Quote from lostNneuro
I have a new employee, new grad actually, that is causing quite a stir around our small department. Shows loads of initiative, but also very cocky. Several staff, and recently even patients have made comments to the new employees attitude.
I feel like its something I would like to confront, as I want him to be successful here - but I'm lost for a words in starting/keeping a professional positive tone to the conversation. Is this something you would approach or let it work out over time on its own?
Your initial instinct is right. You need to nip it in the behind. I agree ti is over compensation for feeling overwhelmed. I would start the conversation just like you did.....I want you to be successful here. We appreciate your confidence but your demeanor is over bearing at times. We appreciate your enthusiasm and vigor but it can be over whelming to the casual observer.
Give examples of the extreme behavior and concrete examples of the desired behavior. Set up a system of silent notification when he becomes overbearing so that he knows when to curb his enthusiasm. Appreciate his newness (if that is a word) and support his achievements....let him know the good things. Give concrete examples of how to "fit in" but give him time.....it is probably an inherent personality trait that he needs to learn how to modulate.
I had new nurses like that that just have a hard time modulating their filters. Good positive feed back and give very specific examples on how to handle a situation.
I remember one very bright....brilliant actually.....nurse. I remember she was caring for a patient that had drank antifreeze getting dialysis. As the patient put it he only had "a cap full here and a cap full there" when she advised that RIPPLE was cheaper.....I spit my coffee out my nose and reminded her later that we don't advise patients how to behave badly at a lower budget. It took a long time to help her develop her filter......but she really had no clue what she was doing wrong. Good loving limits and lessons on communication went a long way. I told her we had to turn her into an Emmy wining actress with a good therapeutic response.
I have noticed that some males can be more challenging as they have an evolutionary need to dominate. The whole Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". I have a daughter and a son 11 months apart. My daughter came out loving pink and loving babies....... he came out playing soldiers, slamming them and blowing them up. Nurture their Nature. Taylor your plan to modulate his responses and give him other responsibilities that he feels he can dominate.
I have always supported individuality in the staff and played to their strengths. I also would engage the "key players" on the individual shifts on the plan and let the "offender" aware they are the resource people to help them learn "the ropes"