Why are nurses such back-stabbers? - page 15

Why do nurses feel the need to "tattle" on colleagues to the boss for petty things? Behavior like this does nothing to elevate our profession and everything to keep us down. Why are there some... Read More

  1. by   RazorbackRN
    Quote from chris castillo
    I have no idea what you are talking about when you say I have no ideal what your are talking about, ideal is there perfect conception of an idea or thing, it is not the actual idea. College education is a hard thing to point out without immeadiately coming under more intense scrutiny. I have no ideal is grammatically incorrect.

    You have my head spinning now...
  2. by   majestic
    Re: why are nurses such back-stabbers?
    Nurses are employed and work with other females day in day out. The problem seems to be the lack of the male gender that would set those women into place, and would shut up those gossipers. The best advice, ignore those mean spirited female.
  3. by   GardenDove
    I work with several men and they seem to enjoy hearing happenings at work just as much as the women. I hear lots of gossip from them!
  4. by   West_Coast_Ken
    Quote from GardenDove
    I work with several men and they seem to enjoy hearing happenings at work just as much as the women. I hear lots of gossip from them!
    Gossiping is not the same as back-stabbing, although those who do one often do the other.
  5. by   GardenDove
    Quote from West_Coast_Ken
    Gossiping is not the same as back-stabbing, although those who do one often do the other.
    You have a point there. I'll admit, I prefer working with men.
  6. by   arhyme100
    i'm in my 50's and been an "LPN" for a long time...in the good old days when we were valued and cared about as much as our rn colleagues. at the stroke of midnight...over and over as the laws changed...we suddenly became stupider and stupider. "yesterday i knew how to hang blood but as of midnight today, i don't". these changes came about because nurses do "eat their young" and the entire health care system and the nursing profession has suffered. why? i think there is a huge insecurity issue, especially among rns, which is what made them push for such changes in the profession. now, things have changed so that rns on the floors in various facilities can hardly manage their patients, and those who really can't flee off to management and task force positions. meanwhile we've got questionable bedside care staff and overworked rn's and poor patient care. if we had stuck together and have all fulfilled our various positions within our scope of nursing, we would be a force to reckon with today. but...........look at us now
  7. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from majestic
    Re: why are nurses such back-stabbers?
    Nurses are employed and work with other females day in day out. The problem seems to be the lack of the male gender that would set those women into place, and would shut up those gossipers. The best advice, ignore those mean spirited female.
    Wow. I hope that if you graduate your attitude toward your future co-workers will have improved.
  8. by   Keepstanding
    Quote from arhyme100
    i'm in my 50's and been an "LPN" for a long time...in the good old days when we were valued and cared about as much as our rn colleagues. at the stroke of midnight...over and over as the laws changed...we suddenly became stupider and stupider. "yesterday i knew how to hang blood but as of midnight today, i don't". these changes came about because nurses do "eat their young" and the entire health care system and the nursing profession has suffered. why? i think there is a huge insecurity issue, especially among rns, which is what made them push for such changes in the profession. now, things have changed so that rns on the floors in various facilities can hardly manage their patients, and those who really can't flee off to management and task force positions. meanwhile we've got questionable bedside care staff and overworked rn's and poor patient care. if we had stuck together and have all fulfilled our various positions within our scope of nursing, we would be a force to reckon with today. but...........look at us now
    :uhoh21: Couldn't agree with you more ! Great post !
    LPN 90
  9. by   altruism
    Greetings Stopnik,

    I love your post. You are absolutely correct, which really has affected the nursing profession. It sounds like your back in high school. I've worked over 30 years in healthcare. I've noted a decrease in work ethics and a decline in our social structure as it relates to moral and ethical issues. Much of research I've done or reviewed has shown a high percentage of nurses have low self esteem, co-dependent issues, and/or some form of addictive behavior. Not until nurses develop healthy overall attitudes and coping mechnisms, as a profession we will never grow to our fully protential. If nurses don't treat each other with respect and professionalism. How can we expect other to treat us with RESPECT.

    MERRY CHRISTMAS
  10. by   xtclass08
    not saying that they were right for tattling on you, because most likely they weren't but what exactly was it that you said? Just out of curiosity
  11. by   teeituptom
    I am as passive aggressive as anyone in the worl if not more so

    However at work I am quiet, I dont interact with my peers, I dont socialize with my peers, I hardly talk to my peers, If it doesnt concern patient care then my peers dont even exist to me. I dont gossip, I dont backstab, though I did get an A Plus in Backstabbing 101. I go to work, for 1 reason, and that is to work and take care of patients. Well maybe a second reason is so I can afford to golf. I dont eat the young nurses though they are tasty when you use Jalapeno Mustard. If you come to me with a non patient care issue, then Dont tell me, I dont want to hear it. If your spouse is an odd one, dont tell me, I wont acknowledge your existence on this planet.
    Think about it, I work only to care of patients, not my co workers. A novel approach. But anyhting else is a distraction that wastes my time and energym which could be directed at patient care or golf.
  12. by   chadash
    Quote from teeituptom
    I am as passive aggressive as anyone in the worl if not more so

    However at work I am quiet, I dont interact with my peers, I dont socialize with my peers, I hardly talk to my peers, If it doesnt concern patient care then my peers dont even exist to me. I dont gossip, I dont backstab, though I did get an A Plus in Backstabbing 101. I go to work, for 1 reason, and that is to work and take care of patients. Well maybe a second reason is so I can afford to golf. I dont eat the young nurses though they are tasty when you use Jalapeno Mustard. If you come to me with a non patient care issue, then Dont tell me, I dont want to hear it. If your spouse is an odd one, dont tell me, I wont acknowledge your existence on this planet.
    Think about it, I work only to care of patients, not my co workers. A novel approach. But anyhting else is a distraction that wastes my time and energym which could be directed at patient care or golf.
    I hear what you are saying, but would like to suggest something for your consideration. It is commendable that your focus, your total focus, is on the quality of patient care. But you can not give that care alone. Relating to other at work in a positive way many times goes beyond the bounds of "just the facts, mame". Having a positive and supportive relationship with your coworkers does impact patient care. Teamwork is a focus on a common goal (that you do all required to get the most positive outcome for your patient) but cannot totally ignore the fact that you and your coworkers are complex human beings.
    I do aggree that gossip is an absolute no no. Nothing can sabotage teamwork faster!
  13. by   lorster
    Quote from Angie O'Plasty, RN
    I would gladly leave this profession if I could find another in which I didn't have to worry about losing everything that I've ever worked for because some catty little brat took my words out of context and blew them out of proportion to my boss.

    Do people not realize that their words have power? That those words can literally destroy lives?

    I make a great target because I don't join in on the gossip. And if there's one thing I've learned, if you're not right in there with them, you get targeted.

    Give them no ammo?

    I'd love to, but it's a bit unrealistic. Coworkers follow each other and critique each others' every move throughout the day.

    This last job, I thought everyone was so nice. Then one night, I'm sitting in the back doing my charting and I hear every single one of them ripping the absent ones to absolute shreds. It was disgusting. I just wanted to walk out right then and there, and I completely lost my respect for these otherwise excellent nurses.

    I'm tired of it and I'm glad I'll be getting out soon.
    I'm with you on this one. I keep my nose to the grind. I have been at my place of employment for long enough to observe those that are tattling to the boss. And it is many of them. I would get out of this profession in a heartbeat if I could make as much elsewhere.

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