that you weren't eventually sick of? Isn't that a part of the reason why you went back to school to become a Nurse? Any job you have had/have/will have will always have negative aspects along with positive aspects. Every job I have ever had its share of poor management, gossip, redundant/ludicrous policies, ungrateful/manipulative customers, and a poor ratio of work put in to compensation. You can try to improve your work environment best you can, you can cope with it, or you can just flat out leave and find work elsewhere. I really can't help you there, that is a decision for you to make.

Doctors are disrespectful and talk down to you? Welcome to nursing. For every difficult doctor (in my opinion, seems to be a 4:1 ratio) you will find one that is respectful and understanding. Some people are easier to work with than others, same goes with co-workers that are RN/LPN/CNA. Again, if you don't like it than fix it - have you tried telling them flat out when they are being disrespectful? You would be surprised how well this works.

Difficult patients? Welcome to nursing. Believe it or not, but people do not like to go to the hospital. They may be difficult for you, but you are as equally difficult for them. When it is medically necessary to be in a hospital, it is not a good experience. When people are in pain it affects their mood. When people are sick, they will get cranky and may say or do things that they wouldn't otherwise. Try to keep that in mind.

Unsafe work environment? I have been on both sides, and I can say now that I am in one of the safest working environments I have EVER been in. If the patient:nurse ratio is too high, look at the patient acuity before crying unsafe. If I am on the floor and taking care of a high ratio (7-8:1), the person that created the assignment probably factored in that these patients are stable and/or easy to care for. If I have a 3:1 ratio, it is probably because these patients are much higher acuity. Take a look at what you perceive as unsafe and what unsafe truly means. When I worked agency, I would be put into low-staffed nursing homes where I was responsible for 45-60 people on a shift - sometimes it was manageable, other times it was VERY unsafe. When I truly feel that patient care is compromised, I speak up. I have refused assignments before, which is a good way to get management to take your concerns seriously. I didn't last there very long due to the frequency of unsafe assignments. When I realized it was unsafe, I found a different job. If you feel safety is compromised, don't keep returning to the same work environment. I don't remember where I heard this, but there is a saying: Insanity is performing the same action(s) and expecting different results.

Ok, whatever has lead you to the decision, you are tired of nursing.

Find a different job. Maybe its not nursing that bugs you, but rather the circumstances of where you work. Nursing as a whole is an increasingly dynamic career path. Not feeling challenged in the nursing home? Work your way up to ICU. Want more autonomy and less care plans? Try Air Care. Too stressed? Take up office nursing or teaching. Don't want to touch people anymore? Go back to school and get into nursing research. It is going to take some time to find what fits you best, and its going to take longer to achieve that position. That's life, you work hard for the job you want.

Take a hiatus. Just because you have the licence doesn't mean you have to use it! I knew a guy that got fed up with nursing and moved on to bartending. He was a bartender for six months and came back to nursing refreshed. Nursing is a very difficult profession, and its okay if you need a break from time to time.

Go back to school. If money is not enough or work is leaving you in a rut, advance yourself. Can't afford to? Baloney! If you sit down I am sure you can figure it out. I am up to my neck in debt, but I still feel that going to school for nursing was the best decision I have made in my life.

For every post that reads "Sick of Nursing" there are at least 10 posts that are "Would do anything - Can't find a job in nursing!" . **** or get off the pot! People would die for your job right now, especially in this economy. You are not doing anybody any good when you hate nursing, yet you sit on your job. It reflects on your patient care, it is taken out on your co-workers, and it keeps good, hard-working, passionate people out of the profession. If you are miserable then leave! If you feel you can fix your attitude, than at least try to fix it. Don't sit around and mope; you are a professional, start acting like one.

