Why nurses don't want to be identified in public? - page 5

by Mully 26,656 Views | 86 Comments

It's funny. I remember hearing nurses tell stories about being in the public and not wanting anyone to know that they are a nurse. I always thought that was strange, because I've always been so proud of being an RN. Throughout... Read More


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    I believe we are all free to determine 'our duty' in this situation.

    I grow so weary of someone else having self-appointed themselves as the spokesperson for me and other nurses. Unless, I missed the election.

    It might also be considered that the gentleman was just answering a question in a factual manner without thought or intent otherwise.
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    More than anything, this makes me want a Belgian waffle.
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    Quote from SaoirseRN
    I would not have engaged that conversation either, and I don't think that means I lack compassion. I don't think it means I haven't done "my duty" as a nurse.
    It's not your duty as a nurse...its your duty as a human being.
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    Quote from MotherRN
    It's not your duty as a nurse...its your duty as a human being.
    You are dictating the moral compass of everyone. What gives you the right, may I ask?
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    Quote from Ruas61
    You are dictating the moral compass of everyone. What gives you the right, may I ask?
    As a confirmed Catholic, I am obligated to provide good counsel when the situation arises.

    You, of course, are free to exercise your own will as to whether or not you choose to listen.

    Still it is my duty to speak up, though I realize I will be expressing an unpopular belief.

    It's Sunday. I hope you all have a peaceful day and try not to take my words as a personal attack- they were meant to challenge an attitude. Much like a Sunday homily does.
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    Quote from MotherRN
    The whole point of the post is that she would NOT be happy to talk to random strangers who invade her privacy when she is off the clock. And, nearly everyone who has posted agrees with this perspective.

    I think the demands of nursing and 'compassion fatigue' are why so many feel this way. Trust me, after shifts like mine last night, I do understand the feeling.

    I don't mean to attack the OP personally. My point is that we need to rise above it and remember we are all called to compassion for our fellow human beings, whether they be strangers or not, whether we are tired from work or not- it's our duty.

    My argument is against a very common attitude among healthcare professionals when off the clock.
    I think engaging with complete strangers about such deeply personal matters is ill-advised.

    Doesn't really have anything to do with "compassion fatigue" or being a nurse, it would just be a very uncomfortable and awkward experience.
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    Quote from MotherRN

    It's not your duty as a nurse...its your duty as a human being.
    And it's my duty as a human being to recognize when I can't help a situation. Tired, hungry, and post night shift is not when I can just give of myself to another except in an extreme case.

    My point is, we can't be "on" all the time and I don't believe that means I lack compassion as a human being, either.
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    Quote from MotherRN
    The whole point of the post is that she would NOT be happy to talk to random strangers who invade her privacy when she is off the clock...My point is that we need to rise above it and remember we are all called to compassion for our fellow human beings, whether they be strangers or not, whether we are tired from work or not- it's our duty.
    Huh. So you're saying that it's my duty as a human being to be happy to talk to random strangers that invade my privacy? That to do otherwise means I am lacking in compassion? Interesting. I wonder what Ted Bundy's victims would think of that?

    At any rate, since we're all throwing in our two cents, it's not really listening to a stranger's sob story that makes me not want to be identified as a nurse while off the clock. I can do that, that's easy. My biggest fear is having to do the Heimlich maneuver. Now that scares me.
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    Sweet conversation.
    Oh, and, the OP is a MAN! Not that you would have known...


    I think the two different opinions come from two different interpretations of the story, which causes the disagreement. One side sees the interaction as a light, not-very-consequential moment in time, where the other side sees it as the man deeply hurting and strongly needing someone at that very moment. Maybe he is just making conversation, or maybe his world is coming to an end. Maybe he hardly knew his mother, or maybe she was his everything. The story doesn't give us enough information, making this impossible to distinguish. Maybe you both actually agree, and would react the same way in either situation, it's just that you both read the story, and the man's needs, differently.
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    I'm tiny, and I'm certain it'll be the 6 foot tall 300 pound man choking on his steak. I just know it. THAT's why I don't want to be identified as a nurse.
    DizzyLizzyNurse likes this.


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