Why are nurses such back-stabbers? - page 8

Why do nurses feel the need to "tattle" on colleagues to the boss for petty things? Behavior like this does nothing to elevate our profession and everything to keep us down. Why are there some... Read More

  1. by   RN BSN 2009
    If I can make it through nursing school, I'll have lots of self esteem!! :trout:
  2. by   sheri_w
    The Karma bus eventually catches up with the backstabbers. We had a nurse who was always reporting others for piddley stuff. Our complaints against her never went anywhere. Til recently when it was pointed out to a fill in supervisor ( regular RN picked a good time to take a vacation ) that there was way too much of a certain med left over at the end of the month. She is no longer employed there.
  3. by   honeyz
    :smiley_abfunny, same thing is happening to me. i was not going to do anything about this particular RN, until she trashed my name, character, & self. now, i have a grievence against her due to the fact of false statement. And to think she's very loud & lazy lazy lazy. So i begin with her drama. She will be crying, talking trash, wanting to celebrate her pitty party. Watch out !:angryfire
  4. by   RN BSN 2009
    Quote from sheri_w
    The Karma bus eventually catches up with the backstabbers. We had a nurse who was always reporting others for piddley stuff. Our complaints against her never went anywhere. Til recently when it was pointed out to a fill in supervisor ( regular RN picked a good time to take a vacation ) that there was way too much of a certain med left over at the end of the month. She is no longer employed there.
    Glad she got what she deserved! It makes me sad that so-called professionals make it the point of their day trying to tear people down!
  5. by   jmckeith
    Bottom line it comes down to work environment. If management is allowing gossip to permeate then it will flourish regardless of gender.

    It would be great if all reasonable people could avoid "poisoned" work environments. This way, the employer is forced into changing their management style or, be stuck with a bunch of misfit employees.
  6. by   GardenDove
    I don't think you can automatically point the finger at management for workplace gossip. What do you want them to do, plant listening devices at the nurses station and send people to Siberia if they violate the Fuher's commands?

    I think it's human nature, and sometimes is just chance. For instance, I worked on a Med-Surg wing where one of the unit secretaries was a immature b$%ch who was very good at Junior High mind games, and wielded an inordinate amount of social power over the nurses, many of whom were new at the profession. She and a CNA who had been there were really out of control, I thought.

    Perhaps management can intervene, but it becomes very difficult, rather like refereeing your children.
  7. by   UM Review RN
    Quote from GardenDove
    I don't think you can automatically point the finger at management for workplace gossip. What do you want them to do, plant listening devices at the nurses station and send people to Siberia if they violate the Fuher's commands?

    I think it's human nature, and sometimes is just chance. For instance, I worked on a Med-Surg wing where one of the unit secretaries was a immature b$%ch who was very good at Junior High mind games, and wielded an inordinate amount of social power over the nurses, many of whom were new at the profession. She and a CNA who had been there were really out of control, I thought.

    Perhaps management can intervene, but it becomes very difficult, rather like refereeing your children.
    Oh, I've worked a unit like that!! The US used to actually BRAG that "if I don't like someone, they won't be staying here." And what was scary was, she wasn't kidding. I saw her report every little thing that one new RN did until finally the RN quit--and really, I worked with that new grad and I can honestly say that she made no more mistakes than any other newbie.

    But our manager heard only the US. IMO, our manager gave that US waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much power. So yeah, the manager should've intervened. Some of us complained, but of course, we were not heard.

    When I get angry thinking about that, I remember that it's still very true that what goes around, comes around.

    And I'm very glad that I moved on. There are some wonderful people out there, you just have to keep looking till you find them.
  8. by   RNforLongTime
    To answer some questions, the boss changed my schedule after it was already posted WITHOUT checking with me first to see if it was ok to do so, and had she asked I would've said yes. She scheduled me to work last Saturday after she had originally given me the day off because we were going to have our Christmas party that night but no one got things together in time. So, she revamped the schedule then and put me down to work. I had made family plans for that night since I wasn't planning on going to the party anyway. I was SO mad that she had done this . ABSOLUTELY furious! So, I said that maybe I would just call in sick, which I ended up being sick and called in for that night. I called in under the appropriate time guidelines, etc. So, someone told her that I had said that. I think I know who it was but I can't go pointing fingers.

