This is a very toxic Environment! - page 2
by MoriahRoseRN 2,693 Views | 13 Comments
I've been working on this floor for about two months (I am a new grad). There is so much back stabbing and back biting I feel like I am working in a common cesspool. The nurses take turns talking about other nurses that are not... Read More
- 0Aug 17, '07 by TweetyQuote from MoriahRoseRNGood luck to you. I hope this works for you and in the long run you find some peace. I agree a stick it out attitude is what you should try for now. Those kinds of toxic environments can be dreadful.I am moving my focus from my co-workers to solely my work performance and the needs of my patients. Tough skin, a sound mind and lots of praying is the only thing that is going to get me through the rough spots. Thanks for the advice.
As a charge nurse I know that people are going to talk about me. Today a coworker was unhappy with me and my ears were burning with the gossip. That doesn't bother me. I don't go to work to socialize, but I can't work in a toxic environment either. There has to be some positive rapport with most of my coworkers for me to show up day after day. Sometimes we have to know when to leave because dispite what some of the others might say about nursing, not all environments are toxic. Are people going to gossip? Heck yes they are, people are human and humans talk about one another.
- 0Aug 17, '07 by sistasoulQuote from cweeksthat is very sad abouth the baskets. that makes me cry that people can be so mean to one another. i am an aide on a cardiac floor and plan on spreading a team attitude when i become a nurse in may of 2008 (god willing).wow,
i work in an er.
when i was hired as a tech, brought from a rehab unit of the hospital that had shut down, i was not a welcomed member,at the time...
i was one of three that was brought in the ed, and was never formerly trained, but just learned on the job from day to day, by asking many questions, and trying to be as brave as possible.
nobody would say hello to me,
i was expected to know on the fly everything a tech should know of 10 years exp.
i worked every holiday, did all the jobs nobody wanted and went home exausted!
not to mention the abuse from the rn's as well as my fellow techs.
i remember my 1st christmas,
there were gift baskets with gifts for all the staff to take, but i noticed that my name and another staff member, who was an rn were scratched off the list that had been placed in the basket.
i was so mad i took a gift for my friend john, and told him here was his gift, he was not to allowed have, and i also took mine.
i started to learn my place in the dept.
i learned to hold my head up high, because i was learning so much, while i was going to nursing school full time.
after 1 year of being there, can you belive there was nobody who passed me in the hall without saying hello.
yes, i was treated badly, but i did not dwell on it because i knew i always did an excellent job, and patients gave me the satisfaction to go on, because they would praise me.
yes there was much negativity and back biting and favoritism, but i focused on the big picture.
i kept thinking maybe my positive attitiude, and my desire to learn and practiced what i learned, would help others.
tward the end of my schooling, we had a large turn-around, masses of rn's were leaving, even the old ones that were there forever were moving to toher departments.
we started getting a higher rating in our ed, and negative talk was frowned upon.
i am now an rn in that same ed, with some different faces, and many that are the same.
i have made friends, but no enemies so far.
i love where i work, and hope it will continue to evolve.
i found to not talk about others.
look at the best side of the person, and try to overlook the neg.
make friends, not enemies.
fight for what you think is right.
do not let anyone put you down you are the only one that will allow that to happen.
find safe friends to vent to in private.
learn to be a leader, never ask anyone to do something you would not do yourself.
be the good example
that way we can better control your little corner of the world.
i'm not saying that i changed my place of work, but i do feel my positive attitude helped me cope.
i'm just happy that it started to become a better place, and now they are changing their way of thinking when hiring new employees into the dept. that are positive.
thank you god
- 1Aug 17, '07 by november17Here is a lesson I learned early on as a nurse aide in a similar toxic workplace-
See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil.
If you hear other nurses badmouthing someone, go out of earshot because you don't need to be sitting there listening to it. If you ever have the urge to badmouth someone, keep it to yourself and bite your tongue. If you hear people talking about someone, don't mention it to the person that is being badmouthed/gossiped about - Nothing good will come of it.
You will avoid a LOT of problems that way.
I had a nurse that doesn't work very often ask me the other day, "Why is the deal with Coworker X? Everyone is always talking smack about her." I halfjokingly said, "it is my official policy to not discuss that kind of stuff!!" I left it at that.
People respect that.
Just stay above it, and don't worry too much about what your coworkers think. If it truely hurts your feelings, be cordial and professional in your dealings with them but leave it at that. You are the better person!
And don't underestimate people's motives either! I used to work with a nurse who would purposely and untruthfully tell people that other people were talking about them. Just because she was a huge jerk. She'd blow stuff out of proportion. If I said, "Sue must be tired today, because she's going slow" that nurse would go to Sue and say, "Hey November551 was just saying that you are lazy and shove all your work on the other aides." It really didn't make any sense why she was like that. That's just what she did, day in and day out. Eventually everyone more or less learned to ignore her but at first it caused a lot of problems. Obviously I probably should have just kept my mouth shut in the first place, but it was all part of the learning experience.Last edit by november17 on Aug 18, '07
- 0Aug 19, '07 by 1studentnurseI agree with november and cweeks. I do also believe that work environments with a lot of women can get too catty. I worked in a reverse situation (more men than women) and I liked it more sometimes because of the lack of cattiness. Not lack of meanness, mind you, but less cattiness. Mean men are just as bad as catty women. One of them was my boss. I got him back by doing a bang up job and getting lots of compliments from our customers that he could not avoid. I also got a new job not long after that and never said a word about him trying to hire someone in to replace me.
I love writing goodbye notes. It's one way to prove you are a class act. At one of my jobs, I had several people come up to me and say, "That was the best adios letter I have ever seen."
I go to work with the attitude that I can do my job and learn something every day. Part of my job is getting patients motivated to go to therapy, participate and get well. Nobody has a good day every day, but you should at least make an attempt. One day builds on another and why not build something nice you can look back on later instead of a dung heap?
I am all for leaving toxic environments when required. No job should cause you to get an ulcer. If it does, it's time for a new job.Last edit by 1studentnurse on Aug 19, '07