For those of you that have experienced true bullying in the work place, what would you say to your co-worker to get them to stop.
Some times nurses keep it bottled in, but if you have an opportunity with the nurse to let everything out on the table what would you say?
Nov 10, '12
by nursel56 Guide
I agree that it's hard to advise what to say because each situation is unique. I wouldn't say I was the victim of lateral violence, but bullying or a continuous attempt to exert power over your co-worker I have experienced.
In one case the person was hired as a supervisor by someone outside of nursing but higher up in the food chain. She was the insidious type who would recruit minions to validate her dysfunctional behavior so with her a direct confrontational approach would've backfired. I finally dealt with it but all they could do was offer a transfer. I left soon after for different reasons though when your bully has the ability to mess with you through their personal relationships it's more complicated.
The other was a peer who mistook my quiet nature on the job as weakness and was continuously trying to control me and get me to work the hours she couldn't and behaved as if I was her subordinate when I wasn't. I regret to say I let her treat me like a doormat for several months but with her the direct approach took care of it. She just needed some pushback. We never became good buddies, but we accommodated and were able to work together.
Anyway, that's my .002., maybe it will give you some ideas on how to advise your friend.
Last edit by nursel56 on Nov 10, '12