Why are Nurses so mean to each other? - Page 8

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  1. Aug 19, '12 by
    perhaps the mean-ness is actually fatigue, quota responsibility, paperwork and poor staffing. new people anywhere-have to be figured out so to speak-change is tough for some-esp when it just might work and make the day easier. i agree-nurses are way too tough on themselves and each other and i have never understood why.
  2. Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from pinkfish333
    its just like on the job.... all the negativity and drama amongst nurses, its disgusting
    Really? I disagree (& that is not a bad thing!); I see this more as healthy dialogue than "negativity" or "drama". I'm glad we have a forum to discuss these issues that impact our ability to provide quality care & experience job satisfaction. Even if we disagree with each other, at least we are acknowledging and exploring the issue, as opposed to adding to our stress by repressing our views/feelings. Also, flawed as we may be, the nursing profession is full of compassionate individuals.
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    Aug 19, '12 by
    This is the internet, so you have to accept the good, the bad, the ugly. Certain remarks, and even certain posters, we learn to take with a grain of salt. The poster who remarked, "you're clinical skills suck," well, obviously they are insensitive, and do not represent AN as a whole. A remark such as that makes them look bad. Period. Overall, I've found AN members to be very supportive. Otherwise, I wouldn't continue to return 2 years later.
  4. Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from ewere
    due to females dominating nursing profession and also differ culture and languages, there bound to be haters among each other. and also [majorly in nigeria] the older nurse usually against the young and upcoming nurse. the solution to this is PRAYER.
    That's wonderful that you believe in the power of prayer, but not everyone out there believes this. Please respect that
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  5. Asst. Admin
    Aug 19, '12 by
    A nursing educator expressed some ideas on why this 'mean' phenomenon occurs on his blog. Some would say that nurses perceive themselves to be oppressed and, therefore, lash out on others around them. Click on the link below to read more if you are interested.
    There has been something interesting observed in psychological studies of people who are opressed or who perceive themselves to be so. At times, in an effort to feel empowered and stable, these very people can become oppressive to others themselves; sort of a false hierarchy emerges based on assumed criteria that seem to establish a social order.
    Oriented Times Three: One Role of Humility in Nursing Education
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  6. Guide
    Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from FlyingScot
    I'd wager that if we stopped to visit on a teacher forum or a social work forum or even a lunch-lady forum we would see the exact same complaints about people being "mean". Nurses do not have a corner on the market of being rude. It's just that's the environment to which you are being exposed. It boils down to this...some humans are horrible people and a certain percentage of them go into nursing. It has nothing to do with being a nurse and everything to do with being a flawed person,
    Very true ... but on a nursing forum you get the added kick that anything less than blind cheerleading is somehow *un-nurse-like* because it's not positive or supportive enough.
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    Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from Altra
    Very true ... but on a nursing forum you get the added kick that anything less than blind cheerleading is somehow *un-nurse-like* because it's not positive or supportive enough.
    Very true. Often, I've read posts and responses where the OP asks a question, and when they don't receive the answer they want, members are accused of being mean. There's a huge difference between "mean" and honest. If you can't handle the responses, don't ask the question.
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  8. Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from TheCommuter
    A nursing educator expressed some ideas on why this 'mean' phenomenon occurs on his blog. Some would say that nurses perceive themselves to be oppressed and, therefore, lash out on others around them. Click on the link below to read more if you are interested.

    Oriented Times Three: One Role of Humility in Nursing Education

    Thanks for sharing, I really appreciate this. I think it answers my question and is very informative.
  9. Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from TheCommuter
    A nursing educator expressed some ideas on why this 'mean' phenomenon occurs on his blog. Some would say that nurses perceive themselves to be oppressed and, therefore, lash out on others around them. Click on the link below to read more if you are interested.

    Oriented Times Three: One Role of Humility in Nursing Education
    Makes perfect sense to me.
  10. Aug 19, '12 by
    Quote from HM-8404

    It reminds me of something that happens on Facebook quite often. I will paraphrase what some people often will post... "Hi, I'm a drama queen and I need your prayers and support just so I can feel like I'm the center of attention on fb for a few minutes. I'm not going to tell you why, or answer any questions because that would spoil my plan. May God bless you all and thank you so very much in advance!"
    So true! Lol!