I don't want a male nurse! - Caption Contest Winner - page 3

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  1. Visit  trueblue2000} profile page
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    Quote from mind_body_soul
    But just because I am a patient it doesn't mean that my modesty, comfort, and dignity has to go out the window.
    I think I will never understand why being care for by a person of the opposite sex means trowing one's modesty, comfort and dignity out of the window.

    If you think it is OK to discriminate someone solely on the basis of their gender, what is so wrong about discriminating on other basis, such as race, age and religion? My comfort, modesty and dignity requires nursing care by white, male Baptists ages 18-25. This is a very dangerous road to travel. Our laws prohibit discrimination on the basis of gender, age, color and religion and we should abide by them.
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  3. Visit  mind_body_soul RN} profile page
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    Quote from trueblue2000
    I think I will never understand why being care for by a person of the opposite sex means trowing one's modesty, comfort and dignity out of the window.

    If you think it is OK to discriminate someone solely on the basis of their gender, what is so wrong about discriminating on other basis, such as race, age and religion? My comfort, modesty and dignity requires nursing care by white, male Baptists ages 18-25. This is a very dangerous road to travel. Our laws prohibit discrimination on the basis of gender, age, color and religion and we should abide by them.
    I get your point, I really do. I would let a male nurse take care of me any day. But as for Pap smears and breast exams, I am extremely uncomfortable with ANYONE touching or examining my genitalia, and even more uncomfortable with the thought of a man who is not my husband getting that "up close and personal". I feel very vulnerable as it is in that tiny paper gown with my legs hoisted in the stirrups with everything on display. Having a female caregiver in that instance puts me slightly more at ease. If that constitutes discrimination in your eyes and makes me a bad person, then so be it. There are no laws against a patient in a healthcare facility refusing care from an opposite-sex care provider because it is not discrimination, just like how we still have gender-specific bathrooms, and that is not considered discrimination. In all of my nursing textbooks, when culture is discussed, same sex caregiver preference is common to many cultures, and is an accepted request to try to accommodate when feasible.
  4. Visit  jcaron} profile page
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    I totally understand where you are coming from. In my opinion, as a male nursing student, I think that people should be able to voice their preference when it comes to personal care or examinations such as you described. However, I think it is odd when patients request a female caregiver in general, unless there is some clear reason, such as religious/cultural preference. Are females more appropriate for managing your IV, giving your medications, or changing a dressing (excepting for location)? I don't see what argument could be made for that. I feel like there is some sort of line that needs to be drawn, but it really can't be universal because that would infringe on the rights of some. So ultimately I think it comes down to nursing judgement to determine whether a patients request is reasonable, or for valid reasons, or simply an attempt to manipulate the staff. I think most cases are the former, and we all can identify when it is the latter.
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  5. Visit  jayjaybsnrn} profile page
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    is that suppose to be funny?
  6. Visit  anotherone} profile page
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    What if having only white nurses makes me more comfortable? Why shouldn't that be upheld too? What if that is my culture, personal preferences which are (to me)as important as any religion or belief and can certainly be as misguided!!?! I am just playing devil's advocate. I prefer female doctors mostly for a couple of reasons i prefer not to discuss, BUT after working as a nurse and with many male and female drs, pas, nurses, aides etc I care less and less everyday. Also I will often look for a picture of a dr I am going to see , where they graduated from medical school and residency before I see them for the most part. Sometimes this male/female requeat is not so easy to accomadate .
  7. Visit  MattNurse} profile page
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    I don't get it.
    J-Swish likes this.
  8. Visit  Anoetos} profile page
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    I don't have boobs, so a lot of male doctors don't like to talk to me, especially residents and younger attendings.

    Also, I am bigger than many of them, so I think I intimidate them. It's odd but all that supposed superiority due to intellect and training can still shrivel in the presence of a big man. Unfortunately, it often tends to manifest in a certain snippishness or outright ignoring.

    I relate well to female doctors of course, and my co-workers seem to like me.

    For the very much larger part, my patients and their families love me.
  9. Visit  J-Swish} profile page
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    This is nothing.

    I have been told I look "12 years old" or "teenager," therefore they want another nurse.
    anotherone likes this.
  10. Visit  blackvans1234} profile page
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    As a PCT it is the most annoying thing I deal with.
    As I spend more time in the field it is more and more a nuisance.
  11. Visit  PMFB-RN} profile page
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    As a male nurse I have had this happen a number of time. No big deal. I understand and will go out of my way to accomadate. What I do have a problem with is when a female arrives unannounced in a rural ER and pitches a fit when there isn't a female physican or nurse to care for her. Many times we have been an all male staff (of 3) on in the ER. Our manager always makes sure to schedual a female CNA in the ER so we have a female to be in the room with us. A few times we have had women or girls insist on a female doc or nurse. Well sorry this is what we have. Deal with it or go someplace else.
    Now in the case where the patient can call ahead and make her preference known, or in a case of an admission over several shifts / days when it is possible I will go out of my way to accomadate their preference. I understand thier discomfort and speaking as the nurse the last thing I want is a patient who is uncomfortable with my gender. Who knows how she will percieve my normal nursing care and what she will say. My license shudders.
    anotherone, jawharah, and uRNmyway like this.
  12. Visit  proud nurse} profile page
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    I can't even imagine myself as a patient refusing a male nurse...
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  13. Visit  big al lpn} profile page
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  14. Visit  big al lpn} profile page
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    I would like to add to this caption. The male nurse should reply, "yep...but he doesn't want a black one either." I think it is worth discussing where patent rights end and the nurses civil rights begin. Not just about race , but gender, age, and sexual orientation.
    anotherone likes this.


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