Have you received memorable cards and gifts from patients and families that made your day? I have always loved to see the cards, flowers, etc that people will send after our patients go home. Especially I like a progress report that shows our caring made a difference!
We may feel like "just another provider" but when we get a little thanks or recognition, for example, "The best unit my mom has been on" etc., it just helps ease the pain of the trials we face and feeling unappreciated.
I know we aren't supposed to take gifts but my supervisor once made an exception. I was caring for a lady in a nursing home and she passed away. Her family gave me a special watch that was made with abelone shell, it was gorgeous. They just liked how I had cared for her in her last days.
This is something that says "thanks" to all of us - and from some of us, to you. It is written as if people with disabilities might have written it, but it seems to apply to any of our nursing experiences:
BEATITUDES FOR SPECIAL PEOPLE
BLESSED ARE YOU who take time to listen to difficult speech, for you
help us to know that if we persevere we can be understood.
BLESSED ARE YOU who walk with us in public places, and ignore the
stares of strangers, for in your friendship we feel good to be
BLESSED ARE YOU who never bid us to "hurry up" and, more blessed,
you who do not snatch our tasks from our hands to do them for us,
for often we need time rather than help.
BLESSED ARE YOU who stand beside us as we enter new and untried
ventures, for our unsureness will be outweighed by the times when we
surprise ourselves and you.
BLESSED ARE YOU who ask for our help and realize our giftedness, for
our greatest need is to be needed.
BLESSED ARE YOU who help us with the graciousness of Christ, for
often we need the help we cannot ask for.
BLESSED ARE YOU when, by all things, you assure us that what makes
us individuals is not our particular disability or difficulty but
our beautiful God-given personhood which no handicapping condition
REJOICE AND BE EXCEEDINGLY GLAD for your understanding and love have
opened doors for us to enjoy life to its full and you have helped us
believe in ourselves as valued and gifted people.
Jul 5, '06
One of my first patient's to pass away had been a nurse herself. Her daughter was unable to get a flight out in time to be at the bedside. I used a cell phone to call her daughter and then put the phone to my patient's ear so her daughter could say goodbye to her mother. Although my patient was on 100's of mcg's of Neo, maxed on dopamine and vasopressin and only had a BP of 60/30, she was responsive enough to shed tears while listening to her daughter talk (patient was on a ventilator and unable to talk).
I didn't get a chance to meet the daughter then, but I attended the memorial service for my patient. Turns out, she had been a nurse in my rather small community for 40 years and was well loved by everyone. She was also a nursing instructor at my school a few years prior to me attending and she had trained my stepson's school nurse. I was fortunate enough to meet the daughter that had spoken to her mother via cell phone, we hugged and cried. I ended up saying a few words during the service and felt a weight lifted off my shoulders after learning about what a terrific lady she was and what a full life she led.
Months go by and just a few weeks ago, I find a package in my mailbox at work. I open it up to find 2 stethoscopes and a small gold chain with a gold charm on the end that says, "RN". The card inside states that it's from the patient's daughter, the stethoscopes and necklace belonged to her mother while she had been a nurse and she felt her mother would be honored for me to have them. She wore the necklace everyday of her career as a nurse. I was so touched that this woman remembered me while going through her mother's belongings. Although I have my own "RN" necklace very similar to the one given to me, I will keep hers and should my stepdaughter decide to become a nurse, I will proudly hand it over on her graduation day. If not, then someday, when I am a patient and I have an incredible, caring nurse, I will pass it down along with the story of how it came to be.
Melanie = )
Last edit by LilRedRN1973 on Oct 22, '06