My story starts where I teed off one of my main preceptor's as a new nurse. I had known this nurse as a tech and we were friends so I actually requested her to be one of my preceptors when I was hired as a new RN.
What I did not know, and my manager and peers failed to tell me also, was that she had already had red flags up as a preceptor. I found out way too late that the last person she precepted just quit right before coming off orientation.
One of the biggest problems was that she wanted to look like an awesome preceptor and she thought that to do so my time management was to be up to par with hers, a seasoned nurse. So she would ride me (when she wasn't BS'ing with peers) about how fast I was getting everything done.
She would also put my questions off (we'll talk about that later...later never came) and would also tell me to do one thing (like call the CNA to get a BP) and then say another (like you've got to do it yourself, they're busy-she was very partial to a specific CNA). I could have just done it myself the first time...woulda helped my time management!
This really did not help me transition roles, learn, or help with gaining respect from the other nurses or CNA's, or learn proper delegation skills.
Needless to say, I was trying to stick it out in a miserable situation (six weeks) but we ended up boiling over the week before I came off orientation and I voiced my concerns to the manager. Both BIG mistakes!
My manager actually put me on an extended "orientation" period where I flew solo but I was aware that my job could be terminated at anytime all because of my preceptor's feedback. I was crushed.
I had already worked for this company for years! But that's not all...
Once I totally ticked off my preceptor, I ticked off her click of nurses that I had known as a CNA/tech prior to becoming a nurse. This set me up for a horribly unsupportive and cold-shouldered first year as a nurse.
I was treated like I was an absolute idiot when I asked questions. Answers were given with an annoyed undertone if given at all. Techs would say that they would help me and then never show up or what I delegated would get "forgotten about." I was also just excluded from simple things like ordering out for food. Food would just randomly show up and others would be eating...hmmm...
I work on a 40+ bed unit so this is a fair number of peers to be shunned by. Thankfully I had a few go-to people that absolutely saved my patients for me when I knew something was wrong but was too inexperienced to know yet just what was going on. My patients will always come before my pride so when I had questions or needed help then I asked anybody I could find but who I asked and who I could find make an impact on the whole learning experience.
I have time and a high turn-over on my floor to thank for being almost bullied free these days. Here I am 2+ years later as one of the more seasoned nurses on my floor with the newbies and other peers asking for my help often every shift. I am also one of the main preceptor's on my floor for my shift and as far as I know I'm a damn good one too. Turning out to be a damn good nurse as well!
As my grandmother
always told me...
What does not kill you will only make you stronger. Amen Grandma Amen
P.S. I have noticed a few of the newer nurses (like new grads) being kinda "clicky". I wonder if this is where the "nurses eat their young" tradition evolves from. You know what clicky rhymes with huh...