If this post comes across as insensitive, than grow up. You are an adult. You made the decision to go to school, you made the choice to work at your job. You have the power to change your job. You have the power to leave at any time.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

IMO I think the OP and most of the repliers had really great thought provoking ideas (especially Leslie). I get kind of offended when ppl start bringing age into it. I'm 26 with a husband, a mortgage, and 2 small kids. I've had cancer (nothing too bad but cancer none the less) and have seen things in nursing I wish I could forget. None of this seems easy to me but some posters would dsagree and say that at 25 life is easy. I'm pretty sure it has to do with circumstances. I know 30, 40, and a few 50 somethings that live a very carefree life (no kids, sig. other, no major bills), but does their opinion mean more bc of age. The OP was just venting...no harm no foul. The one thing I will say is even f I wanted to leave nursing tomorrow I couldn't. Too many ppl depend on me for food,clothing, and shelter... ya know the easy stuff :)

oh my god you are kidding right? Dont you see that we are the harderst working, least respected health care provider, I cant not believe this...

Specializes in School Nursing.

The OP had some valid points that I agree wholeheartedly with, such as the grass not always being greener and all career path have their pros and cons. But he lost me with the whole "welcome to nursing" thing. Someone relatively new to the profession giving a reality check to seasoned nurses who have had enough of it? That does not sit well with me. Like others have said, check back with us in 20 or so years. Hopefully when the OP gets to this point there will still be an AN around for him to vent and seek advice on changing paths. It is not an age thing, it is an experience thing. The OP could be 50 with 3 years experience and the responses would likely have been the same.

Specializes in EMS, ED, Trauma, CEN, CPEN, TCRN.

I've been where the grass is greener .... I came over to this grass here, this nursing grass. Why? Because I said "I'm sick of my soul-sucking corporate job, I can't take it anymore." Has anyone seen the movie "Horrible Bosses"? The guy who was president and promotes himself to the slot Jason Bateman was promised? Yeah, I worked for about 10 of those guys. Every day I was miserable, hateful. My commute was AWFUL, the hours were long (and I was salaried, so unfairly compensated for my 60+ hour weeks), and I thought I might lose my mind. Miserable, miserable. So what did I do? I became an EMT-B for the heck of it, because I'd always wanted to, and went back to school to become a paramedic. And one day I decided to chuck it all -- my office, my title, my decade-plus of seniority at my company, my annual $5K holiday bonus, my staff, the work I'd been doing for years and years -- to take a 50% paycut to work as an ER tech. Bottom of the food chain, baby. And guess what? I was HAPPY! OMG, I loved my work. Loved it so much I did a paramedic-to-RN program, and here I am. (Well, now with a BSN and CEN and CPEN, and a 1LT commission in the Army Nurse Corps.) I didn't like my grass. I found it to be greener here ... Army green, even. Hahaha.

So I can appreciate the point the OP made, even if it did ignite some ire in the delivery. I really, really, REALLY feel badly for people when I see them in a career they hate. But truly, I've maybe only met a couple of nurses that really hate nursing enough to want to leave, but they've been nurses forever and had no clue what else they'd do ... so they bide their time, bitter and pretty hateful toward everyone, staff and patients alike.

I'm the kind of person that believes that change -- positive change -- is always possible. (Naive? Optimistic? Whatever.) There are so many avenues in nursing, and I hope that if someone who is miserable in their lane read the OP's post, or the rest of this thread, that maybe they'll be inspired to change lanes, even if it is just going from one area in nursing to another.

Specializes in LTC, Medical, Telemetry.

You guys are right. I am a prosperous 25 year old male nurse who knows nothing. How could I? My ego needs a check as well, because on top of knowing nothing I think I know everything. Omit this post, its not worth reading.

I'll stay positive and keep myself moving forward.

You guys are right. I am a prosperous 25 year old male nurse who knows nothing. How could I? My ego needs a check as well, because on top of knowing nothing I think I know everything. Omit this post, its not worth reading.

I'll stay positive and keep myself moving forward.

Communication is at least as much about delivery as it is about message. Honestly, I could have overlooked much of your delivery but you lost me at the "grow up" comment.

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
Communication is at least as much about delivery as it is about message. Honestly, I could have overlooked much of your delivery but you lost me at the "grow up" comment.

