SO mad...and not sure I should be. - page 2

by AngelfireRN | 7,283 Views | 44 Comments

Please forgive the length...it's been a bad day. I work in a clinic that dispenses controlled substances. As such, we have various and sundry very stringent rules in place so as to prescribe as safely and therapeutically as... Read More


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    To those that say we don't know for sure...we do. She said it flat-out. It was an inconvenience and she didn't need an inconvenience, she needed her meds. Period.
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    Took the words right out of my mouth @simply complicated, I completely agree!
    As someone who has also worked psych, it's true even if someone says something 'flat out' it doesn't mean that's what's going on underneath the surface. There is no way that you can know the circumstances around how this poor woman came to be pregnant or addicted for that matter. Without walking in her shoes there is no place to judge. Im truly sorry that you had a bad day, it happens to all of us and I feel that as a woman you are allowed to have a reaction to something by which you feel you have been personally affected. However, as hard as it is as a nurse I feel that you cannot take such an incident so personally. IMHO it is our job as nurses to show compassion to our patients and not judge them no matter how we may personally feel about their life choices.
    charli_appleRN, JZ_RN, CCRNDiva, and 1 other like this.
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    needless to say, i try not to judge in some cases however, when i don't agree with the views of my patients, i don't let my feelings show. therefore, i'm glad you held your composure and came here instead and let it all out, and for that i applaud you...aloha~
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    whose life?
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    "i consider myself pro-choice. in cases of rape, incest, extreme youth, maternal danger, or a known fetal condition that will result in little to no quality of life, i support the termination of a pregnancy. not because one had no foresight to take precautions. "

    i'd agree with the indications, and add contraception failure to your list.

    however, i'm thinking that if we take her at her word, perhaps a druggie without enough foresight to take precautions isn't a real good bet for motherhood, and termination is the best option for her.

    good for recognizing where so much of your anger is coming from. it will get better...
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    I feel for you OP.

    After dealing with my oxycontin injecting son and his addicted baby's mama, I have zero patience or sympathy for drug abusers. Fortunately, she didn't abuse pills while pregnant. But they did end up losing custody of the child to the state eventually.
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    The fastest way to burn out is to personalize this type of patient.We have to learn to compartmentalize our own life experiences away from those of our patients and sometimes we need to look for employment in a different area as self- preservation.
    We all have things we struggle with-you are venting here and that's always good.
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    Quote from itsmejuli
    I feel for you OP.

    After dealing with my oxycontin injecting son and his addicted baby's mama, I have zero patience or sympathy for drug abusers. Fortunately, she didn't abuse pills while pregnant. But they did end up losing custody of the child to the state eventually.
    I'm so very sorry. Prayers for peace and calm going your way.
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    No one understands until they've been in a situation such as yours. I've had several miscarriages, and one healthy pregnancy. It makes me cringe knowing people can just so "easily" terminate their pregnancy. BUT, this is our job. We tolerate ALL kinds, and silently judge them in our heads... LOL. I know it really stinks, but what can you do? I'm sure your hormones did not help this any though either. I remember after my son was born it took absolutely NOTHING to make me angry/sad/crying/laughing...sometimes all at the same time.
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    Quote from AngelfireRN
    She didn't care to announce it to the entire lobby, triage, and clinic in general.
    Of course she did not care to announce it! You made a pregnant woman talk about her termination in the lobby? I don't care if she is a drug seeker or not, discussions like that should NOT be within earshot of other patients or staff.

    Also, I don't think women that choose to terminate should be required to be solemn at all times. They made a choice. How they deal with that choice is really no ones business. They have to stay pregnant until their termination appointment. I don't think that time should be spent in a mandatory shame spiral.

    Just my 2 cents...


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