    As far as reading a book, I work straight night shift in a small ICU so on a rare occasion there is some rare down-time to read. Usually we sit and chit-chat. NO MORE! I'll keep my nose in a book--usually I have a nursing reference book that I read.

    The OP is having some problems at work and she takes the actions of a few and generalizes them to an entire gender and a profession
    Things like this have happened to me at other facilities where I've worked. In a typical converstion with co-workers, I made some statements about things management was doing that I didn't agree with and I end up being "tattled" on and called into the managers office about what I'd said. Not ever had I ever said or done anything that was unsafe or unethical, EVER! It's happened over and over and over again. I've been in this profession for FIFTEEN YEARS. Guess I need to learn to keep my mouth shut about what I perceive to be as injustices.

    If we all banded together instead of beating each other down, think of all that we could acheive.
    Last edit by RNforLongTime on Dec 17, '06
  9. by   jmckeith
    Quote from GardenDove
    I don't think you can automatically point the finger at management for workplace gossip. What do you want them to do, plant listening devices at the nurses station and send people to Siberia if they violate the Fuher's commands?

    I think it's human nature, and sometimes is just chance. For instance, I worked on a Med-Surg wing where one of the unit secretaries was a immature b$%ch who was very good at Junior High mind games, and wielded an inordinate amount of social power over the nurses, many of whom were new at the profession. She and a CNA who had been there were really out of control, I thought.

    Perhaps management can intervene, but it becomes very difficult, rather like refereeing your children.
    I think you misunderstood me. As you said gossip may be human nature, I'm not sure. I do not point the finger at all management. I have seen some work environments with very good management. What I am referring to is management that listens to and encourages the poison of gossip to proliferate.
  10. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from angie o'plasty, rn
    oh, i've worked a unit like that!! the us used to actually brag that "if i don't like someone, they won't be staying here." and what was scary was, she wasn't kidding. i saw her report every little thing that one new rn did until finally the rn quit--and really, i worked with that new grad and i can honestly say that she made no more mistakes than any other newbie.

    but our manager heard only the us. imo, our manager gave that us waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much power. so yeah, the manager should've intervened. .
    [font="comic sans ms"]so that is an example of where weak management allowed the condition to continue rather than nipping it in the bud.
  11. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I'm disheartened that one nurse rats on you, and I understand that's upsetting, but why judge a whole profession and gender? Is that fair?
    No, it's not fair, and i'm quite tired of the uncalled for stereotyping that some people are just insisting on.
  12. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from Ruby Vee
    I learned years ago that you elicit the responses you get.

    I find it truly saddening and disappointing that nursing, predominately a female profession harbors such negative stereotypes against women. It truly amazes me how few of our members seem to actually LIKE nurses, or to like women. It is small wonder that many nurses are having negative experiences with their co-workers. It seems that few nrses really like their co-workers, their profession or their gender. How sad that someone would have a negative experience with a co-worker (which that person may or may not have contributed to with an "off the cuff remark") and then generalize against an entire gender and most of a profession!

    Very well said.
  13. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from SharonH, RN
    I agree 100% with Ruby Vee here as well as earlier comments made by Deb(Smiling Blue Eyes). This thread makes me sad. Very sad. The OP is having some problems at work and she takes the actions of a few and generalizes them to an entire gender and a profession and immediately receives a chorus of amens from dozens of people, presumably adults, mostly women. Thus you're propagating the very behavior you're condemning.

    What's worse, the OP never gave us the details of what these "tattletales" told about. Perhaps her co-workers had genuine concerns about something she did and felt legally and/or morally obligated to take it to a higher authority versus merely having a pow-wow with her. I have found after 16+ years in this business that what is one person's no big deal is actually a life-threatening mistake to another person.


    We've all had negative experiences with co-workers. This does not justify negatively labeling an entire profession or gender just as it would not be acceptable if she had asked why were "Asians" or "Blacks" or "Mormons" or "Southerners" or "short people" such backstabbers.

    :yeahthat:

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