Me too...

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
You guys are right. I am a prosperous 25 year old male nurse who knows nothing. How could I? My ego needs a check as well, because on top of knowing nothing I think I know everything. Omit this post, its not worth reading.

I'll stay positive and keep myself moving forward.

:smackingf Not trying to sound overly insensitive, but want a little cheese with that whine??

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.
IMO I think the OP and most of the repliers had really great thought provoking ideas (especially Leslie). I get kind of offended when ppl start bringing age into it. I'm 26 with a husband, a mortgage, and 2 small kids. I've had cancer (nothing too bad but cancer none the less) and have seen things in nursing I wish I could forget. None of this seems easy to me but some posters would dsagree and say that at 25 life is easy. I'm pretty sure it has to do with circumstances. I know 30, 40, and a few 50 somethings that live a very carefree life (no kids, sig. other, no major bills), but does their opinion mean more bc of age. The OP was just venting...no harm no foul. The one thing I will say is even f I wanted to leave nursing tomorrow I couldn't. Too many ppl depend on me for food,clothing, and shelter... ya know the easy stuff :)

I haven't seen any posts on here putting down young people at all as you are elluding to.

We are just making the point that as u get older, you can't bounce back as quickly - life IS easier in that regard. And I didn't know any 25 year olds when I was younger who were married with 2 kids - everyone I knew either had a bf, or was travelling/working.

I don't think anyone here is putting down 25 year olds.

Hello,

I am a former nursing assistant and all I wish for you is that you find happiness your job should not make you unhappy. I also think venting and sharing is theraputic and interesting to read.

Specializes in ER.
You guys are right. I am a prosperous 25 year old male nurse who knows nothing. How could I? My ego needs a check as well, because on top of knowing nothing I think I know everything. Omit this post, its not worth reading.

I'll stay positive and keep myself moving forward.

I thought you made a lot of valid observations and age and insight are completely different animals. I have been a nurse almost 40 years and have had a wide variety of nursing positions. I have been back to school 3 different times, have done management, education and staff nursing. They all have their positives and negatives.

I only had 3 jobs before I became a nurse. I worked at a gift shop in a state park, Spencer Gifts at the mall (great job for $1.90/hr), and I folded baby clothes at Target before I began my work as a student nurse at the hospital (yes we could work independently while in school way back when). None of the non nursing jobs carried any degree of responsibility.

Patience in all things is the key. I agree about not allowing yourself to become a victim. The only person responsible for Dixielee is Dixielee! I am the one responsible for keeping myself safe, warm, dry, employed and happy. I am my own best advocate, sometimes my only advocate!

So, if this is harsh, then I accept that criticism, but if we are not happy, satisfied, complete, etc., who do we have to blame? It is not my managers responsibility, the governments responsibility, my family's responsibility to make me happy. It is up to me, and only me. So if something needs changing...make it happen.

Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I thought you made a lot of valid observations and age and insight are completely different animals. I have been a nurse almost 40 years and have had a wide variety of nursing positions. I have been back to school 3 different times, have done management, education and staff nursing. They all have their positives and negatives.

I only had 3 jobs before I became a nurse. I worked at a gift shop in a state park, Spencer Gifts at the mall (great job for $1.90/hr), and I folded baby clothes at Target before I began my work as a student nurse at the hospital (yes we could work independently while in school way back when). None of the non nursing jobs carried any degree of responsibility.

Patience in all things is the key. I agree about not allowing yourself to become a victim. The only person responsible for Dixielee is Dixielee! I am the one responsible for keeping myself safe, warm, dry, employed and happy. I am my own best advocate, sometimes my only advocate!

So, if this is harsh, then I accept that criticism, but if we are not happy, satisfied, complete, etc., who do we have to blame? It is not my managers responsibility, the governments responsibility, my family's responsibility to make me happy. It is up to me, and only me. So if something needs changing...make it happen.

The difference between you and the OP, Dixielee, is tact. Your post is tactful and there's not an ounce of braggadocio in it.

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