is this a form of medicaid abuse?

At least Im not alone on my thinking on this one...my husbands cousin actually works for DSS in the benefit dept for food stamps....I thought about maybe putting a "bug in her ear" about this and just see if she can look into it. Oh...and speaking of daycare....that is also FREE to her. I only have 1 son..2 yrs old and I cannot afford any type of daycare part or fulltime. I dont have an extra 400/mo for it. I wish I did so he could socialize with kids his own age. My son doesnt qualify for medicaid or even health choice b/c I make too much money. I had no choice but to put me, my dh and my son on family insurance thru my job....I pay over 251 every 2 wks for insurance that is less than good. If one of us has to go to the ER ...the copay is 300.00. Who has an extra 300 to give to an ER? by the time you pay that kind of a copay....plus 20% of the ER bill...you're probably looking at a good 700. 00 ER bill when the total cost might be around 900 or so. Its crazy. When I finally spoke up and said what I said to her the other night...it was a long time coming...I heard her bragging thru the past 2 pregnancies and then some about all the stuff she gets. I just could not contain myself this time. It got to me. Ive even tried to talk to her about going back to school. I asked her why she didnt go to school seeing as how that would also be FREE to get herself better educated and able to actually provide for her family ......I think she doesnt really want to b/c if she could get a better paying job say..as a nurse or what not....she'd lose her free benefits. I worked as a cna weekends making 9/ hr to get myself thru the LPN program...I lived off of literally my spare change to get to school and eat etc...plus I got NO aid for my education. i paid for it in cash....I was too young for pell they said....I made 12000/yr or less but wasnt 24 yrs old at the time and had no kids. The fin aid dept said if i got pregna.nt I would qualify and that they couldnt help me. A wk before I was to take my boards I found out I was pregnant....I did get WIC thank god...but luckily the income wasnt a deciding factor in that one. I only had it the first year of his life for his formula...but I ended up having to buy more formula out of my pocket b/c the amt they covered wasnt enough. I wish this area was reformed and had some better guidelines to it in cases like hers. I honestly think that she is addicted to pregnancy. I think she feeds off the attention...I personally couldnt imagine selling food stamps that I needed to feed my child. My next ? is this.....can this stuff be reported anonymously? Is it better to do it in writing...or by phone? And how exactly is the best way to "word" the situation when it is reported?