What She Couldn't Tell You - page 2

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We've all met this type of mom before. It's 2330, her 8 year old daughter is struggling to breathe, and you know for a fact you saw them two weeks ago for the same thing. You also know for a fact you gave her a prescription for... Read More


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    This may get me flamed, but for every story like this how many others are the parent is irresponsible and wastes money on things they don't need (drugs and alcohol) and honestly just don't care about their kids? I feel for the woman in the story, but these are also the consequences of her actions, who she chose to have a child with. There are people who can help, services set up for her and her kid, but to do nothing condones the actions of the abuser. And a felon being drunk with a gun is a perfect time to have the cops called on him for his third strike.
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    Quote from SionainnRN
    This may get me flamed, but for every story like this how many others are the parent is irresponsible and wastes money on things they don't need (drugs and alcohol) and honestly just don't care about their kids? I feel for the woman in the story, but these are also the consequences of her actions, who she chose to have a child with. There are people who can help, services set up for her and her kid, but to do nothing condones the actions of the abuser. And a felon being drunk with a gun is a perfect time to have the cops called on him for his third strike.
    Definitely. If my husband is drunk in the car with a gun, I sure as heck am not putting my daughter back in with him so he can kill all three of us. The first thing I would do would be say something and get the cops over there. I have no sympathy for people who actively endanger their children and themselves.
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    ^^ get some more training on domestic violence. She is a prisoner. That's why we must actively and persistently yet approachably screen for it.
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    Very powerful message in this "story". Good read, thank you for sharing.
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    Quote from canigraduate
    Definitely. If my husband is drunk in the car with a gun, I sure as heck am not putting my daughter back in with him so he can kill all three of us. The first thing I would do would be say something and get the cops over there. I have no sympathy for people who actively endanger their children and themselves.
    I hope you never have to encounter domestic violence. I agree with RNmo she is a prisoner. Did you know that it takes a woman several times to successfully disengage from the abuser? Did you know that when the victim finally does leave that is when she is in the most danger?

    I keep referring to the victim as a female and that is wrong of me because there are men out there who are abused.

    What if you were that nurse that could help someone who was being abused? You have already failed the person because you have no sympathy.
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    Quote from SionainnRN
    This may get me flamed, but for every story like this how many others are the parent is irresponsible and wastes money on things they don't need (drugs and alcohol) and honestly just don't care about their kids? I feel for the woman in the story, but these are also the consequences of her actions, who she chose to have a child with. There are people who can help, services set up for her and her kid, but to do nothing condones the actions of the abuser. And a felon being drunk with a gun is a perfect time to have the cops called on him for his third strike.
    Not every state has the three strikes law...in fact only about half of them do.

    What do you think is going to happen to mom and child when the abuser gets out? As another poster stated, the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is after she leaves. Don't you think she would if she could? It seems some nursing programs need to step up their education on domestic violence. In each hospital I have worked in, every single patient is asked about domestic violence upon assessment in the ER...I would hope that ER staff would have adequate training and education on the topic.

    OP- your post was heart-breakingly beautiful. Keep up the writing.
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    Quote from dncnontheclouds
    This was powerful and a very good reminder! Thank you for posting I wish there was a way for me to share it
    If you're on a computer (not sure for phones), there's a bar on the right side of the screen where you can share threads on various social media sites.
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    Quote from sapphire18
    Not every state has the three strikes law...in fact only about half of them do. What do you think is going to happen to mom and child when the abuser gets out? As another poster stated, the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is after she leaves. Don't you think she would if she could? It seems some nursing programs need to step up their education on domestic violence. In each hospital I have worked in, every single patient is asked about domestic violence upon assessment in the ER...I would hope that ER staff would have adequate training and education on the topic. OP- your post was heart-breakingly beautiful. Keep up the writing.
    Yes we have screening but we can only help the people that help themselves by asking for help. So it's better for her and her child to stay in such dangerous situations? Then there's no point in domestic violence shelters? We can't force people to get help but saying how brave she is and what a great mother she is is just bull. The good and brave mother gets her child out if that situation and doesn't let her grow up seeing her mom used as a punching bag.
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    Having endured an abusive marriage, I can totally relate to this story. Fortunately, we didn't have any children. It is extremely difficult to leave an abuser & feel safe doing so. You ARE a prisoner. I was not allowed to have friends or visit my family on a regular basis. When he hit me, he was very careful not to leave bruises where others could see. I was allowed to go to work & come home. Period.

    The abuser convinces you that no one else will ever want you so he's the only one you can depend on. It is a horrible situation to be in. I thank God every day that I was able to get out of that marriage alive & get the help I needed. Not everyone is that lucky.
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    Very powerful. Thank you . I find myself judging and I feel guilty afterwards. Especially in the emergency room there is alot of judgment passed.
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